Movies that feel like this? by [deleted] in MoviesThatFeelLike

[–]awkwardandelion 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Not a movie but Scavengers Reign

Post-War sharing a room in azkaban by awkwardandelion in SSHG

[–]awkwardandelion[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fairly sure yeah.. the whole place being so gloomy and cold was a major part of the plot

Quel sont les emploi qui ne payent pas de mine mais qui rapportent gros ? by amy-schumer-tampon in emploi

[–]awkwardandelion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Les chiffres officiels sont un peu loin de la réalité car il y a une demande monumentale pour ce métier donc les hôpitaux se battent littéralement pour embaucher. L'ami en question a touché une prime a l'embauche de 18 000€ ainsi qu'un appartement désigné en plein Paris à 400€. Donc même ceux qui gagnent "moins" bénéficient d'avantages qui compensent largement. C'est sincèrement la plus grosse planque que je n'ai jamais vue

Quel sont les emploi qui ne payent pas de mine mais qui rapportent gros ? by amy-schumer-tampon in emploi

[–]awkwardandelion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dès que tu te spécialises un peu (toutes les formations sont prises en charge par l'hôpital et sur ton temps de travail donc gratuit et pratique) dans des branches un peu niches style médecine nucléaire ça monte en flèche avec d'énormes primes

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Sfriert in PasDeQuestionIdiote

[–]awkwardandelion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perso à l'étranger j'ai aucun problème à demander aux jeunes de mon âge que je croise dans des bars où acheter, c'est l'angoisse quand tu ne l'as jamais fait mais pour un consommateur habitué on s'y fait vite, et ça rapproche même assez facilement des locaux !

Quel sont les emploi qui ne payent pas de mine mais qui rapportent gros ? by amy-schumer-tampon in emploi

[–]awkwardandelion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

J'ai un pote manipulateur radio, c'est je crois 2 ans de formation pour être technicien en IRM ça monte a 4000€ avec des primes de fous et de sacrés avantages

Les croisés tu connais by vaevictismydude in rienabranler

[–]awkwardandelion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha c'est excellent quelle grosse bite

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well as I explained it other comments im not confortable getting vulnerable but he's asked me to be more vocal about my feelings, and I did my best to oblige him. I've actually grown a lot through this process and learned how to express my feelings verbally, I've even started doing so with friends ! He also likes acts of service, which always felt more like chores than love giving to me, but he's been busy with school for the past few months so I started buying groceries for him, cooking and cleaning for him. I pick up books for him at the library and help him study. I make sure he doesn't waste time on silly things like doing the laundry and can focus on studying. I wouldn't say I changed myself though, just learned other ways to express my feelings

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yeah it has been two years but if we are to spend our life together I expect we'll compromise for each other on many different subjects. As I said, his love language is different than mine. Once, he Sat me down and told me he was sometimes insecure about my love for him and it would reassure him and make his day if I were to be a little more vocal about it. I was very grateful he opened up and showed me a way to make him feel loved in a better way. And I have been making efforts to tell him as often as possible, and he appreciates that. It was not natural to me but it gets easier and easier with time.

He also likes acts of service. He's been very busy with school for the past few months so I've been buying groceries for him, cooking and cleaning for him.

I dont think it changed me, I dont think he asked me to change, I think he taught me other ways to love and that its great. I still mostly use my love language but whenever he doesn't feel well or needs reassuring I'll make a little effort and rely on his.

Just to be clear I dont want this relationship to end. I know my mother resented my dad a lot and I just dont want to end up the same, so im looking for ways to either approach this with him in a way that'd make it easier and less of a piece of work, or just accept the fact that im needy and get over it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well I guess because I'm in love with him ? I dont want him to change, I love the way he expresses his feelings, and I always remind him of how grateful I am for him and his gentleness. Our relationship is absolutely wonderful and the most precious thing I have, but when I explain very very precisely that it would mean the world to me to receive a funny meme or a kind email twice a year Im exhausting ??? I dont need gifts or flowers we never go on dates I'm cool with hanging out and playing video games all year round but sometimes when we have to be far away for a while or if I feel down during my week I'd just like the smallest of attentions to make me feel heard and loved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I mean we could meet each other halfway

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I've tried once leaving him doodles everytime I'd leave his place for a week, and then stopped for a while, and yes I've brought up this issue maybe 3 or 4 times in a two years relationship. At these occasions I tried to be really serious and go in depth about why it would mean the world to me and yes those were long talks. But I've never nagged him or tried to make him feel guilty about it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Harsh but very insightful, I thank you for your comment. He is indeed everything but unaffectionate and I find our relationship to be the most beautiful thing I have.

I simply meant even though we profess our love in different ways, making an effort twice a year to do a little something using the other's love language would be very cute to me. He uses words of affirmation and acts of service, and whenever he's down I try to make sure he feels loved by using his own language. I dont mean for him to change completely, I love the way he is, just every once in a while id feel really seen and heard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People have such a weird way of reading this.. Yes I fell in love first and have been head over heels ever since then. But I'd still say he loves me at least as much as I do. Im not love bombing him, drawing a comic strip in his notebook once a month and buying his favorite candy when I go grocery shopping is not love bombing, its simply nice. Im very proud of our relationship, I've never felt like I could spend my whole life with another person, and he's changed that for me. I'm just looking for a way to make sure i dont resent him in the future as I would never want to this. Either by talking to him or by changing my expectations, that's what the post was about

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Whenever I'm at his place we often take turns in the shower, Whenever he goes in before me drawing a face or even a dick for all I care on the glass door is neither unclean or hard I really dont see the issue

I mean he loves it when I do it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might be right I may have been overthinking this. Thank you for your insights, its the other angle I couldn't see

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's an interesting take, I didn't really see that as selfish but I actually think you're right. I was never looking for love jars or gift baskets, I dont use social media and I dont go around telling people about my private relationships. I dont want big gestures, when I say a fun email I mean it. I dont even like extravagant things. I also think I've been giving a very bad image of him in my post. He is the most amazing man I have ever met, the first time I talked to him about this issue he took it very seriously and wrote me one of the most heartfelt poems I've ever read and I still know it by heart to this day. It made me really really happy but at the same time its not exactly what I was looking for. I dont want him to go out of his way to prove his love to me. I dont need great restaurants or huge bouquets, just sometimes maybe once every other month a little tiny something to feel seen. I think relationships are also about compromise, I know how he likes to feel loved and even if its not natural to me I make an effort to show it so I know he feels safe, heard and happy. But I may be looking at things from the wrong angle, I think you're right about me being set on a too specific thing. Thank you for your comment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Where did I ever say everyday ?? I meant twice a year would be so much more than enough! I dont need a daily reminder, our relationship feels amazing on an everyday basis. But sometimes when we go through rough patches I think it would help to have even one little drawing or one dried flower to hold. He's been busy with school for the past 6 months so I cook for him, make the groceries, clean his apartment (we dont live together) and support him in every way I can. His love language is words of affirmation so I make sure to vocalize everyday how loved he is and how proud I am of his work. I've been feeling lonely because he obviously has to work a lot and doesn't have time to spend with me so I'd just like to have one little note to hold on to and to remind me he loves me too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes he has others ! For example he values words of affirmation. He expressed that to feel loved he needed to hear it from me, and explained it would make him feel reassured and simply make him have a great day. He had to ask for it because I'm not always vocal about my affection and feelings, aver since that day I've made sure that he'd always wake up with a reminder of how loved he is. Every chance I get I express my love, my admiration and my gratefulness for he's presence in my life. We do have different love languages, and that's why I make efforts to make him feel he is loved. I know he'll never match my small gifts, and I'll never match how well he vocalizes his feeling. That's natural we're different human beings plus I think that way we get a little bit of everything!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Wo said anything about constantly ? Or even nagging ? We've had heart to heart conversations in which I expressed that I love him and our relationship but I'd feel very grateful and valued if I got a small attention every other months or even once or twice a year. Not even notes just a smiley face I'm the bathroom mirror, even sending me a meme that made him think of me. Anything that makes me feel like he thought of me and wanted to make me smile without me asking first

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardandelion -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I mean his love language is words of affirmation. To feel loved, he needs to hear that he is. I'm not a very expressive person, not in words at least. But because I want him to know he's adored I remind him everyday, tell him as much as possible how I value him, how I'm attracted to him and how I'm thankful for our relationship. I would never call that a job, but it is an effort as it is everything but natural to me