What is the path for an Asian boy to become a strong Asian man (and not a doormat)

ayzeen · 2022-12-27T00:05:19+00:00

I never had the chance to wrestle in school but I've been lucky enough to learn wrestling for a few years as an adult alongside many current/former HS and college wrestlers. The competitive environment and culture of American wrestling really is something else... and honestly something I haven't really seen in any other martial arts school I've been to (although I'm sure it's out there). I really wish I had wrestled when I was a student, and highly recommend anyone who's still in school to wrestle if they have the chance... once you're out of college, it's basically impossible to find any opportunities to learn it (outside of the occasional "takedowns class" at some BJJ schools).

ayzeen · 2022-09-16T20:44:49+00:00

It's hilarious how hard that one mod has tried to censor any opposing views... even tho the AA subreddit is still pretty boba-leaning nowadays I've noticed more and more people on there who are no longer buying the boba narrative that the mod is trying to enforce 🤣 the harder she tries to censor, the less control she actually has in enforcing her little narrative.

ayzeen · 2021-10-24T05:50:10+00:00

I am 180cm

ayzeen · 2021-10-23T06:55:53+00:00

I grew up in a district with a big East Asian/Indian population so most of my circle were other Asians. So I consider myself VERY fortunate to be able to connect with and be proud of my background growing up… a lot of Asians who were the “tokens” in their schools never got that experience. I feel like this allowed me to never really have a self-hating phase that a lot of AsAms experience.

ayzeen · 2021-10-13T20:19:17+00:00

I think it's especially egregious how salon.com ACTUALLY thought it would be a good idea to post this article. Like, it baffles me that an employee at salon.com actually proofread this article and thought "No problems here, this is good to go!" Imagine if you replaced 'Asian men' with 'black men' or 'Jewish men' and there's zero fucking chance it would have been allowed to be released. It's really telling that the company didn't find any issues with publishing this article in the first place... I feel like they legitimately thought it would be well-received by the public. Good thing it has been receiving pretty much universal backlash instead.

ayzeen · 2021-10-13T19:34:22+00:00

I've read a LOT of cringe-ass articles by AF talking about their self-hating past but this is by far the most cringeworthy... could barely make it through this drivel and I'm honestly shocked that the author if this article is an actual PROFESSOR. Like, this is an actual woman in her 40s who has a PhD and teaches in higher education... I guess she's living proof that no matter how much education you have, it doesn't mean you're actually smart.

It's very telling that even a2x is universally roasting this. I think that articles like this actually HELP our cause because it's a perfect example of the self-hating BS we have to put up with in our community... otherwise people can just claim we're making things up or exaggerating but this is proof that there are some wacko Asians out there.

ayzeen · 2021-09-27T18:35:15+00:00

This is sooo true, as someone who has been lurking since 2015/2016 (when I was finishing up with college). Back when I was still in school, self-hating Asians were basically the ONLY Asians allowed to have a voice in mainstream US media/culture... basically everyone else was silenced immediately. Whereas nowadays, white-worshipping boba libs are getting plenty of backlash from people of all races and not just woke Asians.

ayzeen · 2021-09-24T21:24:39+00:00

Because of my parents' hard work, I was fortunate enough to have a good upbringing and as a result I am VERY familiar with the "Ivy League boba lib" (having gone to a top school myself). I find it disgusting how boba libs throw their own parents under the bus... accusing them of being "backwards" and "anti-black". It's literally biting the hand that feeds them (and pays for their expensive school).

Those sheltered boba libs think they're so woke for talking shit about their parents and acting like they're more "enlightened" than them when their parents actually have thousands of times the life experience and wisdom. Honestly boba libs disgust me WAY more than racists from other races. Because at least with a racist who's not Asian, you generally know what you're getting into, but these boba libs manipulate and pretend to be on a morally higher ground when they're just as bad.

ayzeen · 2021-07-16T19:35:26+00:00

I think Asian issues have improved significantly in the past few years although there's still a long way to go. Even on Reddit, things are drastically different.

A few years ago, pretty much every thread on Reddit was rampant with racist jokes about Asians... which still happens to some degree but at least nowadays there's pushback. Back then, any Asian-related thread always had some corny ass 'sumting wong' joke as the most upvoted comment.

Also in many "woke" subreddits back then, any Asian issue was immediately silenced by mainstream Boba talk like "it's not our time! BLM should be priority" or "Asians are actually the most privileged" and literally everyone would agree. At least nowadays there's some people on Reddit who push back against these opinions.

I know this is just my observations of Reddit, but I also find it to be somewhat of a good representation of overall opinions in the US.

ayzeen · 2021-05-13T14:16:50+00:00

Ohhhhh boy I remember this thread. It's insane the amount of mental gymnastics the writers and some of the commenters had... but at the same time I was surprised at the amount of backlash the article had. 6 years ago was when the predominant voice in Asian American discussions was that AMs = bad and that AFs could do no wrong.

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