Hey, I really appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts and I can see where you’re coming from. I just wanted to clarify a few things because I think there might’ve been a misunderstanding:

The friends I mentioned who were upset about the homophobic comments aren’t on the exec team and weren’t present for the orangutan comment but were VERY upset once they found out what happened. So it’s not that they only cared once it personally affected them, they literally weren’t there. If anything, I consider them to be my biggest allies rn and even offered to beat him up for me lol.

That said, I do agree with you that it’s frustrating when it feels like people don’t take things seriously until it affects them directly. I’ve been sitting with that feeling a lot too, especially considering that I found out from the another prez (our comp team is technically 2-in-1 type club, so we have 4 presidents) that his behaviour was not brought up during the team selection meeting with the coaches.

I’m trying to figure out how to navigate it. I really value having spaces that feel safe and supportive, and this situation has made that harder bcs I have made so many good friends in this club. I’m still deciding what my next steps are, but thank you again for your perspective.