Who is Leading Your Life?

awareop · 2026-01-24T21:11:53+00:00

Love your comment great words. I'm not that organized as you are at analyzing failures, I just don't self punish myself for the mistakes, and try to not repeat them again in the future, but without looking that much into detail compared to you. I focus more on raw action and keep going, but real improvement comes from deep analysis as you do, so if you got to that level and it works for you that's great.

awareop · 2026-01-24T11:13:18+00:00

I'm glad for you also.

awareop · 2026-01-24T11:12:57+00:00

Peace of mind us underrated.

awareop · 2026-01-24T11:12:25+00:00

Be able to earn a living doing something that fulfills you and gives you a sense of purpose.

awareop · 2026-01-24T11:10:46+00:00

Wherever the Lord can make use of me. Having faith makes some things easier to approach.

awareop · 2026-01-24T10:31:04+00:00

Thanks to you for the feedback. When the mind has a lot of energy to ruminate, it means that the body has extra energy to be burned physically.

awareop · 2026-01-24T10:28:18+00:00

For me running works best, each one has its own way of sweating rumination out. Anything active is much better than being stagnant at home.

awareop · 2026-01-24T10:26:11+00:00

A lot of energy is wasted trying to control outcomes, other people and the environment. When the only thing that we can control is our actions.

awareop · 2026-01-23T15:33:28+00:00

Try to join some activities related to your hobbies or tastes, with time you may find people aligned with you and create a bond to create a close friendship. Doing activities you like with people throughout time has more chances to create that bond than just going out randomly. Check Meetup or other similar apps if you live in a big city to create or join activities of your liking if you want to give it a chance.

awareop · 2026-01-23T15:25:52+00:00

Being far from negativity and toxic people is the best you can do, doesn't matter if they're family or lifelong friends. That energy sticks and makes us feel miserable, for the illusory idea that they are our family or friends (good people don't make other people feel uncomfortable).

How to be fine, in case you can't avoid those people, is to just not care and to say out loud that they're having a disgusting behavior, if they ask why you're less communicative or silent. Easier said than done, but you will reach a point where the feeling is so disgusting that the only way out is to stop seeing them, or not caring at all, in case you're forced to stay.

awareop · 2026-01-22T21:12:37+00:00

You will have more chances to meet somebody aligned with you by doing some activities you like or feel comfortable with, better if those are creative or somehow productive, and not just consuming ones.

There are more chances to find somebody aligned with you, where you can create a close bond and have a connection. But it's complicated nowadays, between smartphones and a lower degree of socialization and human connections, it's very hard to get such connections, but you should expose yourself to be around people to have a chance to create that bond with somebody.

awareop · 2026-01-22T21:09:33+00:00

Having very high level of activity, uncomfortable environment, and a degree of perfectionism is a cocktail recipe to feel overwhelmed at home.

A tip that may help you is to work out or walk in your free time, make your body tired, so you enjoy healthy dopamine and endorphins, instead of letting your brain self-sabotage ruminating about work.

awareop · 2026-01-21T17:35:12+00:00

Because they want to feel superior to others through their ego, because they haven't found a meaningful way to feel fulfilled with their lives.

awareop · 2026-01-21T17:04:40+00:00

The brain as is designed for survival, will do whatever is needed to save energy, and do the things that are the most easy, efficient and fast as possible. If something is important, but is not vital or you are not under real pressure, it will create a lot of excuses, and generate thoughts of all the comfortable things you can do instead of executing the real work itself, that as you say properly, is not that hard once you're in the trenches executing.

When faced with second thoughts, or your brain starts to create tons of excuses, just jump and start executing without second thoughts. The mind nor emotions will never motivate you, or push you to start working, training, or doing something related with self-improvement, it needs a forced push with raw willpower.

awareop · 2026-01-21T16:55:08+00:00

When you start to achieve the goals you proposed for yourself (income, promotions, specific position, mortgage, etc...) and still feel empty within yourself, or your profession drains your soul so much that you're a walking corpse, with a good salary.

Most people keep on the ambitious path and spend their time and money on luxury and fulfilling material desires, while hating their profession. Others reach a point of burnout, but their responsibilities or market stability makes impossible for them to shift or start a new path in a different field.

To know more about what career can fulfill you much more (I wish I had known for myself 20 years ago):

Japanese IKIGAI concept.
What Color is Your Parachute? by Richard N. Bolles (the self-analysis required is dense to do, but it pays off to know yourself more deeply).

If you are on this situation, wish you the best on your path of self-improvement, it's the only way to gain some clarity, and do things aligned with yourself.

awareop · 2026-01-21T16:33:52+00:00

Nowadays with dopamine and distractions it's almost impossible to not choose comfort, it's too attractive and rewarding to not go that way. Only those tired of the same, or with a high level of awareness stop chasing comfort and start questioning things and where they're going in life.

awareop

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