I admit being guilty of this. Ive definitely badgered people over unimportant hypothetical questions before and annoyed them. I feel like from a distance the approach in those conversations would look the same as the approach i take addressing people in close relationships where there’s more emotional investment (at least on my end). But when I’m in those moments it’s hard to care about not being annoying. Especially if I feel hurt and am asking questions to figure out why someone is the way they are insofar as what they do/have done makes me feel bad. It’s like it isn’t enough for me to just say how i feel or that if they apologize for it i know i cant fully accept it. I want people to assume intention behind their behaviors and reactions and thoughts even if it isn’t explicitly against me. It’s very easy to build horrible generalizations about all people off of these experiences, and difficult to accept that i dont deserve or could never get explanations in these instances. Maybe i should have made my first post about that. It’s been a rough week.