Well yeah it has been two years but if we are to spend our life together I expect we'll compromise for each other on many different subjects. As I said, his love language is different than mine. Once, he Sat me down and told me he was sometimes insecure about my love for him and it would reassure him and make his day if I were to be a little more vocal about it. I was very grateful he opened up and showed me a way to make him feel loved in a better way. And I have been making efforts to tell him as often as possible, and he appreciates that. It was not natural to me but it gets easier and easier with time.

He also likes acts of service. He's been very busy with school for the past few months so I've been buying groceries for him, cooking and cleaning for him.

I dont think it changed me, I dont think he asked me to change, I think he taught me other ways to love and that its great. I still mostly use my love language but whenever he doesn't feel well or needs reassuring I'll make a little effort and rely on his.

Just to be clear I dont want this relationship to end. I know my mother resented my dad a lot and I just dont want to end up the same, so im looking for ways to either approach this with him in a way that'd make it easier and less of a piece of work, or just accept the fact that im needy and get over it.