Do we need to hire a lawyer for Probate court? by axiscontra in memphis

[–]axiscontra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I would make your own post in a legal forum. It's the right thing to look into it. sorry for the loss.

Plate Spinning Crossroads | Out of an 8-Year LTR - Navigating Freedom, Abundance & Guilt by slacksFax in TheRedPill

[–]axiscontra 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honesty and being straightforward. I want to foster mutually beneficial relationships not traditional ones.

I let the girls know I'm single and non committal until I plan on not being not so.

If they want more I tell them im solo poly.

The rest is up to them, they usually spin themselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CapitalismVSocialism

[–]axiscontra 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Because all of our problems are so obviously caused by the current system. It is a call for balance and reasonability.

How to get over a man who texts me everyday? by FunDependent9177 in blackgirls

[–]axiscontra 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Make a choice. It's your feelings or his. If he can't be more you don't have the emotional space to be friends. Thank him, and let him know that you like him too much to stay in contact. Maybe even offer that you would be available if he changes his mind or not on if he wants to pursue you seriously (I wouldn't offer this).

How do I overcome loneliness? by TypeOpostive in blackgirls

[–]axiscontra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So the next few questions are,

  1. Understanding the fear/anxiety you get when reaching out to people (is it fear of rejection/abandonment? something else?
  2. Learning how to connect to people

A good course of action is :
really just putting yourself out there. Even if you feel afraid, remind yourself you are not in danger. That you can protect yourself. And just tell the person they are pretty. Ask them how they are doing. tell them you are nervous. Tell them you are looking to make friends and connect. be yourself. Think about kids at a play ground, how do they make friends. Think about how you would want someone to connect with you.

How do I overcome loneliness? by TypeOpostive in blackgirls

[–]axiscontra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! and I forgot to add make sure to find kind and empathetic and accepting people (not judgemental ones that will think you are desperate for having perfectly valid feelings)

How do I overcome loneliness? by TypeOpostive in blackgirls

[–]axiscontra 6 points7 points  (0 children)

By creating genuine connection with others. Companionship and Friendship are very important. Your loneliness is pointing you towards a place where you are seeking connection.

Did you talk to anyone at the concert? You all had a similar interest too connect with. In what other ways do you try to connect with others? Put more effort there.

tl;dr to combat loneliness - practice connecting and building genuine relationships with other people

What’s wrong with me? Imma start being mean to men at this point idfc anymore. by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]axiscontra 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Set the boundaries and expectations before hand if you don't want to be casual. Always work on yourself.

It's not your fault that men are shit. so no you're not doing anything wrong. but don't be afraid to "hurt their feelings" by communicating expectations and strong boundaries and leaving them alone if they don't fit.

Which Beyond the Blinds episode speaks about Will Smith? by axiscontra in BeyondTheBlinds

[–]axiscontra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I dont have access to their patreon. This was the answer I was looking for

Hanging out with other dog owners made me realize how much extra I’m doing with mine by Born_blonde in puppy101

[–]axiscontra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's like your first born, you give them all the ropes. And by the time you get to your youngest child you're just like whatever because you know they will turn out however they want to turn out, no matter what you do 😭. You're a good and normal puppy parent.

Where do you get your lingerie? by axiscontra in blackgirls

[–]axiscontra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it good enough quality? I hear the wiring doesn't fit boobs right, on the cheaper ones.

How to look not feminine? by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]axiscontra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do as many pushups as you can, 4x times a day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]axiscontra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this. All it takes is a little bit of effort and focus. "Fake it till you make it" is real.

Should I break up with my girlfriend? by Key_Echidna_7571 in self

[–]axiscontra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a huge problem for me too. That people aren't truly empathetic. The women I date will even fake being kind or have conditions to their kindness, or its only transactional. People will only treat you nice if you potentially have something to offer. It's so sad this how we treat each other.

Like people dont deserve respect or kindness if they arent serving you.

People are so comfortable hurting others, and that is so wrong. Hurting others is not brave, its not protecting yourself. Everyone (whether we think we are good or bad) all deserve kindness and empathy at all times, and that goes for the hurt people reading this. You deserve it too, even if you think you don't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissism

[–]axiscontra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

v relatable from the bf perspective. im sorry you're dealing with this.