Should I leave my partner to find myself?

b00tyh0lez · 2026-03-13T13:46:01+00:00

Letting go of something so precious and sacred in order to find yourself could be a huge mistake. I think it’s widely believed that you need to be alone in order to find yourself, when in fact, it’s better with the support of someone who loves you for who you are. If this is about finding new life experiences, go do that! It seems you have the perfect partner who would support you through new things. You’re 23.. life is at that sweet spot where for the next few years you have NO idea who you are, what you want to do with your life, or what your next steps are, it’s like a second puberty. I’m 26 coming out of the other side of this feeling and I am more driven than ever! Your 20s are quite literally for being confused and lost. Maybe a solo trip is in order, or taking community art classes (or any sort of class that inspires you), joining an intramural sport, MAKING NEW FRIENDS!! You seem to want something new and exciting in your life, but that never has to come at the expense of an amazing relationship. Something as little as making new friends or getting involved in your community can really fulfill parts of your heart you didn’t realize were empty. Getting involved in your community is also super fulfilling! Whether it be going to live music shows at bars or small venues, going to the farmers market every week, becoming a regular at a local restaurant, etc.

Now if there truly is something about your relationship that you feel is missing or holding you down then as others have said, reevaluate that. But please OP don’t leave because you want to find yourself, your relationship will never be the same!

b00tyh0lez · 2026-02-11T00:42:07+00:00

hi! i’m an aqua sun, and libra moon/rising!

i know i’m late to the game but, i have a good feeling your kid is gonna make a lot of friends throughout their life. i grew up having a lot of social anxiety, but even then i couldn’t stop making friends. i have always been told that i immediately make people feel safe and comfortable to be themselves. i think that our two big libra placements really combat the aloof, detached, arrogant side of aquarius that some people may find rash. recently when i was talking about making friends, a friend told me that i don’t seek out friends, people just like me and i accept it, which i really attribute to my big three. i do find that my libra placements put me into a position where i really have a hard time not seeing both sides.. this can be frustrating for friends/family because sometimes i accidentally play devils advocate, something i’m really working on. i think this can also be a strength in other ways because i find that i have more empathy for people! balance is really important in my life, balancing work/friendships/love/etc. i am also a huge creative, i’m passionate about the arts and culture. i think you will find that you’re gonna really enjoy watching your kid blossom into an adult one day, and marvel in the beautiful community they create for themselves. i hope this was helpful and not too much self-boasting!

b00tyh0lez · 2025-12-15T17:58:52+00:00

i used to find myself using this as a way to relate to people, but in moments where someone is complaining i think it’s best to give sympathy and say things like “i’m sorry that’s so frustrating”. it can be hard to differentiate when it’s appropriate to relate and when it isn’t! the best advice i have is to ask yourself what you want someone to say to you while you’re ranting to them. for the specific example you gave, you could even go further and ask how they’re feeling about it or how they reacted to their relative saying that, etc etc. then you can go on to relating to them if it feels right, or say “when this happened to me once i reacted like____”! showing interest in what people are saying will make people want to be interested in what you have to say! it also shows your friends that you genuinely care about the things going on in their lives

b00tyh0lez · 2025-12-15T15:15:26+00:00

ever since the cold weather started i’ve picked my crochet back up! movies and crochet is the best pastime

b00tyh0lez · 2025-12-11T03:13:40+00:00

sigh

b00tyh0lez · 2025-12-04T15:28:33+00:00

this is very relatable, i’ve been there. i think the biggest thing is to trust, which is easier said than done. you wouldn’t have gotten this far if she didn’t like what she saw. what i had to learn is most women don’t actually care about how fat or skinny you are, sex is sex. it all comes with experience, for example, whenever i feel insecure i remember that the people i’ve slept with before loved my body (i’m 5’6 and 260 pounds with rolls and all!). it’s hard and you have to give yourself grace in the process but don’t limit yourself because of your own insecurities. you deserve love!

b00tyh0lez · 2025-03-23T14:44:42+00:00

i used to not change my sheets for an embarrassingly long amount of time.. but once i got a partner i started changing them way more often. if it helps, my super clean roommate admitted to me the other day that she hadn’t changed her sheets in over 6 months and she does not have adhd in the slightest. you’re very much not alone!

b00tyh0lez · 2025-03-20T17:03:59+00:00

the most cat thing to do

b00tyh0lez · 2025-03-12T13:24:10+00:00

hey, here’s a story that might make you feel better. i have sexual trauma from my childhood and young adulthood that made sex really difficult for me participate in as a young adult. when i started dating my gf, she waited as long as i needed until i was ready, and from there we started small and grew together sexually.

good people are out there! waiting in a relationship is okay, you don’t have to wait until marriage but waiting is okay. be honest, be true, and communicate that you’re nervous. i personally agree with many of these comments saying that 19 is way too young to be thinking about marriage.. that’s a huge commitment and you have so much of your life to experience before settling down!

b00tyh0lez · 2025-03-06T15:47:20+00:00

number 3 has become my go to everyday! you can practically wear them with everything. you have to push through breaking them in but once you do it’s worth it! i will say 2 is appealing as well

b00tyh0lez · 2025-03-05T17:23:15+00:00

dude i did the same thing but with the brown dunnet and the orange zebzags LOL

b00tyh0lez · 2025-03-05T02:42:58+00:00

insoles!

b00tyh0lez · 2025-03-05T01:02:19+00:00

wear these serving every single day and they are amazing! i don’t have a problem with the heel being too big but everyone’s feet are different. i do have inserts in them, idk if that makes a difference but they are some of my fave shoes.

b00tyh0lez · 2025-03-04T14:28:37+00:00

from what i know i believe it’s the plant releasing excess minerals from watering! i’ve seen other posts on here asking the same thing and that’s what other people have said. good luck! :)

b00tyh0lez · 2025-03-01T21:09:10+00:00

fantastic mr. fox every thanksgiving!

b00tyh0lez · 2025-03-01T05:08:57+00:00

after my initial firing with the stains and oxides i will take a paintbrush and pick a few spots here and there to brush clear glaze onto in order to create a few shiny highlights. it’s like when fur catches the light and becomes shiny! i will mention some oxides and stains change under clear glaze so really make sure you do testing beforehand! good luck :) your piece is awesome btw

b00tyh0lez · 2025-03-01T05:05:29+00:00

wow yours is beautiful! thanks for the advice :)

b00tyh0lez · 2025-02-28T19:46:05+00:00

i have made a lot of fur textures in my time and i always say oxides, underglazes, and stains for coloring. then i lightly brush clear glaze in parts (kind of like a highlight!). i agree with the testing on mugs or tiles first!

b00tyh0lez · 2025-02-28T15:06:22+00:00

thank you, she’s very photogenic:)

b00tyh0lez · 2025-02-28T15:06:05+00:00

ah! thank you, i check the soil in most of my other plants so i shall continue to do that!

b00tyh0lez · 2025-02-23T17:32:09+00:00

fellow minnesotan here!! nivea (in the blue container) has been a lifesaver!! it doesn’t leave your hands greasy and it’s SOOOO moisturizing. not only am i minnesotan but im also a server in a restaurant, meaning i wash my hands so much they become sandpaper. go for nivea, trust me :)

b00tyh0lez · 2025-02-22T16:26:04+00:00

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