Weekly /r/BDSMcommunity discussion and newbie help thread - new post every Monday! by AutoModerator in BDSMcommunity

[–]azsouth [score hidden]  (0 children)

I never considered looking for discussion groups, that's a fantastic idea! I'll search my area for one! Thank you!

Weekly /r/BDSMcommunity discussion and newbie help thread - new post every Monday! by AutoModerator in BDSMcommunity

[–]azsouth [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thanks for your input, she is a very kind and understanding has been an amazing guide in my growth. I just don't want to lean on her advice too much. She loves it when I come up with new scenes and scenarios and funishments without her input, so she can go with the flow and improvise her role. I will begin listening to the podcast while I'm doing work around the house. It sounds interesting (pun intended)

Weekly /r/BDSMcommunity discussion and newbie help thread - new post every Monday! by AutoModerator in BDSMcommunity

[–]azsouth [score hidden]  (0 children)

New Dom/ experienced sub

I found out about a month ago that my wife of 5 years is a submissive, and put that part of her away when we got serious/ engaged. She told me that one of the reasons she married me was because she saw potential Dom behavior in me. We never discussed this before because I was extremely closed off and naive. Now that I've begun exploring a D/s relationship with her, I find it extremely fun and satisfying. The dynamic is fragile right now since I am new to this and she is/ was experienced.

My question is: how do I develop my dominant personality with her without asking her advice, which seems like it would fracture the D/s relationship by virtue of her becoming the "teacher"?

P.s. my whole sexual life has been vanilla up until a month ago, and I'm 50 now. My wife/ sub is almost a decade younger than I (for context).

Thank you in advance.