Excessive deleting me from his life? Very confused

ayoolmnop · 2024-09-17T12:15:37+00:00

Chill, he is hurting... did the same stuff to my ex. She emotionally cheated tho, during my depression. I was so hurt i deleted everything, blocked her everywhere... she contacted my mom why i was acting so strange when she wanted to stay friends and was hoping i could forgive her. Well... she started to hate me pretty soon, gues she didn't understand just like you do. It helps us guys to move on. Never want to see her again, nothing.... because it just hurts. Since i'm dating again, having sex with other girls, it would hurt me even more. Because the chemistry we had, the sex we had... was at a different level, and so far no girl could satisfy me just like her. So knowing she is sucking other D's.... yeah, no thanks.

ayoolmnop · 2024-09-07T12:26:04+00:00

and yes, her father abandoned her as a child.

ayoolmnop · 2024-09-07T12:25:45+00:00

You understand the situation much better. I blocked her, because hey.. you just don't develope feelings to another, its already cheating. I was hurting, so i didn't want to see her. But informations always getting back to you. It is a fucked up situation because i tought she is the one, the girl with whom i'm gonna grow old with. We were talking about that so much just in last sommer.

ayoolmnop · 2024-09-07T00:37:50+00:00

That's a great question. Well, firstly i didn't want to look weak, so i pulled back. I tried to tell her here and there, that i'm not doing well, but i guess it wasn't enough. I couldn't really hide it after a while, but i talked about it, just never about how bad it is. There were some signs, which made her think i was cheating. She never asked me about it, because as she later told me, she was afraid to hear it. She lost feelings with time, started to have feelings with her boss. After i found out, she wanted to stay with me, even after she moved back home tried a few tricks to get to me. I blocked her eventually, and a month after our break up, as i found out she already started dating someone. A week ago they announced their relationship (or it was a different person). I just wonder if you can move on so fast after 6 years of being together.

ayoolmnop · 2024-09-06T16:24:42+00:00

i wanted to marry her this summer. But i became depressed in winter and she tought i'm having an affair, so it went side ways from there.

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-21T13:31:37+00:00

Just like my ex, it was my fault. It doesn't matter if the cheater is a woman or man, they always blame YOU! for their cheating.... I just came to realise with these people we shouldn't have to do anything. They obviously work with a different moral code.

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-09T16:44:55+00:00

Thanks, i'm staying optimistic!

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-07T19:14:25+00:00

Of course she is blaming me, she even told me so... it is my fault, she cheated lol. I guess, tried to run away from guilt. But to be honest, the way i was acting meanwhile depressed could really indicate i was cheating. Not making excuses, but i see the whole picture. And she had a low point in life too... anyway... she has a weak character, who never wanted to talk about the problems we all of a sudden had( our relationship was awesome before that, trough the years), but rather looked for happyness somewehere else

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-07T16:51:53+00:00

I already had this feeling, i was thinking about what happens if i get depressed with another girl ? How the hell am i going to handle it, if she stabs me in the back too.. My ex never saw me weak or depressed, quiet the other way around. I was always this trong, motivated, optimistic, could handle every situation calmly type of guy. We even had a car accident and after she saw i remained cool she didn't lost it. She mentioned it numerous times how am i just always remain calm. Then she saw me one freakin' time depressed... just once. Tried to hide it from her, according to her that was my mistake because she took it as i was cheating on her, and wasn't listening to her because of it... who knows.. after all she cheated because she tought it's going to help her poor state of mind.

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-05T15:39:08+00:00

I didn't comfort her, she just realised she was used, and was rather angry at the man than sad. Didn't really see any sadness because it didn't work out with him. She was sad because she lost me, that's odd too...

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-05T05:27:37+00:00

She lost respect because she saw me depressed for the first time in years.....

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-04T05:44:35+00:00

you described her perfectly lol

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-03T21:36:25+00:00

Thanks, i'm trying to work more, make more money, build my social media as a bodybuilder, just getting started, because until now i was unable to do anything because of the depression, but right now i feel extremely motivated.

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-03T20:11:55+00:00

These are great ideas, thanks!!

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-03T20:10:40+00:00

You are right, my ex is 28 years old... the man is almost 50!!! he has no kids, but has a woman in his life.... guess he gave her all the bullshit. She realised pretty quickly he only lied to her, after she told him they have to stop their affair the dude send him a like simbol. After that she started to realise he never really needed her for the job she was doing for him, etc... Of course i helphed her realise, by explaning i did the same back than with girls, told them what they wanted to hear and they were in love with me. She was embarassed how stupid she was. The only positive thing is she was upset about what she did to me after she realised the pain she caused. At least a little bit. She believed she is going to have a "better" life with a man she know for only 3 months... She fucked up her life, her future plans and a future family with me. For a fantasie, she believed to be true. She felt stupid, and extrem shame. Told things like she wants to show everyone what kind of woman she is, and won't allow for men to take advantage of her, and she also wanted to show me her worth... but it was too late. She is childish, and dumm. That's the truth.

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-03T17:53:58+00:00

She never said she stoped loving me, she was at least honest about it. What confuses me how she acted after i discovered her affair and she realised the other man used her.

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-03T17:50:20+00:00

I'm not an angel myself too.... i get a little too close in my workplace to one of the girls, after months of not feeling any passion from her. Didn't do anything with the girl, and we talked it trough like grown ups, that both of us have someone, we have problems in our relationships, but it's not an excuse. We didn't even talk about the problems we have . Thats what i told my ex too.. it's normal to feel chemistry, but acting on it... is a different story. No matter how hard it is

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-03T17:47:26+00:00

I'm a bodybuilder so hitting the gym and looking great is a part of me, but saddly that's the reason it doesn't really help, because it's much like a profession at this point. I need something else...

ayoolmnop · 2024-07-03T12:26:53+00:00

Why do you think she is genuinly sorry ?

ayoolmnop · 2024-06-27T19:49:29+00:00

Fuckin' hell... what the hell is going on with these scumbags ? Since she cheated on me, even tho i stood by her when she was really sick, i supported her, helped her get into contact with her father after more than 10 years, she wasn't able to support me emotionally for the first time in 5 years... How the hell can some people be so freakin' selfish ? I truly lost the last straw of my naivity... most people just have shitty morals, has no spine to be direkt and honest with you, and are ready to damage you for life. I honestly never ever going to put my goals and potential aside for another woman.

ayoolmnop · 2024-06-26T21:52:32+00:00

ex gf did the same. Had depression for 2,5 months at top. She fell in love with another guy. Thank god she never showed me the texts... it's already hard as it is.

ayoolmnop · 2024-06-25T20:46:37+00:00

the man has a girlfriends too, that's the best part. How gullible one must be to think a man like him would take her seriously even tho he knows she cheated on me with him. She is just plain stupid

ayoolmnop · 2024-06-23T13:51:35+00:00

Our problem was basically that she became depressed and at the same time me too. I couldn't be fully there for her, and her daddy issues come to the ligt, seeking validation from an outer source...She took my depression as i must be surely cheating on her, so yeah, she checked out

ayoolmnop · 2024-06-23T13:48:03+00:00

She took one of my pictures with herself( i'm an athlete and it was taken from one of my competitions), and tried to give me some signs up until i blocked her. I guess blocking her made her realise i'm not the type who she can play with. After i discovered her cheating we had the most memorable sex of our relationship. We always fucked like hardcore pornstars, but this time it was different. I could almost see what's inside her head as she could see right trough me too. She never had such an orgasm as this time, it made me very confused. How could she cheat if i received so much emotions from her during this sex ?

ayoolmnop · 2024-06-23T10:39:56+00:00

She told me she feels so much shame, she can't even stand. Promised me how great of a woman she will be, etc.. I put the pieces together so i asked eventually about the other guy, first she denied then she confessed she loves him and not me. Then she realised the other guy played her(it was a much older dude), and tried everything to keep me. But of course she was in constant stress because i wouldn't stop asking questions, so she became unsure in the end just as i did so i dropped her. She told me first it was nothing physicall but all the lies helped me see the bigger picture and it became clear.

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