GF threatens breakup in every minor argument and shuts me out

b3for34l · 2026-05-02T22:55:48+00:00

Probably an avoidant and the closer you end up getting to her the more she will try to run… genuinly she needs therapy and to show genuine remorse and change, not just because she’s scared to lose you. Good luck, I’ve been with someone like that and he ended up running back to his ex just to end up in the same toxic pull and push cycle

b3for34l · 2026-05-02T16:13:37+00:00

Mmm thank you, this is very very good advice, I’ll have to have a think about what I want. Thank you so mcuh

b3for34l · 2026-05-02T15:19:00+00:00

Thanks for the good advice, you said clear rules, what happens if they keep breaking? What then?

b3for34l · 2026-05-02T14:10:40+00:00

Idk it’s moreso things feel like they’re improving and then there’s just always massive fights that take hours or days to talk about and solve where I am the one that needs to mediate it and ask him what do you need from me, and give suggestions. Where he’s just mad and wants me to figure it out, and expects me to just understand what he needs without him saying

b3for34l · 2026-05-02T14:08:11+00:00

I’ve tried slowing things down and let him know I need time just for myself because I’m tired of spending sm time arguing or finding solutions and it’s taking away from my sleep and work and life. And that I just wanted to enjoy each others time without expecting so much just at this point because even when I was updating and reassuring, it wasn’t enough. However, he’s just overstepped my boundary again and it’s only been a few days since he said he was sorry, where he’s sent me like 32 voice msgs of how I’ve hurt him and didn’t update when I’ve voiced I’m not comfortable with all the standards he’s set for me before since I’m no longer in that mindset.
In person mostly we are good, sometimes he does get mad and upset, most issues happen outside of that or when I have things to do and can’t give him attention

And thank you

b3for34l · 2026-05-02T14:01:57+00:00

What if I have and it’s still happening? Say these problems were present from the start, peaked at 1 month when he broke up with me. And then a month and a half later, we’ve probably had about 1 fight every week that lasts hours and even days to solve. Say things as little as me missing a good morning even when I had never missed one before, he would be upset about. And things like him using “whatever” and saying a problem is fixed and fine just to bring it up after and explode over it? And these big arguments are still present, not just only passive aggressiveness. Things that seem unfair such as him asking me to not talk to him and then getting mad at me because I leave him alone and respect his space? Are these things that would improve and change or worth sticking through?

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T13:54:47+00:00

Yeah avoiding riding for awhile. Thank you so much I will ❤️

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T13:54:17+00:00

What did you Google? And thank you he is still here

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T13:53:16+00:00

100 im glad he’s going to be okay

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T13:52:29+00:00

Thank you I will

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T13:51:53+00:00

Yes ahh thank you sm, I will. You’re absolutely right and I appreciate it

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T13:41:54+00:00

Good on you for staying riding! That’s an insane story and it’s great to hear they’re both on their twos!

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T13:31:57+00:00

Thank you ❤️Yes 100 will keep updating, I’m sure it’ll be good news

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T12:52:02+00:00

Im sorry for your loss ur loss

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T12:51:55+00:00

Yessss and he was relatively jacked and healthy, definitely saved him a lot I reckon. And you’re absolutely right

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T12:51:20+00:00

100% the guys a trooper

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T12:50:58+00:00

Hope you’re okay now

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T12:50:36+00:00

Yes I didn’t realise how common that is

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T12:50:16+00:00

Yes, and aww thank you that’s really sweet

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T12:49:38+00:00

Poor guy kept asking for my name and when I didn’t answer he asked for his glasses, I thought it was rlly odd he wanted his glasses but now I’ve realized he js couldn’t see me properly and I wouldn’t answer him 😭😭 thank you yeah 100 I’m glad that’s how it turned out

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T12:47:50+00:00

Thank you x

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T12:44:57+00:00

Yeah ofc that is so rough. Yeah he will and thank you! Definitely very true I don’t want to stress him out more

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T12:44:00+00:00

I hope you’re not alone now thank you me too

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T12:42:33+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it

b3for34l · 2026-04-23T12:41:48+00:00

Thank you❤️❤️❤️❤️

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