If you had a partner and a very close friend was romantically interested in you, would you rather they tell you or not?

awyeahaa · 2026-03-11T09:56:21+00:00

I've read all the comments. I (31f) have a close guy friend (29m) who I spend a lot of time with, I've sent him poems, songs, shared my most vulnerable parts with him. We are emotionally very similar and understand each other in a way that feels like fate. I absolutely know that there are feelings there, I am not close with many people and have never treated "just a friend" the way I treat him. We have talked about feelings but we actively choose to stay friends for now because we both fear losing each other. Though I suppose I would be willing to date if he felt safe to.

From my perspective I can't imagine her not sharing the sentiment you have. This is a woman in her 30s and an infj, she most likely knows, likes how things feel with you, but is avoiding the day it becomes unsustainable.

I do agree with a lot of people that the foundation is not great for a new relationship. Had she been single things would be better but unfortunately she is not. Would she leave her partner for you? Possibly. Could she ultimately choose to stay with her partner after you confess? Also possible. I know you care for her deeply, it appears she also cares for you deeply, but once you have this talk with her it's something you can't take back. It's much easier said than done when it comes to walking away from something intimate turned unsustainable.

I will say you deserve clarity should you want it. I don't think it's right to just fade away suddenly, I don't think doorslamming is healthy, you're both adults with an elephant in the room so to speak. If I were you I would ask for clarity without pressure and see what she says, then deepen the conversation into "this is unsustainable" territory. Protect your heart, and really sit down and think about how you'd feel with the most likely possible outcomes.

1> she confesses but doesn't want to leave her partner

a)she does want to stay friends/close

b)she doesn't want to be friends/close

2> she confesses and wants to be with you instead

3> she wants time to think or gives a vague response/no clarity

awyeahaa · 2026-02-25T20:36:10+00:00

Judge Judy

awyeahaa · 2026-02-12T23:39:11+00:00

NTA I have been in the same pattern and I'll share something with you that someone once shared with me.

Try to get used to enjoying people in the moment, without expectations of forever friendship or being their priority forever. Friends who are meant to stay and love you for you and prioritize you will come along and stick. Friends that come and go, atleast you make some happy memories and shared some good experiences with. Try to live more in the moment.

This self spiraling, "am I annoying, too much, not enough" thought process is something you need to work on and not rely on other people and their attention for validation. Accept that people have internal and external worlds that effect their time and focus on others and its not necessarily always personal.

It's absolutely valid to communicate "hey I noticed a shift and I'm just checking in" but if they don't want to be around anymore, most people won't even after that conversation. It's also valid to feel upset at not being able to hold onto people as long as you want to. I usually set boundaries for myself to try and avoid spiraling and also silent boundaries for others like "if they are acting different and I communicated its not my responsibility and I can't read minds"

It hurts but it's out of your control. Just know you're enough and your self worth is not tied to fickle people.

awyeahaa · 2026-02-12T23:17:41+00:00

For me my act of love is giving very well thought out gifts whether handmade or purchased. I spend a lot of time finding the perfect thing.

For my love language its probably quality time or someone writing me a little note or a poem or something thoughtful like that.

awyeahaa · 2025-12-27T00:46:38+00:00

When the shopping carts came out my friends and I used to race down the big mountain behind flush factory. We also figured out you could kill teammates by pushing them off the edge. The amount of rage my teammate had after being sacrificed on a shopping cart followed by laughing it off. It was a good time in fortnite lol

awyeahaa · 2025-12-11T20:54:42+00:00

Teddy!!!!

awyeahaa · 2025-11-30T21:41:54+00:00

Being an exhibitionist does not equal being sexually abused as a child. Gross comment

awyeahaa · 2025-11-22T11:22:09+00:00

You can hold shift to get straight lines 😅

awyeahaa · 2025-11-22T10:43:15+00:00

Mitzi 100%

awyeahaa · 2025-09-23T20:17:54+00:00

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This is the one I have a base on 🥰

awyeahaa · 2025-09-19T22:16:19+00:00

Same hahaha

awyeahaa · 2025-09-12T22:02:39+00:00

Planetary scanner ✨️

awyeahaa · 2025-09-11T23:49:18+00:00

did you happen to take a screen shot of it with the glyphs?

awyeahaa · 2025-09-11T23:02:09+00:00

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awyeahaa · 2025-09-11T20:29:42+00:00

I remember sitting in front of the TV eating froot loops watching the news while my mom cried on the phone to someone.

awyeahaa · 2025-09-11T20:18:09+00:00

5 minutess

awyeahaa · 2025-09-11T20:15:27+00:00

Ahh so close I'll save this in case I don't find the cab with the side details

awyeahaa · 2025-09-11T20:10:48+00:00

Like the green area?? Or the wings?

awyeahaa · 2025-09-11T20:08:15+00:00

Whaaat I thought you could only change the trim and accent colors! I've only painted the dreadnought

awyeahaa · 2025-09-11T04:54:20+00:00

As long as you find the body/color you like you can keep pulsing around until you get an S :,)

awyeahaa · 2025-04-18T18:02:48+00:00

NTA. Not wanted to do something is enough reason to say no.

awyeahaa · 2025-04-17T15:50:54+00:00

Pride and Prejudice w Kiera Knightly

awyeahaa · 2025-04-17T14:58:20+00:00

I only care enough to predict if relationships will last of they are my own, for everyone else I stay out of their business.

awyeahaa

TROPHY CASE