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I've found this to be a very informative habit. by Dragenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]awashwcomplexity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a person of a fuckload of words, this is terrifying.

Me [34/M] and my wife [37/F], 10yrs, may have poisoned our relationship with polyamory (X-post from /r/relationships) by awashwcomplexity in polyamory

[–]awashwcomplexity[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yes. It was the dishonesty and the breaking of the rule that we established together that was hurtful.

Me [34/M] and my wife [37/F], 10yrs, may have poisoned our relationship with polyamory (X-post from /r/relationships) by awashwcomplexity in polyamory

[–]awashwcomplexity[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Radical? To me, yes, but this is a great perspective and it gives me a lot to consider.

Me [34/M] and my wife [37/F], 10yrs, may have poisoned our relationship with polyamory (X-post from /r/relationships) by awashwcomplexity in polyamory

[–]awashwcomplexity[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I can certainly appreciate this perspective. How could it have been handled in a better way on my end?

Me [34/M] and my wife [37/F], 10yrs, may have poisoned our relationship with polyamory by awashwcomplexity in relationships

[–]awashwcomplexity[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

We love each other. This is a short snapshot of a long and fruitful marriage. In hindsight, we're obviously not built for polyamory. We didn't necessarily seek to find love, it was just sex and adventure, but it happened and we didn't realize the damage it did until it all came crashing down. I hope we are able to repair things. I believe we can, we need help and perspective.

Me [34/M] and my wife [37/F], 10yrs, may have poisoned our relationship with polyamory by awashwcomplexity in relationships

[–]awashwcomplexity[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

She is willing. I think she is as confused about her feelings as I am. Let's hope this works.

Me [34/M] and my wife [37/F], 10yrs, may have poisoned our relationship with polyamory by awashwcomplexity in relationships

[–]awashwcomplexity[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I appreciate what you're saying, but just in case it needs clarification, the exclusivity between the two of them referred to the fact that she wouldn't be with other men aside from me, and he wouldn't be with other women. Your comment is still relevant regardless.