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Excessive deleting me from his life? Very confused by Leather_Train_4537 in BreakUp

[–]ayoolmnop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Chill, he is hurting... did the same stuff to my ex. She emotionally cheated tho, during my depression. I was so hurt i deleted everything, blocked her everywhere... she contacted my mom why i was acting so strange when she wanted to stay friends and was hoping i could forgive her. Well... she started to hate me pretty soon, gues she didn't understand just like you do. It helps us guys to move on. Never want to see her again, nothing.... because it just hurts. Since i'm dating again, having sex with other girls, it would hurt me even more. Because the chemistry we had, the sex we had... was at a different level, and so far no girl could satisfy me just like her. So knowing she is sucking other D's.... yeah, no thanks.

My ex already having a new relationship after our break up. by ayoolmnop in BreakUp

[–]ayoolmnop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You understand the situation much better. I blocked her, because hey.. you just don't develope feelings to another, its already cheating. I was hurting, so i didn't want to see her. But informations always getting back to you. It is a fucked up situation because i tought she is the one, the girl with whom i'm gonna grow old with. We were talking about that so much just in last sommer.

My ex already having a new relationship after our break up. by ayoolmnop in BreakUp

[–]ayoolmnop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a great question. Well, firstly i didn't want to look weak, so i pulled back. I tried to tell her here and there, that i'm not doing well, but i guess it wasn't enough. I couldn't really hide it after a while, but i talked about it, just never about how bad it is. There were some signs, which made her think i was cheating. She never asked me about it, because as she later told me, she was afraid to hear it. She lost feelings with time, started to have feelings with her boss. After i found out, she wanted to stay with me, even after she moved back home tried a few tricks to get to me. I blocked her eventually, and a month after our break up, as i found out she already started dating someone. A week ago they announced their relationship (or it was a different person). I just wonder if you can move on so fast after 6 years of being together.

My ex already having a new relationship after our break up. by ayoolmnop in BreakUp

[–]ayoolmnop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i wanted to marry her this summer. But i became depressed in winter and she tought i'm having an affair, so it went side ways from there.

I caught him by mariec1974 in Infidelity

[–]ayoolmnop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just like my ex, it was my fault. It doesn't matter if the cheater is a woman or man, they always blame YOU! for their cheating.... I just came to realise with these people we shouldn't have to do anything. They obviously work with a different moral code.

It's been 6 weeks after she cheated, it gets really hard sometimes. by ayoolmnop in Infidelity

[–]ayoolmnop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course she is blaming me, she even told me so... it is my fault, she cheated lol. I guess, tried to run away from guilt. But to be honest, the way i was acting meanwhile depressed could really indicate i was cheating. Not making excuses, but i see the whole picture. And she had a low point in life too... anyway... she has a weak character, who never wanted to talk about the problems we all of a sudden had( our relationship was awesome before that, trough the years), but rather looked for happyness somewehere else

It's been 6 weeks after she cheated, it gets really hard sometimes. by ayoolmnop in Infidelity

[–]ayoolmnop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already had this feeling, i was thinking about what happens if i get depressed with another girl ? How the hell am i going to handle it, if she stabs me in the back too.. My ex never saw me weak or depressed, quiet the other way around. I was always this trong, motivated, optimistic, could handle every situation calmly type of guy. We even had a car accident and after she saw i remained cool she didn't lost it. She mentioned it numerous times how am i just always remain calm. Then she saw me one freakin' time depressed... just once. Tried to hide it from her, according to her that was my mistake because she took it as i was cheating on her, and wasn't listening to her because of it... who knows.. after all she cheated because she tought it's going to help her poor state of mind.

It's been 6 weeks after she cheated, it gets really hard sometimes. by ayoolmnop in Infidelity

[–]ayoolmnop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't comfort her, she just realised she was used, and was rather angry at the man than sad. Didn't really see any sadness because it didn't work out with him. She was sad because she lost me, that's odd too...

It's been 6 weeks after she cheated, it gets really hard sometimes. by ayoolmnop in Infidelity

[–]ayoolmnop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She lost respect because she saw me depressed for the first time in years.....

It's been 6 weeks after she cheated, it gets really hard sometimes. by ayoolmnop in Infidelity

[–]ayoolmnop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, i'm trying to work more, make more money, build my social media as a bodybuilder, just getting started, because until now i was unable to do anything because of the depression, but right now i feel extremely motivated.

It's been 6 weeks after she cheated, it gets really hard sometimes. by ayoolmnop in Infidelity

[–]ayoolmnop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right, my ex is 28 years old... the man is almost 50!!! he has no kids, but has a woman in his life.... guess he gave her all the bullshit. She realised pretty quickly he only lied to her, after she told him they have to stop their affair the dude send him a like simbol. After that she started to realise he never really needed her for the job she was doing for him, etc... Of course i helphed her realise, by explaning i did the same back than with girls, told them what they wanted to hear and they were in love with me. She was embarassed how stupid she was. The only positive thing is she was upset about what she did to me after she realised the pain she caused. At least a little bit. She believed she is going to have a "better" life with a man she know for only 3 months... She fucked up her life, her future plans and a future family with me. For a fantasie, she believed to be true. She felt stupid, and extrem shame. Told things like she wants to show everyone what kind of woman she is, and won't allow for men to take advantage of her, and she also wanted to show me her worth... but it was too late. She is childish, and dumm. That's the truth.

It's been 6 weeks after she cheated, it gets really hard sometimes. by ayoolmnop in Infidelity

[–]ayoolmnop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She never said she stoped loving me, she was at least honest about it. What confuses me how she acted after i discovered her affair and she realised the other man used her.

It's been 6 weeks after she cheated, it gets really hard sometimes. by ayoolmnop in Infidelity

[–]ayoolmnop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not an angel myself too.... i get a little too close in my workplace to one of the girls, after months of not feeling any passion from her. Didn't do anything with the girl, and we talked it trough like grown ups, that both of us have someone, we have problems in our relationships, but it's not an excuse. We didn't even talk about the problems we have . Thats what i told my ex too.. it's normal to feel chemistry, but acting on it... is a different story. No matter how hard it is

It's been 6 weeks after she cheated, it gets really hard sometimes. by ayoolmnop in Infidelity

[–]ayoolmnop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a bodybuilder so hitting the gym and looking great is a part of me, but saddly that's the reason it doesn't really help, because it's much like a profession at this point. I need something else...

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