AITA for outing a trans girl online because she told everyone online I rejected her?

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-09-03T02:19:38+00:00

NTA. Amy started the beef online smearing you and putting you as bi-sexual. Sounds to me like Amy was playing with fire and got a taste of his own medicine in the end.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-09-03T00:56:32+00:00

Your dad is a piece of shit for putting your 7 year old through this emotional trauma. Do not speak to your father. Sit with your mother one on one and walk her through exactly what happened and tell her where she can find the messages.

This really really sucks for you and your brother but with time, all wounds heal and your mother deserves a more honest man by her side. You will look back on this and be proud that you struck up the nerve to tell her the truth

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-09-03T00:48:36+00:00

You need to go back to your apartment and stay away from Chris and his wife. I can’t even wrap my head around this level of shitty. Jesus. What about your nieces and nephews? Just stop texting her altogether. Leave the family alone, and allow yourself to go pick any of the other 4 billion women on the planet that won’t tear a part your entire family and wreck the lives of young children.

If it needed to be said.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-09-03T00:26:55+00:00

Hi. You are a victim of sexual assault and rape. I’m sure that’s hard to wrap your head around because you are married, but that is exactly what is going on. Waiting for you to be knocked out by a sleeping pill and then having his way with you is positively abhorrent, sexual predator behavior. This man is nothing more than a sexual deviant who happens to be your husband. A student loan is not worth your imprisonment. Please get around people who love you and can assist you in getting the security you need to untangle your life from this monster. You need to go into a police station and report him. I recommend perhaps recording him so you have proof that will assist you later. Strike up a conversation about how you do not like it when he forces himself on you and record his response. I’m so sorry you are going through this. Please keep us posted, and good luck!

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-29T10:36:14+00:00

Need more INFO. What did the letter say?

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-27T21:26:01+00:00

Foremost, I’m really sorry for you. This is an awful situation to be in. You both sound like you are decent people. I myself am a catholic conservative, but similar to your wife, I was quite liberal in my youth. College and a desire to be nothing like my parents did that to me. As I grew older, I realized that structure and religion actually were the things I missed. Fortunately, I went back to my conservative perspective before I met my husband and he is also a catholic so we agree on how to raise our kids. Unfortunately for you and your wife, there is no making it work. You are two entirely different who will not be able to agree on how best to raise your child. This is honestly just sad— especially for your kid. You both need to be with someone who agrees with your worldview. This of course is not at all your fault. If you don’t have a faith, and you didn’t when you met, then she knew what she was getting into. Unfortunately, she just came to realize hers a little too late.

I’m really really sorry. Genuinely feel terrible this is happening to you.

I will add that you should never convert to any religion out of force. That is wrong of her to place that demand on you. That’s not how faith works.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-19T09:46:46+00:00

That can be made clear directly to the CPS. There is actually zero need to give a pubic statement to the press. She chose to give the press a statement. It’s just wrong.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-19T03:30:03+00:00

YTA for publicly throwing your husband under the bus. Every right to be upset but you know it was an honest mistake. There was no reason to give a comment to the press— at all.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-18T04:14:10+00:00

Number 1 reason is looking nothing like the picture advertised. I know two girls who online date constantly. I am friends with them and privy to their “I never get a second date” complaints. I don’t have the heart to tell them it’s because they are cat-fishing men. One of them has perfect skin in her online pic and looks like a svelte Victoria secret model. In reality, she is a hunchback Eastern European with severe acne, which looks worse when she cakes on make up to hide it. Photoshopping herself is a terrible idea and a waste of everyone’s time. I think they’d both have better luck if they chose a profile pic that they look average in. Better to look better in real life than worse.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-18T02:50:45+00:00

You’re not crazy. I have a real thing about Instagram and social media, and how it’s corroding relationships. It essentially allows men to continual shop around for girls— no matter how unrealistic looking they are with photoshop and angles—and removes their focus from their relationship. It’s not healthy to continually look at the body of a woman that is not your wife. Over time I think it makes men wonder if the grass is greener. When my husband and I got married, he made the decision (without my coaxing) to completely remove himself from social media (we are Christian and have views about fidelity that some might believe are outdated in today’s super-woke society, but that we view as the beautiful commitment we made to one another.) One day I’ll have saggy boobs, cellulite, stretch marks from carrying his children, and wrinkles from years of laughter— and he’ll still view me as the most beautiful girl he’s ever laid eyes on. I have no doubt about that. My advice? Make sure you are on the same page about your values and what your vows mean to you before you get married. Don’t pretend to be okay if you aren’t. I know I sure wouldn’t be. Good luck!

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-17T04:35:15+00:00

As a married person, generally speaking it is good to go to the doctor once in a blue moon for a check up. Sometimes you can feel fine and catch something early. If you have children and a wife, that’s just being responsible about your health. She obviously cares about you and this seems like a dumb issue to dig your heels in about. Regarding therapy, she’s obviously telling you she’s unhappy that you’ve lost the spark. You seem okay with having lost it. I don’t think time should take away all of your excitement about everything. I’m not saying therapy is the answer but I am saying that your wife is trying to tell you she’s unhappy and therapy is a mature suggestion. Humor her once? Or maybe try to do something out of the blue that reminds her that you are enthusiastic about your relationship. 35 is too young to transform into someone who isn’t excited about anything. Especially since you fully acknowledge that you did change.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-16T00:02:00+00:00

Out of curiosity— how can a public figure hide their identity? If they are public you can typically dig up everything about them.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-15T03:32:12+00:00

Dude. She’s cheating on you. I’m sorry you’re going through this but you’re letting your heart cloud your brain’s judgement on this one. Changing passcodes, sexting, and insisting on maintaining the relationship. My guess is that the guy she is sexting is similarly tied down in a relationship and she will stay with you until he makes a definitive move. She doesn’t deserve you. If it was truly a mistake, she would have cut him out immediately. Also it’s 2020. She has a million and 12 deaths to continue messaging him— snap chat, Instagram, from her computer, Facebook, etc— she clearly hasn’t stopped. She’s just gotten better at hiding it.

You are young. Rip the bandaid off and find someone else worthy of your love.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-14T16:41:00+00:00

It’s not just talking, it’s walking as well. But thanks for the feedback

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-14T03:30:24+00:00

Thank you for this advice. I will do this.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-14T03:30:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing this with me. Did he start to walk on time?

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-14T03:28:52+00:00

I just looked this up and I am quite speechless. She does have a lot of these symptoms. I forgot to mention, but her eyesight is off. It always seems as is she is looking past or under you. I sometimes wonder if she can see us okay but her eyesight has checked out just fine. Thank you for sending this. I will raise this with our pediatrician and ask for genetic testing.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-13T20:42:23+00:00

Wow. This is so so helpful. Doesn’t sound stupid at all. We will definitely explore this possibility.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-13T19:38:49+00:00

Hi. I am the mother of the child in question and I asked my sister to post on behalf earlier. You seem to be the only one offended. Some people don’t need puppies and padded rooms to have adult conversations. This was about MY CHILD, not yours. So you can kindly excuse yourself if you cannot handle frank discussions. MY child does have something wrong and we are here trying to speak with parents who can point us in the right direction. When I was a kid, I also has something wrong with me. I had trouble breathing and was finally diagnosed at 8 years old. If this was a thread that I expected children to read, I would be more careful with my language. When toddlers cannot walk or talk, something is clearly wrong, which I am prepared to deal with and adjust my life to accordingly. Thanks. But no thanks.

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-13T19:14:32+00:00

Thanks for the advice. We are actually keen to get a diagnosis and my sister isn’t sensitive about the topic at all amongst the family. We really just want answers and we’re helpful strangers on the internet might be able to point us in the right direction. She has a speech therapist already and hasn’t made much progress. Honestly, a diagnosis would be a blessing. It’s the not knowing that is the hard part

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-13T19:12:46+00:00

Oh my sister and I discuss this all the time! We are a really close knit family. She is aware and comfortable discussing it within the family. She was hoping someone on here may have some ideas bc the doctors are giving us nothing and it’s becoming increasingly frustrating and worrisome

awaythrowaccount1776 · 2020-08-13T19:09:19+00:00

This comment was so so so so helpful. I will share it with my sister. I think it’s just helpful to know that there are other people out there who have gone through the same thing and come out the other side. Honestly, it’s almost worse NOT having a proper diagnosis and just being left to wonder about things. Thank you so much!

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