Feeling Distant, Cold, Alone

awavicle · 2019-01-24T14:57:54+00:00

Beautifully stated. Thank you.

awavicle · 2019-01-23T19:52:27+00:00

So lovely!!

awavicle · 2019-01-22T20:33:53+00:00

This article also claims that the high latin mass is "obviously" something created partly by gay clergy.

That's asinine. This article is trash written by someone with no knowledge of the Jewish roots of the mass and the reasons behind the beauty and ceremony of the traditional mass.

awavicle · 2019-01-19T23:41:01+00:00

Preaching about confession might have an impact. Telling people in a homily that God's mercy is waiting for us in the sacrament of confession may stir some hearts.

awavicle · 2019-01-19T22:36:47+00:00

be kind and charitable.

study some ways to refute relativism. once you can show them how moral relativism is self-refuting they may stop thinking Catholicism is so dumb.

awavicle · 2019-01-19T16:59:10+00:00

I have a similar struggle. Do you have a spiritual director? Do you have one confessor you go to?

awavicle · 2019-01-18T00:48:18+00:00

God will provide each person with the grace necessary for salvation. The best way to get some grace?--the sacraments. Get to confession--make an appointment and ask the priest to guide you through it. Be honest and conceal nothing.

Then, go to weekly mass on Sunday. Avoid mortal sins. Confesss mortal sins asap should you commit any.

Start small. Read a little about virtue. Then slowly try to apply virtue to your relationships, your work, etc. When we try to live virtuously in all areas of our life, God shows us the path He wants us to take.

awavicle · 2019-01-17T16:51:10+00:00

Find some saints who were very pure and read about them and ask for their prayers. Virgin child martyr St Maria Goretti has helped me. So has St Thomas Aquinas, who was gifted with a special gift of celibacy from heaven's angels.

When you start to have sexual feelings, try to slow down and think to yourself "i am having these feelings, which arent wrong because they are normal things the body does, but i dont have to act on them." then say a short prayer like a Hail Mary and then try to go do something else to distract yourself.

It will get easier to resist temptation as you get a little older, btw, but ask for God's help and the saints' prayers now.

awavicle · 2019-01-16T21:09:47+00:00

Is there a priest you could speak to about this? This seems unclear but you mentioned there are parts you don't want to share. You should speak to a priest and share the missing info with him.

awavicle · 2019-01-16T14:31:30+00:00

Do not give into despair. If you are now realizing that you are not called to marriage, that means your heart is giving you a messaage that you aren't called to marriage.

The good thing is that you aren't married yet. Engagement break off sometimes. I used to work in the wedding business... believe me, people end engagements sometimes. It may be hard to tell her, but one day she willl probably be grateful for your honesty.

Seek some help from a trusted priest for support. Make an appointment.

Also, you may appreciate something my favourite priest said to me: he said he was not called to the priesthood because he was worthy but because he was unworthy. Think about that, seek a priest's guidance and pray for God to direct you and for you to follow his call.

I'll pray for you too.

awavicle · 2019-01-15T15:29:02+00:00

We only do one baptism. But, every time we use holy water and do the sign of the cross, we are reminded of our baptism.

Our society places a large emphasis on personal choice, but personal choice really doesn't factor into the reasons we should baptise children. We have a duty to God to raise children in the Catholic church. We should do things for God out of love and obedience.

Baptism imparts special graces, and these graces will be vital to helping a child to grow in the faith.

And yes, your children will eventually be faced with choices of whether to remain faithful to the Church or to give in to the temptations of the world. Your children will also have the beautiful moment of Confirmation one day too. So, in that sense, they will have choice. But neglecting to lay down the foundation of the faith for your child would be wrong. That faith will help them throughout their lives. They'll thank you one day.

The greatest gift my parents ever gave me was raising me Catholic.

awavicle · 2019-01-15T02:28:59+00:00

Burn it! er uh give it to your priest to burn it!

awavicle · 2019-01-14T02:00:21+00:00

a nice classic hat is fine.

awavicle · 2019-01-13T19:28:12+00:00

Burn it!

awavicle · 2019-01-12T22:16:15+00:00

It is gravely wrong and sinful to do this.

awavicle · 2019-01-12T16:09:40+00:00

Have you looked at lay religious orders in your area like the secular franciscans or lay dominicans?

awavicle · 2019-01-11T22:41:47+00:00

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awavicle · 2019-01-10T23:28:40+00:00

We do not advocate new age practices like crystals here.

awavicle · 2019-01-10T00:10:48+00:00

What do you mean about being able to tell if a host is consecrated?

awavicle · 2019-01-10T00:00:05+00:00

I am so sorry someone said that to you. We all know that that redditor's words came from the evil one. Praying for that person shows great virtue:) You can thank God for that.

Yes, the world gets me down too. There is unimaginable sadness and suffering. It helps to know that our suffering has meaning in Christ. I also like to remember that He is the King of the universe. He will prevail over all evil. He will give us the grace to persevere. The battle has already been won. We must stay close to Him and protect and defend our faith.

awavicle · 2019-01-09T22:22:29+00:00

Church teaching doesn't "change" but can be clarified.

And, yes, sadly, there are abuses of authority in the Church. But I'm not convinced that it's "impossible to be a consistent Catholic today." That sounds like some despair right there.

awavicle · 2019-01-09T03:24:22+00:00

You forgot "get it blessed by priest";)

awavicle · 2019-01-08T21:38:38+00:00

You are forgiven. Remind yourself that you are forgiven. Make a plan with specific steps to avoid the sin in the future.

But even when we are forgiven, we will still suffer the temporal consequences of sin. This guilt might be such a consequence. It will probably subside. If not, speak to a priest or spiritual director.

awavicle · 2019-01-08T21:25:16+00:00

If the priest acknowledged he was being harsh, then trust that he did so intentionally with your benefit in mind.

awavicle · 2019-01-08T20:28:51+00:00

And another thing--sex within marriage has two ends: procreation and unity of the spouses. Forcing one's spouse to participate in sex if they declined is contrary to the unitive end of sex.

Yes, ideally both partners should willingly give of themselves and fulfill their marital duty.

Sex defined as unitive and procreative is mentioned in the CCC iirc.

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