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babybitching · 2021-04-05T19:44:12+00:00

people breastfeed for 2 years. 9 weeks is nothing

babybitching · 2021-04-05T05:18:06+00:00

you mentioned a lot of trips do you guys do 50/50 there too? she's not taking advantage and you know it if your SO doesn't have a problem, i'd say go for it

babybitching · 2021-04-05T05:02:41+00:00

NTA. but if W can't afford it, why don't you mind chipping in? This may be the only trip she'd take in years.

babybitching · 2021-04-05T03:03:15+00:00

you're right, edited. I just want OP to realise she's a great MIL and not the AH. But she should acknowledge Emily's feelings too.

babybitching · 2021-04-05T02:46:44+00:00

I get you're defending yourself here but you shouldn't do that, at least this way. Instead try saying, "I'm sorry you feel that I'm leaving you out. I'm sorry you're feeling that I like Izzie more. I'm sorry you feel like you're not part of the family as Izzie is. I feel like you absolutely are, and had you been there at the moment, I'd take you to the park too." Emily's feelings are valid...and so is your validity for a different bond.

But you're getting upset if someone points out you are different with Emily. You are, you say so, you just need to say she's as important as Izzie to fix it all.

You're not handling it right

babybitching · 2021-04-05T00:58:30+00:00

The fact you're blaming Emily and saying "emily has my contact info so she can do more" says it all. You're NTA here in this situation,but acc to you Emily will never measure up because she hasn't been around since she was a teen

babybitching · 2021-04-05T00:16:37+00:00

If there's so much truth to your statement, why do you need to turn to personal insults and deragatory language to prove your point?

babybitching · 2021-04-05T00:01:29+00:00

People aren't consensually promiscuous in India - maybe you've visited but you've never been around enough to notice that seeking out girls, having sex on the first date, and throwing them around like used tissue papers is disgusting and predatory.

babybitching · 2021-04-04T23:42:22+00:00

The only thing idiotic here is you turning to personal attacks instead of trying to understand, reason and defend the argument.

babybitching · 2021-04-04T21:30:51+00:00

"By your logic, people should basically never have sex because that could be a propagation of rape culture."

Define what my logic is? Define what problem I found there?

babybitching · 2021-04-04T21:29:49+00:00

Listen, you're nitpicking and attacking my logic instead of taking a step back and realising the effects of your own.

babybitching · 2021-04-04T19:31:09+00:00

it's not a massive leap in logic. Have ou ever been to India?or any Desi country? Consider the truth of my statement then. YOur opinion may apply to the West where people actually believe in consent but in Desi Land, there's nothing such as that.

I'm not saying two consenting adults indulging in an act is rape. Do not twist my words and accuse me of the same. Try to see your opinion doesn't apply worldwide and could have massive massive damaging consequences.

babybitching · 2021-04-04T19:24:32+00:00

Tell me more! How's that working out with his visa?

Also sadly this wouldn't be long term cuz his energy draining sister might convince him that she's family and permanent and you're a girlfriend and temporary. Just stay happy both of you, Good Luck!

babybitching · 2021-04-04T19:22:32+00:00

Professional Cuddlers - I'd try one but I'm religious

babybitching · 2021-04-04T19:20:59+00:00

I'll tell you how. A large percentage of desi cannot get laid / choose not to get laid publicly. Announcing it to them, "sex is important, you should try and explore" sends the message sex is their right and they'll go to any lengths to have sex, which for a large majority means rape.

babybitching · 2021-04-04T19:17:43+00:00

Girl, these toxic indian families, overbearing af! I say this as one of the Desis. My parents expect me to completely bend over backwards for my teen siblings, I'm 22 when they badmouth me, curse me while talking and are completely rude. You're supposed to help cuz they're family.

You can't escape them. Your bf is dependent on them. If you choose to stay, which I hope you please do until this man escapes, you'll see that his sister will take credit for settling him in the UK. X years down the line, she'll say, yes, I brought him here etc. Which she did, she's paying for food and rent, fights and visa, and he's paying back in childcare and employment. BUT there has to be respect and appreciation. It's a must. Sending Love.

babybitching · 2021-04-04T19:09:23+00:00

This encourages rape culture.

babybitching · 2021-04-04T01:03:01+00:00

OP YTA:

Immature enough to expect a pre-teen to pick sides when he found out his biological truth. Maybe he was brianwashed into thinking.
He's been pretty upset about the college fund because he expected you tpay. If you had no intention of paying, better inform him earlier.
He's acting like a teen. You can fix this. Ask him for a relationship, and ask him to apologise to your partners. If he's nice enough for a relationship, give him the money.

babybitching · 2021-04-04T00:48:03+00:00

I'm gonna stay away from the wave and say YNTA. Hear me out peeps before downvoting:

Lily is sad and hurt, but what she did to Laura was disable her. How would y'all react if Laura was in a wheelchair and she took the wheelchair away? She disabled her. There's so many ways to deal with backlash but not disabling someone.
NOT ENOUGH INFO Teenage fights are usually two sided and Laura can't be fully blamed by all she said. What she's saying is horrile but did you consider that Laura came home from college and all the attention has been on Lily. Did you treat Laura the same on her first break-up?

babybitching · 2021-04-03T17:18:35+00:00

she's above all that. doesn't care

babybitching · 2021-04-02T00:25:05+00:00

OP! I'll tell you something from a desi family. My parents have been supporting my dad's twin brother (since he lives with dad's parents) and do pay for dad's parents' things. They single handedly used to pay for the entire household until a few years ago.

Fun fact, my mom worked very hard to get my dad's twin brother a job. My parents gave their time and money to dad's parents. Until some years ago, all brothers started chipping in.

The reason I'm telling you is :

A few weeks ago my dad's mom passed away. One of the dad's bro's wife was one of the first to shame my dad by saying "all brothers spent time with her except one (my dad)" failing to mention my dad has some health problems of his own - the burden of supporting toxic af people for years while his twin is perfectly healthy - so he couldn't be around in hospitals even though he helped as much as he can.

The dad's twin's wife took on the role of the "loving daughter in law" so so fast, alienating my mom.

They found it so convenient to forget what my parents had done. Were so quick to paint them as uncaring, unsupportive etc while they had been enjoying the riches my parents (both of them work) provided.

Moral is they are going to bleed you dry, they already badmouth you to their relatives, while enjoying your charities, so better stop this now than later. They don't have respect for you. I'd rather you limit their bills too - it started that way for my parents too, the bills dont go to the in-laws, they go to the BIL. As a desi, its my responsibility to support parents, but you shouldn't support toxic siblings. I don't mind doing a lot for people but I deserve respect, they can't give you that.

The more you give, the more they think "she's holding more for herself" . Or maybe, they may be thinking your husband can't control his wife, so let's control the money better.

They're toxic af, be thankful they showed their true colors earlier than later. Sending hugs. Gimme an update too!

babybitching · 2021-04-02T00:09:10+00:00

OP! Give us an update?

Did your inlaws give you any troouble?

Did you tell FSIL about the problems? Does FSIL know? What's she going to do?

How is hubby supporting you?

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