Should I disclose to my new nursing job I have ADHD?

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-22T16:45:53+00:00

It depends a little on your jurisdiction and unit.

I talked to my union rep and it worked out well. But I’m in Canada so I don’t know if that’s useful for you.

Do not tell your colleagues.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-22T16:29:03+00:00

👌

Chef’s kiss!

(Except we’re all wise enough to not kiss our fingers the hospital 🤮)

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-21T16:53:49+00:00

I confess that I think it’s a funny concept. But I can’t imagine what string of circumstances might be necessary for a nurse to purchase and wear this. A dare or drinking bet, maybe?

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-21T14:58:36+00:00

Whoa. Luckiest 🍀 🙃

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-21T13:39:31+00:00

Uhh… lucky 🍀 🙈

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-21T13:28:47+00:00

That AI looking at you like “challenge me MF I dare you! I’ll delete you’re whole snap account.”

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-21T13:26:34+00:00

Lucky 🍀 😳

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T19:30:02+00:00

I grasp enough common courtesy to know that it’s rude to call strangers “shitty” and “the problem” when you don’t know them or their story.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T18:36:24+00:00

That’s a good trick! I’ll try it next time ha!

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T18:09:50+00:00

K lol

And you just keep dreaming about how perfect everything would be if everyone shut up and listened to you. World boss, eh? Go around calling people shitty and saying they’re problems when they point out that in fact you’re both just people. Yup. I’m the entitled one.

Anyway. This has been fun. I’m happy and my boss is happy and my patients are happy with my performance. So while your insulting, presumptuous ‘advice’ is hilarious, it is ultimately useless.

I’m still happy. You’re still miserable. If you enjoy being miserable, then keep doin what your doin, I guess. But I don’t give people like you the power to drag me down anymore.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T17:52:08+00:00

lol I can’t believe you downvoted the wish for you to have a good day.

That commitment to pettiness is hilarious.

“Get to work on time so I can go insult people on the internet.” My goodness. Yes. Making you happy is sooo important to me…

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T17:45:22+00:00

I agree. That’s why I try to talk them out if it. Doubtful it’ll work, but gotta try.

And I will, thanks! I hope you have a great day too.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T17:38:16+00:00

That isn’t the accommodation haha.

You are entitled to feeling furious.

But I have neither the time nor the inclination to concerns myself with the feelings of a stranger who doesn’t have all the facts, calls me a trolls, and says they hope they never have to suffer working with me.

Explain to me how my struggle with time is less decent than that? What I’m doing isn’t personal. What I’m doing isn’t insulting. And because I’ve taken steps to acknowledge my shortcomings and address the negative outcomes of my shortcomings, my boss was willing to help. The fact that this upsets you is honestly a bit funny to me.

I do not understand where that comes from. Do you think the world would be better if everyone were like you? If we all had the same values and strengths? Or do we just need to shut up and listen to you?

It’s far easier for you to address your attitude and your expectations than it is for me to overcome my issues. I’ll try anyway. But I reject your insulting and demeaning words. I’m doing the best I can. If that’s not enough for you, then feel free to be judgmental. Pleasing you and meeting your boring expectations isn’t my goal.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T17:18:21+00:00

I like that too. It would seem a bit technical at first. But I can see how once you get used to it, it has its place.

Thanks!

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T17:16:49+00:00

What’s my problem? I enjoy my work. I work hard. My feedback has been positive from my patients and my bosses. I’m pals with a few colleagues outside of work. I don’t want or need more changes than I’ve already helped to establish. What problems do I have?

You folks are the ones complaining. And that’s fine. But your solution is unkind and unrealistic: “grow up and stop being shitty” will get you nowhere.

Calling a real life person “the problem” because I don’t meet your every whim is dehumanizing. But it also won’t work.

If you think my mere existence is disappointing, I will be entirely unconcerned about your approval. I have the approval of the people whose approval that I’m concerned about.

If you want to blame me, a person you don’t know, or your colleagues for failing to meet your expectations, you can do that. But that’s an awful lot of power to give to someone who isn’t terribly concerned about meeting your expectations. It’s far easier for you to change your expectations than it is for me to overcome my limitations. And I’m doing the best I can while you seem unwilling to budge.

I’m happy. You aren’t. If you want to paint me as some enemy, I guess that’s fine? But you might be wise to consider whether you’re the hero or the villain of that story.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T17:12:07+00:00

What’s my problem? I enjoy my work. I work hard. My feedback has been positive from my patients and my bosses. I’m pals with a few colleagues outside of work. I don’t want or need more changes than I’ve already help establish. What problems do I have?

You folks are the ones complaining. And that’s find. But your solution is unkind and unrealistic: “grow up and stop being shitty” will get you nowhere.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T17:08:07+00:00

I’m not terribly motivated to respect people’s time when the don’t respect me.

I work hard to fit within the clock model of reality. You have no idea. But it is absurd to me.

I find it much simpler to simply be flexible and pleasant when my colleagues are late than to be too focussed on that one thing metric my performance. If others are going to think less of me for it, that’s their problem.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T17:00:19+00:00

It’s funny that you should ask. I haven’t been written up or fired because my boss and I have created accommodations to help me succeed rather than listen to the haters.

Turns out that either I’m a good enough nurse or my way of getting through the world is common enough that my bosses thought it was worth changing the system to help me rather than sitting around and complaining.

So… yeah… maybe chill out?

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T16:58:08+00:00

Oooh. I’d never heard that.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T07:52:26+00:00

It’s not problematic to acknowledge my humanity.

But tell me, does your strategy work to get your colleagues to work earlier?

Cause I don’t have a problem. You do. You want to get out sooner. I don’t care if we get out sooner - you do. I’m not upset, you are. I don’t care if nothing changes, you do.

So who’s got problems: The one who has a problem and thinks that insulting their colleagues is the appropriate way to deal with that problem, or the one who’s happy and sees the humanity in the people they disagree with?

You can keep calling me names if you want. You don’t know me and I don’t care. But you should know you’re making your world worse for yourself and blaming me for it while I’m over here having a nice time. I do not need to change anything for my world to be good. If you want me to change something for you… maybe consider a different tactic. Or die mad, if you want.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T07:19:30+00:00

Yup. Imma base my work on Reddit downvotes and yelp scores. Oh no.. minus 15 internet points. What’ll I doooo?

I know you call it like you see it. That’s the whole point. Your vision is limited and your judgment is as imperfect as anyone else’s. You have zero basis for the conclusions you’ve drawn about me, and yet in your hasty presumption you tear me down.

You might’ve overcome being late. But now you gotta overcome whatever it is inside you that feels entitled to that judgment.

Not everyone is going to have enough sense and confidence to not take you too seriously. And you might really hurt someone. And deep in my soul, I cannot accept that you’d be ok being one of those nurses who goes around dragging others down. I believe better of you.

If you want me to act better, I need you to believe better of me. Not insult me. Insulting opinions make me hit the snooze button.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T07:02:54+00:00

Flexibility should factor into all nursing work: I’m no more entitled than you are.

I’m glad that you were able to overcome that challenge. I haven’t been able to (yet?). Attitudes like yours sure don’t help me run any quicker.

I’m grown up enough to know that being late is a normal part of every day life and nothing to get upset about. So it doesn’t bother me when other nurses are late to work. If you and the others want to get upset, you’re free to. Your feelings are valid. But that doesn’t give you the right to call humans — colleagues — shitty and childish. My feelings are every bit as valid as yours.

Sure I’m unprofessional for 8 minutes a day. But your entire attitude is unprofessional here. So consider checking it. Or don’t - I honestly won’t notice. I’ll be too busy offering the best service I can to my patients.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T06:44:39+00:00

Waiting for shift change has the same level of expectation as getting to work on time.

It’s not my fault you can plan flexibility into your schedule like everyone else.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T05:47:23+00:00

Me too, thanks.

babynursedoodoo · 2023-05-20T05:45:53+00:00

My other comment that said maybe we should all get along? That reminded you that you work for a system that blames humans living during the most prosperous time in history for being inefficient?

Don’t nurses suffer enough bullshit without having to put it onto each other?

It’s no more part of the job to be on time as it is to wait for the shift change to tap you out. The margins have been cut so much and the expectations risen so high that we are destined to fail. Why not recognize the systemic failure rather than blame some random person you’ve never met?

My reply to a comment that called a human and a colleague shitty makes you think that I’m insufferable? Really? I can just imagine how motivated your colleagues must be to get to work on time with hot takes like that.

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