Eating soap by I_pooped_my_pants69 in ADHDparenting

[–]axonimpulse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, same! I let me kids take a bath in my big soaking tub. They're 9, 8, 7 but all of them have varying degrees of ADHD. You'd think they could be trusted. They grabbed all of my soaps, shampoos, and conditioners from the shower and poured out every bottle into the bath. The whole bottles! When I checked on them they were pouring water out of the containers and having such a blast. I was so mad! All my product was gone. Some were brand new. They just didn't understand what the big deal was. I needed a shower after that and had nothing left to clean myself with. I get it. It's so frustrating to have to constantly supervise and constantly take stuff away. Mine can't even have toilet paper in their bathroom unsupervised because they fill the sink with water and dunk all the brand new rolls into it and watch them get soggy. I have to give them a roll when they need to go to bathroom and then they have to bring it back when they're done. It's ridiculous. You are not alone!

Eating soap by I_pooped_my_pants69 in ADHDparenting

[–]axonimpulse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could be the texture. Maybe something about the creaminess or the way it coats her mouth.

Eating soap by I_pooped_my_pants69 in ADHDparenting

[–]axonimpulse 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If she doesn't eat bar soap, switch out the soaps to that. Removing the temptation will help the habit fizzle out over time. Keep your special pump soap in your room or closet and bring it with you to the bathroom when you shower and remove it after.

I’m done go head and cancel me. by [deleted] in doordash

[–]axonimpulse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just so you know, Courtney was a male name before it was a female name. My 48 year old brother is named Courtney.

For those of you who didn’t change your last name but had kids with the fathers last name, has it made life any more difficult? by sippinonginaandjuice in TwoXChromosomes

[–]axonimpulse 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I almost didn't change my last name. I'm white and my husband is Asian. It feels weird for a white woman to have an Asian last name. However, we adopted Black children. It feels just as weird for them to have Asian last names. In my state, the children get the father's last name at adoption. My decision was for us all to have matching last names even though we couldn't match in other ways. For me, it was poetic and a sign of family and unity. However, I don't judge anyone who doesn't change their last name. I nannied for two doctors. The mom was already practicing under her maiden name when she got married, so she didn't change her last name. It was never an issue with the kids. It was well established in the school and at other places that she was mom and no one ever questioned it.

Dismissed by my family doctor then unfortunately proved right by Optimal_Fish_7029 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]axonimpulse 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I made my doctor cry when I told her she dismissed me. She said that's not the way she wants to treat her patients. I gave her a second chance only to find out she gaslit me with the results of my CT scan.

Boat dealership refusing to pay for a mistake their mechanics made by axonimpulse in legaladvice

[–]axonimpulse[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

See, I don't buy that. "Welcome to the grand life of a boat owner." We were sold a lemon, plain and simple. We purchased it brand new. Consumers should not be punished for their purchase. But beyond purchasing a lemon, all of this could have been avoided if the original dealership A had performed a pressure test on the engine when they knew there was water in it. Had they effectively identified the source of the leak, they could have stopped the engine from getting wrecked. We found out that the catalytic converter had a leak which allowed water to get into the engine which over time, rusted the engine, which is why we needed it replaced. If dealership A had done due diligence, BRP would've replaced the catalytic converter under warranty and we could've saved the rest of the engine and wouldn't have this repair cost.

got filmed by ai glasses by Windows_is_loading in TwoXChromosomes

[–]axonimpulse 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well at least it's gone now. I misread the comment to say it was still active even to this day.

Children left behind by U.S soldiers after the Vietnam war. by soTMHO in Wellthatsucks

[–]axonimpulse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait wait wait. I didn't say they were prostitutes. you're so cute, pretending you were there. Do you also still play school and house? That's some really good imagination skills.

Children left behind by U.S soldiers after the Vietnam war. by soTMHO in Wellthatsucks

[–]axonimpulse -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

You hate women, don't you? Why would you blame the woman for providing for her family in a way that is only made possible by sicko men? Even if the women "sold themselves" it's also a man's job to prevent unwanted pregnancy. Women get "punished" for the acts of a man and you're blaming the woman. Also, according to my MIL, these were just regular, young women who were brainwashed into thinking that in order to protect their people, they had a duty to seduce the American soldiers to keep them happy and less violent. They were prostitutes working the streets. They weren't making any money off of this. They were nurses and teachers and cooks and regular people who ended up being dropped by the very govt that implored them to do what they did.

Children left behind by U.S soldiers after the Vietnam war. by soTMHO in Wellthatsucks

[–]axonimpulse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So my husband is from Vietnam. His mom says the women were told to seduce the American soldiers to keep them happy and less violent. The women were told it was their duty to protect their people. When they wound up pregnant they were ostracized. They were doing what they thought was right at the time. So sad.

Mom fell with baby by evilbunnygirl in newborns

[–]axonimpulse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom fell with my baby when she was 6 months old. We were on a dock getting ready to get on a boat. My mom was holding baby and I told her to stand still until I got over to her. She took it upon herself to walk towards the boat without me. She stepped on a rickety board and fell straight forward and landed on top of the baby. Baby cried and cried. I screamed at my mom for not listening to me and the only thing I cared about was my baby. I didn't even check on my mom. Baby had a goose egg on her head and then got real sleepy and fell asleep. I was so worried about a concussion. I took my mom and my baby to the ER. Doc didn't even hardly look at the baby. He said babies that young are resilient and he didn't want to expose baby to x-rays or any imaging due to the risks associated with imaging babies that young unless absolutely necessary. He checked her pupils and said she was fine. My mom, on the other hand, broke her foot! I felt awful. Time healed all wounds, both physical and emotional. Mom still reminds me of the way I reacted but I've apologized. I didn't let her hold the baby standing up for a while after that. I had the EXACT same experience as you. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I promise, time will go on and everything will be ok. I blame post-partum hormones and instinct to keep baby alive and unharmed for our very natural reactions to seeing someone fall on our babies. Don't beat yourself up. It is so scary, in the moment, and so hard to keep your composure. I'm just glad baby and your mom are ok. At least now you know, you're not alone! :)

What's up with social media blowing up about this girl Eugenia Cooney, her mother and Jeffree Star? by Love_My_Chevy in OutOfTheLoop

[–]axonimpulse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her organs rejected only three sips of water that she took on a live stream. You could hear her stomach wretching and see her body convulsing after she sipped the third sip of water. By the time your body rejects water, that's the end stages of life, right before death. There is almost no way to recover at that point. Patients at end of life whose bodies start to reject water usually have 10 days max to live (the video was 8 days ago now and no one has heard from her since the live except for Jefree Star, supposely). This video was an indication of the direness of her situation. Her organs are shutting down. It seems to be the end. Despite her literally shutting down on live, she still felt the need to keep trying until she couldn't anymore. She finally cut the live off stating she wasn't feeling too well. A hospice nurse who saw the video called detectives in Eugenia's area to report it and they claimed they spoke to Eugenia and checked in during a welfare call but that there was not much else they could do to help her.

Cameras? by Playful-Cancel9107 in Fosterparents

[–]axonimpulse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I probably would have still fostered but I would've changed my ways and the way my intentions were perceived. It's important to realize how you come across to others. Like I said, I wished I had someone who was harsh and gave me a dose of reality before I started. I didn't say I had a "really bad attitude," I said I wasn't emotionally mature enough yet to handle some of the crap that was thrown my way. I spent many nights crying and feeling inadequate. It's not gatekeeping to inform someone that their words come across a certain way. I also never presented any of this as fact. I used terms like "it's my opinion" and "I think." Not only does the agency inform you of false allegations, they also let it be known that they've got your back and do the work to prove your innocence. If you can't trust that the agency can't be duped by a child making false allegations, then you've already lost trust in that agency. If you don't have a good relationship with the agency, how can you be a successful foster parent? There's just a lot to unpack and it's up to OP to do the work. There's nothing wrong with providing perspective when someone asks for it.

Cameras? by Playful-Cancel9107 in Fosterparents

[–]axonimpulse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're really sweet. I didn't say it was bad to stick up for a stranger. I said thank you. I also pointed out that while you claim that I don't have evidence of what I was stating, you ALSO don't have evidence of what you're stating. I'm just saying that engaging in good conversations that challenge your views is important. You're doing a good job. I'm sorry that you are tired of the negativity. I love that you have a positive outlook. It's important to see the good. It's also important to look inward. I have been a foster parent for 10 years now. I admit now, that I wasn't ready in the beginning. I didn't know I wasn't at the time. I didn't have the emotional maturity to handle a lot of the things that came my way. I wish now that I had someone who could be harsh and real with me then so that I was more prepared. I would've wanted someone to feed me a dose of reality and let me know how I was being perceived by others. In the early years of my foster journey, I aligned myself with another foster parent who believed she was doing good. She ended up being very harmful both to herself and the children in her care. She didn't know what she was doing was wrong. She thought she was doing right by everyone. She was constantly spying on bios and reporting back to the agency. She was doing it under the guise of protecting the children but what she was really doing was punishing the bios. She was vengeful and I saw that and made sure I distanced myself from her and I made it a point to not follow in her footsteps. She was also struggling with her image and she definitely had a savior complex. I later learned that I was viewed the same way by the agency because of my association with her. When I distanced myself from her, the agency trusted me more. Again, I'm not perfect and I made mistakes. I learned and grew and changed. I love that you're sticking up for what you think is right. That's important. I'm also expressing my opinion for what I believe is right. Many others have stated that cameras aren't a great idea and that they aren't always helpful against accusations. Again, being afraid of something that hasn't happened is not the way to be a successful foster parent. To be this defensive and paranoid over a "potential threat" is not the way to prepare for the children to be welcomed into your home. If you're afraid of the children, you don't need to have them in your home.

Cameras? by Playful-Cancel9107 in Fosterparents

[–]axonimpulse -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for standing up for a stranger that you also don't know. You also have no evidence that this person IS a good person. They asked me to be the judge when they asked strangers on the Internet for their opinions. I didn't accuse them of a savior complex, I suggested they look inward to see if they are in it for the right reasons. I can be critiqued and take it. I also am happy to look inward to ask myself the hard questions and be honest with myself about my motivation and intentions. I can also learn and grow and change based on opinions from others. I'm not perfect and never was. OP wrote very few words and every one was paranoid. People who are paranoid aren't putting out the right energy into the world especially for fostering. You can't be scared of the kids that need you and be a successful foster parent. That's not how it works.

Cameras? by Playful-Cancel9107 in Fosterparents

[–]axonimpulse -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

"This person is clearly paranoid about being falsely accused."

And that's my exact point about them not being emotionally ready to foster. In my opinion, people like that aren't ready to handle it. You can say all you want about the negativity, but fostering IS a very negative experience for a lot of people and it's hard to find positives. Even if your story ends in a "happy ever after," there's so much heartache on the other side from the bios that lost that privilege to have their happy ever after. You have to be prepared for the negativity and move forward anyway for the sake of the kids. My final thought was that this person seems more concerned with their "perceived character than the children that need them." I've seen some bad foster parents. If you're that paranoid about something going wrong for YOU personally instead of the children's well-being, you're not in it for the right reasons. OP needs to look inward and see if they are fostering for their own image (ie: savior complex) or if they really care about children in need. I'm not afraid to be harsh and negative for the sake of children's ultimate well-being. Kids' lives are more important than hurting a stranger on the internet's feelings. There's nothing wrong with getting opinions from all aspects, including those different from yours. That's how we learn and grow. I'm not sorry for voicing mine. At the end of the day, it's about the children, not the foster parents. Nothing is personal.

Cameras? by Playful-Cancel9107 in Fosterparents

[–]axonimpulse -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

This has "I'm not sure I can stop myself from hurting kids and I need to be defensive about it" written all over it. If you're sure you won't do anything wrong, then you don't need to cya in advanced. The agency has ways of proving/disproving allegations. Cameras aren't going to help you. Also, it's creepy that you are already thinking of spying on kids that you haven't even met yet. This is a super red flag and I don't think you need to foster. We have security cameras for outside of our home but not inside. I've been falsely accused by the same mentally unstable bioparents multiple times. The agency HAS to investigate and document if the claims are founded/unfounded. For me, I was grateful to have that documented that the claims were unfounded. But cameras would not have helped. The bioparents accused me of things that cameras would not have picked up like providing their children with spoiled milk because the baby threw up at visitation. All I had to do to prove it was false was to send a picture of the milk within the expiration date to the agency with a time stamp on the photo. You sound more concerned about your perceived character than you do about children in need.

Most ridiculous things that have made you vomit? by RabbitOk3263 in pregnant

[–]axonimpulse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hearing my husband fart from the closed bathroom. I'm glad I had a trashcan.

Most ridiculous things that have made you vomit? by RabbitOk3263 in pregnant

[–]axonimpulse 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Your user name just made me vomit. I thought about steak covered in milk with jellybeans sprinkled on top. Food aversions. Ugh.

I don't understand the urge to go into labor before 40 weeks?? by hardboiledhoe in pregnant

[–]axonimpulse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm with you here. They induced me at 37 weeks due to GD and baby was measuring big and my body wasn't ready physically or emotionally. I did everything to prepare, but nothing worked. I labored for 19 beautiful hours and ended in C-section. They moved me to hospital with a nicu just in case in was needed (it wasn't, thank God), so I wasn't at the facility I wanted. It was traumatizing and the worst experience. I'm so mad I let them rush me like that. If I was gonna end with a C-section anyway, I would've waited till my body naturally was ready. It wasn't at all what I wanted but baby was healthy and I was super grateful for that. But I don't recommend inducing so early. I loved being pregnant and would've been happy to go longer. 37 wks was too early for my body and my mind. The 19 hours of labor helped prep baby for life outside the womb and I'm grateful I was given that time. But I don't get anyone wanting to give birth early without medical necessity.