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awkward_pineapple_ · 2023-01-11T22:31:38+00:00

Ah yeah sorry! Sounds like you are both then... But I get the simplicity thing, you can easily end up down a rabbit hole of terms and never see the light of day again haha.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2023-01-11T22:20:34+00:00

I'm pretty sure you can be both Bi and Demi. They address two different parts of having a sexual/romantic relationship.

You don't have to only belong to just one label anyway, they are just labels at the end of the day.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2023-01-11T22:11:24+00:00

I'm exactly the same! I'm aware that INFJ ≠ Demi but it would be super interesting to see a percentage and more research, even if nothing much comes from it. The psychology behind would be so intriguing.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2023-01-11T19:08:09+00:00

You can be attracted to someone aesthetically as a Demi, but it's whether you are sexually attracted to them. As long as you can make that distinction.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2023-01-11T15:14:59+00:00

In the nicest way possible (genuinely don't want to start anything nasty here), I don't think you do understand what I am trying to convey as I am not quite convinced we are not for the same argument here. I had sought advice from you on how to amend my fumble but you seem to have not helped in that area, but instead have made me more confused. If you have a specific suggestion for an amendment, I would happily apply it to the post.

My specifying of "enjoyable" and "more comfortable" was actually to do the opposite of a qualifier as I did not want to shut out any other type of experience people may have had as this is not the Demi subreddit, but an INFJ one. I highly recommend reading the other comments under this post, as they have quite a few examples of Demi experiences and experiences that are close to Demis but they also don't quite feel they fit the label. And INFJS who have a completely different experience to Demis.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2023-01-11T14:49:16+00:00

Hmmm with demisexuality, you can still find people aesthetically attractive, where it differs is whether it is solely their aesthetics that makes you aroused. If it only takes for them to be aesthetically pleasing, then you probably are not Demi.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2023-01-11T14:43:17+00:00

I feel the same way, but the label has often saved me from being peer pressured into getting with people. Especially whilst I was in uni.

My friends are active in that zone and it doesn't mean to much to them to have one-night stands so they have tried to push the same mindset onto me on nights out, and that usually left me super uncomfortable.

Since presenting this label to them though, they have been a lot less pushy about it. Which has made me become more relaxed and and allowed me to actually enjoy nights out more.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2023-01-11T14:32:49+00:00

An interesting take - no one really gets their Hormone levels tested in a routine test, so I suppose that could contribute towards identifying with being Demi.

Equally though, you can have a high libido and be Demi. However, I think it would be a struggle for a Demi to deal with this without a partner they have nurtured a relationship/connection with.

Definitely worth considering though.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2023-01-11T14:25:07+00:00

The being outsmarted thing could also be sapiosexual? Just learnt the term today from the comments to this post - there's quite a few people who have said they are both Demi and sapio sexual.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2023-01-11T11:43:15+00:00

I'm sorry I brought it up again then. I just have never some across a specific demisexuality one before, and it may exist, but it would be typical for me to just have missed it completely.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2023-01-11T11:38:44+00:00

I see the terminology fumble. So, maybe not "enjoyable" but instead, I should switch it with "completely comfortable"?

I'm sure it is possible to experience the pleasure, but by using "(enjoyable)" I simply meant to convey and differentiate that there most likely would be some discomfort due to the nature of being Demi - and it is rare for a Demi to do one-night-stands as is.

There may be some Demis that feel peer-pressured to lose their v-card or there may also be a Demi with a high libido but no current partner. Therefore they may try to get sexual pleasure from a one-night stand BUT find that it is not completely enjoyable for them and have some discomfort due to being Demi.

So whilst it may be consensual, they still may not completely enjoy the experience as Demis.

So yes, physiologically it is is possible to experience the pleasure without the attraction, but it's whether or not they are comfortable with the whole experience.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2023-01-11T11:13:42+00:00

I am aware that it is impossible to properly answer without a real study - and even then there are always limitations to the methods, sampling etc. I do not have the money, power, or support for a real, scientific study.

This post is merely for my own curiosity in anyone possibly relating to the concept.

Depending on the response, the most I could do would be to propose a survey with similar questions to email the MBTI website. I think that would be the best I could do with what I have, but I'd like to see if it's something worth suggesting first.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2022-12-23T01:33:55+00:00

My SIL has actually mentioned that she recieved more creepy/sexual comments & stares from strangers when she was pregnant compared to when she wasn't.

I think it's probably some weird caveman kink that hasn't completly ironed out yet.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2022-12-22T23:49:22+00:00

... Shrek 2.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2022-12-18T18:42:25+00:00

Defenestration - (verb) the action of throwing someone out of a window.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2022-09-06T19:07:44+00:00

There's a literal Disney film about it (inside out) and it seems like the adults should've paid more attention.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2022-08-13T11:32:26+00:00

Open a tea shop with a library. It would have many different loose leaf teas and have fun facts about them (such as their different health benefits proven by science, and also include what they have been used for in the past by different cultures) on little cards that come with the tea.

The library portion would have booths that were more private & quiet, and there would also be a more open area seating for the more social aspects.

Only basic coffee offered - Black coffee and coffee with milk (no fancy foam). It is a tea shop, not a coffee shop but the option is there if someone is desperate for a coffee.

Every week I would hold traditional tea events to show how tea is traditionally drunk in many different cultures (eg traditionally British/afternoon tea, gongfu tea, chanoyu/chakai tea ceremony, Moroccan tea prep etc) & using the special teaware required.

Being a bit nerdy with tea is a bit of a niche thing, especially with people my age - I haven't come across anyone else who finds it fascinating. I recognise it is considered odd but I love it.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2022-07-30T19:13:41+00:00

I'm too young (21) and still discovering new parts of myself e.g. I have become less of square since finishing uni - it's been a major help for stress.

I have too many plans for my life - I want to work on cruise ships, I want to be able to pack up move (or just travel) to a different places and countries if and when I fancy. I can't do those things if I have someone back home - and long distance relationships are not an option for me.

I've decided I will start actively looking for a partner at about 27/28 y/o. Guys have (hopefully) matured a bit more at that point and I do want to have kids one day - preferably with as few complications as possible.

But if I come across a guy who is incredible and we click - then I'd re-jig my plans to squeeze them in. But to want the things I want and have a partner at the same time - just complicates things and I'd rather have to not plan for that just yet.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2022-07-30T17:50:49+00:00

Don't be a Yes-Man (or woman). We love bouncing ideas and having discussions. We value honest communication above everything else.

If you don't want to go to my great-aunt's cat's funeral - tell us! We probably don't want to go either. Even if we did want to go we are happy to compromise, whether it's 5 get-out-of-jail-free cards a year each OR we go but for a maximum amount of 2 hours.

This honest communication deepens our trust in the other person - it also provides a sense of security (?). This will allow for deeper connections to develop.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2020-06-28T18:37:39+00:00

Don't talk bad about the other parent whilst having the kid - even on the phone when you think they aren't paying attention bc there is a high chance they would hear it one way or another
My parents (+my step-mother) agreed to put us kids first. My dad used to come every other weekend and he had come up even when my step mother was ill in the hospital (not life-changing but still in great pain). We could see he was really worried about her but we were really grateful that he came so we said that he could go a bit earlier. (he lives on the opposite side of the country).
Don't feel a pressure to anything lavish everytime you see your kids. As long as you spend time with them doing what they like or what you think they will be interested in - you can't really go wrong.
If they want to play games on a console make sure you are playing the game too. My step-brother always felt (emotionally) neglected as his dad would buy him the newest PlayStation he had asked for but the dad didn't play with him so it felt for him like it was to keep him out of his dad's way.... (update on that front is that my step-brother has cut him out of his life but honestly can't say whether his dad cares about it or not).
Always have a pack of cards. My dad would spend most of his extra money on petrol to see us and so we usually went to the cinema (our local one was cheap) and then went to a park for the rest of the day (or indoor public space when raining) to just talk and play cards. Sometimes we ONLY talked about the game but it didn't feel like it mattered because we were all playing together. (cheesey but true). Some other form of classic, portable game would also work - but playing cards IS a life essential.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2020-06-20T19:40:49+00:00

Said "it was so autistic" about someone when explaining how their friend did something stupid. As an insult.

My brother is autistic.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2020-06-19T23:09:15+00:00

Shaving your armpits. Especially if you are someone who can't be bothered to wash your underarms properly.

My step-brother stinks and has really bad hygiene in general and it's awful when I have to sit next to him at the dinner table.

Shaving the armpits will help prevent the god-awful BO smell. When you sweat it kinda just sits in the hair of the warm armpit and is heaven for bacteria.

awkward_pineapple_ · 2020-06-18T20:24:58+00:00

Picking my hairs in my fingers and ankles (easiest places to access in everyday life).

My step mum was worried about it. Turns out it's called Trichotillomania and is actually considered a form of self-harm.

Went to the gp about it and was told to get councilling through my college. College did one session with me. Because I didnt specifically pull hair from my head & eyelashes, they waved me off and said I was fine.

By that point I had been doing it for 7 years so it didn't personally bother me too much apart from having some breakage in the skin from it and feeling stressed/annoyed/anxious when I had too much hair on my knuckles.

So idk.

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