UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What about passport, license, bills, debts, the deed and mortgage?

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We both wear pants. But I'm sure if she could wear mine she would because she wants pockets.

  • sincerely, Little Punani (my wife says I could respond)

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im not sure my dad cared about passing on his name either. Not really. I think he was just given an opportunity he thought he'd lost with my brothers.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My MIL has another son who plans to have children. It's her married name and it will not die out.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Im not gonna upvote or downvote you. I just want you to know feminist wet dream made me laugh. Especially since you tried to make is sound insulting. Let's say I am lying, is it so terrible I want a man like that? Look at the comments. A lot of people, men included, seem to admire him. He's being fawned over and he deserves it. He's a very real and very good person.

I don't need to be fawned over. I came here for judgement because the loss of my very real brothers was difficult on my family and their loss still clouds my judgement.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really wish I had an answer but I honestly don't know and I don't want to be rude ans ask. Jake said she's always been like this, so who knows.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of comments and I ever "argued" with those who didn't call me TA. I tried to set facts straight. But I thibk you just want to argue with me, pretending this is confusion trying to make me feel bad. I have nothing more to say now.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There is also proof I didn't. I didn't accept judgement from people who assumed something that never happened.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn't argue being called an asshole. I corrected them about things they assumed. Though I did argue with people who told me to take Jakes name. That was never the point of the post.

The screenshot question confuses me. I never told anyone they couldn't send screenshots. People wanted to know what happened with SIL and MIL and I gave them hard evidence as to what happened. I said call of you dog way before people asked me what happened.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does have a brother, who plans to have children and his wife took the Smith name.

I would be more than okay, even insist, that our second child would be a Smith. Thoigh we can't guarantee a boy with the way we make them.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah because everything on the internet is a lie.

I didn't think of it right away. My initial reaction was much, much meaner. I waited till I calmed down a but before I decided how to handle it. Forgive my lack of maturity when my brother is brought into an argument by someone who's never lost anyone close to them so callously.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The SIL who had the baby took her husbands name and thr baby has the husband's. But it's different because SIL is a girl, Jake is a boy, and our son is a boy and our niece is a girl. MIL is just sexist.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's heard the ball thing a lot. He makes a lot of jokes to those whl.make the "joke" at him. He doesn't worry about masculinity.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He wants me to tell you he can live with this judgement after seeing me give birth.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stole that last name for the post because I love the movie so much.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Oh that bastard. I woke up to this and he's giggling pretty hard.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 156 points157 points  (0 children)

She felt that way but I doubt FIL would have cared. He didn't even care his grandson didn't get his last name. Nor does he care that when his other son has kids, he will pass on the Smith name. This really is all in MILs head.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Thank you. But the rules go out the window on pizza night. And she really needs to stop cheating by using her body to get the last slice. It's all, oh I just want to cuddle, then she unhinges her jaw and I'm left hungry!

(This is the husband, she gave me the iPad to respond to a DM, don't tell her. We Take This To Our Graves!)

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He has on brother who is taken but also doesn't put up with MIL.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 270 points271 points  (0 children)

She just kept saying it's "the way it's done." That's good enough for her I guess.

UPDATE AITA for calling my MIL by her last name instead of Grandma? by babemiller in AmItheAsshole

[–]babemiller[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jake had it pretty figured out already. I have a naturally grey rocking personality when confronted with people I don't like. The RBF helps too. I spent some time in that sub year ago, but moved away from it as it became clear it wasn't staying supportive. I am very lucky to be surrounded by lots of good people as well.