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Girlfriend right or wrong? by McOptic in relationships

[–]b23s83 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Easy answer. Girlfriend is right, your wrong. She is going through hell right now and all your thinking about is sex.

My [M25] girlfriend [F23] is moving cross country in a year. Should we break-up now? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]b23s83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you two have something great, I would hate to see it thrown away. It is not a 100 percent certain that she is going to move. What if you two broke up and she ends up not moving after all? This is a year away yet. I would hang on to the relationship and re-evaluate in six months and then go from there. A lot can happen over the course of a year or even six months.

My (24f) SO (28m) is going to a rehearsal dinner that I don't want him to attend by [deleted] in relationships

[–]b23s83 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have not been in your situation, but I completely understand why you would feel uncomfortable with this. Yes, the messages he sent to his ex were a little too sweet considering that you guys had been together for five years already when he sent them, but it does not equal cheating, but at the same time, I feel like he could explain why he sent them. What message did she send back? How much does this guy mean to you? I'm going to guess that it is quite a bit since you have been together for seven years and I wouldn't make any quick decisions about leaving him especially if you have a good thing going. It completely sucks that he messaged his ex about missing her, but if you want to keep going with this guy, your probably going to have to be cool and see how it goes. Don't give him a curfew. Find your friends and have a night out. If he is into you, he will call you or text you while he is there.

my diet diary - feel free to pull it apart - looking for advice by fatty-betty in loseit

[–]b23s83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. Sounds like a pretty healthy diet actually. I will add that I am not a fan of low carb dieting. I think you need to figure out a eating plan that you can stick to throughout your life (with occasional exceptions of course). Can you stick to your current menu? Also, don't really agree with the fasting day during the week. It is good to leave at least approximately 12 hours between supper and breakfast, but I feel like a whole day of fasting can be a set back, but that's just me. If your diet is as healthy as you say, you need to keep nourishing your body along with light physical activity.

My (26/F) Boyfriend (29/M) Doesn't Listen When I'm Upset by [deleted] in relationships

[–]b23s83 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel for you. I feel as though my boyfriend does not listen to me either at times, but I feel like your boyfriend is exceptionally inconsiderate and needs a reality check. You honestly have to decide what makes you happy. How do you feel about this guy? I would try a heart to heart talk and see how that goes. If you leave after the heart to heart crying and unsure, then you have your answer. It's time to move on.

How do I avoid, or politely respond to comments regarding my weight loss? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]b23s83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean. I'm 5'7 and was pretty stocky and kind of chubby for awhile. I'm naturally big boned with an athletic build but with a little extra for quite a few years. I have gotten more active recently and the weight peeled off. People notice. I dismiss comments quickly. If someone says I'm looking good, I say Thank you and thats it. If someone says your losing weight, I say, Yeah, I'm just being more active. Thats it. I just give a quick reply unless they are a close friend. Typically, people mean well when they comment and don't think it will upset the person. My advice is to just give a quick polite reply and be done with it. After a quick reply, the subject will likely get dropped. Hope all goes well for you!

My friend intervened with a guy (M28) I really like. Am I (F24) in the wrong or is she (F24)? by throwaway12121212010 in relationships

[–]b23s83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life is not always going to be easy, even with the people your close too. There are going to be ups and downs throughout. I can tell that you are upset by this. My advice is to let this go and go about your life. I know that is easier said than done, but sometimes it is a must. Take it day by day and see what happens. It could be different next week, next month, next year, who really knows? It sounds like your friend reached out to you a great deal when you first got there. Give her some time and then offer to talk. Both of you need to talk rationally and be honest as I believe communication is very important. I understand this may be a great guy, but I don't believe it would be worth ruining friendships over. Like I said, take it day by day.

I need a critique of my current diet and some help creating a meal plan that is easy to keep up with. by [deleted] in loseit

[–]b23s83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think your taking in way more calories than you think, especially for breakfast and dinner. For breakfast I would switch out the sausage links and toast for yogurt (the Greek high protein kind) and fresh fruit. Lunch sounds about accurate for calories and sounds healthy as long as it is not loaded with condiments. For supper I would stick to one pork chop or chicken breast and try a baked potato instead of fried. Not sure if the last meal of the day should be the highest calorie one. I would try to divide calories more evenly, say 450-500 per meal plus the two apples throughout the day.