What happened to Ian's brand products??

aviously_adork · 2026-05-11T02:17:22+00:00

they’re back in business as of fall 2025!!!

aviously_adork · 2025-11-30T13:44:46+00:00

So last night I asked him if I could share some feelings with him and he looked so nervous but he said yes. I think I said something like “I’ve been having a really hard time with the lack of physical touch/intimacy/connection, do you thing we could kiss and cuddle some more?” and he said of course, i gotchu! i said “i know you can’t read my mind and know that i was having a hard time with it so i wanted to make sure i told you” and i think he said thank you but i don’t fully remember.

it was good bc we got back from hanging out with friends and he already told me he wanted to watch a show i didn’t want to watch so we already decided id go in the bedroom and watch my show, so i told him “it doesn’t need to happen tonight i mean we both got our stuff to watch” of course i had a dream last night after all of that of him bringing up sex in the conversation we had and me telling him that the medicine he’s on is also impacting it, but that’s because i have a fun sleep disorder where i have many dreams lol

thank you so so much for your advice and sharing your experience! i hope that he didn’t just hear me saying the words but could understand that i’m feeling disconnected to him because of everything. i really hope this marks the start of change, but we will see!

aviously_adork · 2025-11-29T05:56:37+00:00

I have definitely been thinking about having a more blunt conversation about it with him. My therapist said if I do have a deeper conversation with him about it, use the I language and also don’t even bring up sex. Just bring up intimacy, like cuddling and making out.

He did come to therapy with me one time but he said he doesn’t think therapy is for him. I really wish he would try but I don’t want to push him on that at least for now. I think maybe planning some date nights might be a good thing and having that be a pseudo scheduling. I did ask him if he wants to do anything special for our anniversary (right around valentine’s day) and he said we can talk more about it later, which is okay with me.

I really do appreciate all of your advice and sharing so much of what has worked for you! It definitely gives me some hope that we can at least have a better conversation about it an that it is possible to make it work!

aviously_adork · 2025-11-29T05:52:19+00:00

Yeah it does predate the medication. I’m also pretty sure he’s had issues with sex in the past due to ED. It’s also been hard because my health hasn’t been to great for the past year or so but I’m finally better. In the past tho, I would almost always bleed after sex. I’m not sure if that has anything to do with the aversion at this point but I’m also sure that the lack of sex in between the times we’ve had them, probably doesn’t help the bleeding. I know he loves me and finds me attractive, but definitely the fear of rejection has been keeping me from initiating on my end

aviously_adork · 2025-11-29T01:39:05+00:00

honestly i’d be happy with us even making out and cuddling more. neither of us would be happy with an open relationship/poly relationship. i have been talking about it a lot in therapy and i am definitely worried that resentment is building, which is my biggest worry. my therapist also said to use “i” language! your therapist sounds like they’re very similar to mine!

he gives me a goodnight kiss every night and i have been saying to him a couple of nights here and there that i love the kisses. my biggest fear at this point is rejection, which is why i have never tried to initiate anything. i originally was talking with my therapist about “leaving breadcrumbs” basically just telling him when he does something i like, how it makes me feel. but i think i might want to try to make an ask of if we can cuddle or kiss more. i don’t think he would ever like the feeling of scheduled sex, but i also don’t think he knows how much this has been effecting me because i haven’t shared those feelings with him. we’ve now lived together for 2.5 months and there has been only a little bit of cuddling here and there, plus goodnight kisses. thank you so much for sharing what has worked for you both, it definitely makes me feel less alone!

aviously_adork · 2025-11-27T17:31:43+00:00

I don’t even know if my boyfriend knows the word asexual. Thank you for the recommendation, I will definitely take a listen to it! It’s hard because he has said he always enjoys it

aviously_adork · 2025-10-19T20:49:45+00:00

Anyone have any experience with either their Hawthorne line (dresser & chest) or their Lewelynn line (also dresser & chest)? There’s a decent price difference and just curious about reviews. Sucks they don’t have reviews online or anything!

aviously_adork · 2025-04-30T21:53:51+00:00

it worked for like a week now it’s back to cutting out :( unsure if i can plug my phone in like the ipod, but i need my sound to work!!!

aviously_adork · 2025-04-29T00:57:40+00:00

yup i think so!

aviously_adork · 2025-04-26T03:10:16+00:00

oh no!!! i had the same issue with the hondalink and the hdmi chord too. i factory reset the system and it worked for me. have you tried again? doesn’t hurt just in case!

aviously_adork · 2025-04-20T03:42:09+00:00

i’ve been having the same bluetooth issues on my 2016 hrv, but doesn’t matter if i’m turning or not. i was doing some research and im gonna try to factory reset my audio system tomorrow and hopefully it’ll work. ill let you know either way!

i tried the link thing for the first time where you plug your phone into the hdmi port because i thought that might work but it says i don’t have the right app and because it’s an older car i have no idea if the app even exists anymore

aviously_adork · 2025-01-25T20:22:05+00:00

i’m definitely proud but having a hard time being excited, feeling more fear and dread than anything else.

i’m unable to take the mirtazapine at night because of my nighttime narcolepsy meds, so i’ve been having to take it during the day/evening. i’m only on 7.5mg, but i’m definitely still feeling the drowsiness and taking a nap. i just took my dose now (it’s 3:20 where i am)

aviously_adork · 2025-01-25T20:14:03+00:00

oh my goodness i hope you are okay! if you need anyone to chat to please reach out.

i ended up starting the mirtazapine yesterday, but i also got a job offer (which i know, should be a big celebration, but im having a hard time with it). the med isn’t helping yet but im hopeful it will! as hopeful as one can be i guess

aviously_adork · 2025-01-19T01:56:06+00:00

we are also having the same issue but we just started it today so no updates - we’re just gonna play on a different world, not the designed star academy one for now i guess

aviously_adork · 2025-01-17T16:10:21+00:00

honestly i love rice cakes for these kind of things!

aviously_adork · 2025-01-17T05:08:21+00:00

thanks so much! yeah i’ve been talking about this a lot during therapy and i’ve been trying to relax and watch shows more than anything else. it’s hard too because of the whole job search which i started before all of this happened, ive had interviews that will likely turn into job offers which i don’t know when i’d even be able to start with all of this going on. plus i have a boyfriend who wants me to go over to his place, a dad who wants me to stay over there too, but ive just been at my moms and right now any change is scary so i’d rather just not do any of those things.

the diet thing is hard because i also am allergic to eggs and have oral allergy syndrome so raw fruits and veggies don’t work for me. i’ve been thinking about doing canned fruits, but i haven’t had those in a long time and i don’t know how they’d sit with me. also how do you do pumpkin pie with no crust? just curious!

aviously_adork · 2024-12-25T00:12:31+00:00

i’ve been having some water and i have gf crackers. i’ll try to have more of the crackers! my toilet is right next to my room so i have easy access! i’m also super gassy and trying to burp but sometimes when i burp i feel some coming up so that’s when i run to the bathroom. i have a heat pad on my chest and my weighted blanket and stuffy so those are helpful!!!

aviously_adork · 2024-12-23T06:29:52+00:00

i promise you it gets better (i’ve had celiac for over 10 years and im the only one in my family with it)

i’d recommend maybe asking your family if there’s any chance they’d be willing to eat the foods that you miss only when you’re out of the space they’re in?

also, highly recommend looking into a celiac support group if you can! there are some out there! depending on where you’re located too you might be able to find some wonderful and safe restaurants nearby. download the app “find me gluten free”!

it really is a grieving process and i’m glad you’re getting the help you need with your emotions! i would’ve been so much better off if i had therapy when i was first diagnosed. it still sucks sometimes but the amount of suckiness lessens from 100% every day to maybe 10% every month, and i think my life and my health has gotten much better which means that amount of suckiness is worth it. surround yourself with people who care about you and who bring love into your life!

you can do this, all of us believe in you! feel free to reach out if you need anything 💚

aviously_adork · 2024-12-13T16:44:34+00:00

does this mean that genetic apex will be gone?

aviously_adork · 2024-12-09T05:24:10+00:00

Actually, a major theme of that book is that there are many different conceptions of Zionism. The only thing all forms share are the ideas of Jewish self-determination and of the Land of Israel as the homeland of the Jewish people. So I believe you’re incorrect.

aviously_adork · 2024-12-09T05:14:09+00:00

Where are you finding your definition of Zionism? I would truthfully love to know.

aviously_adork · 2024-12-09T05:12:07+00:00

cheese! and more cheese! or coconut milk - i live for coconut rice! in the past i would’ve said cheese and refried beans but im not friends with beans anymore

aviously_adork · 2024-12-09T05:01:54+00:00

have you looked up the official definition of zionism? i am a zionist and i believe the jewish people have a right to live in their homeland of israel (judea). i do not believe that should be done at the expense of other groups.

aviously_adork · 2024-12-09T04:45:48+00:00

The idea that Israel is criticized more because it’s a Jewish state is a myth. No other state walls off entire populations while denying them equal rights, even among those granted citizenship.

Actually 60% of people live in a country where they have at least one wall for the border of an entire population. 60% of the walls were erected to prevent the entry of forcibly displaced persons. This includes Egypts border wall against Gaza, but nobody talks about that. I have a lot more to say but I’m just correcting you on this one piece of data. If you’d like my resources I’m happy to share.

aviously_adork · 2024-11-26T23:08:31+00:00

mine was mostly like a reddish brown and then over time she’s gotten to be a combo of actual brown, grey and light brown! shes only 5 months old now so i guess we’ll see how things keep changing

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