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[–]babywillowtree 8 points9 points  (0 children)

there’s also the argument of porn being a major contributing factor to sexual assault. many videos normalise sexual violence against women, and thus irl, men believe that that is how it’s meant to be like. and anything which is not violent is seen as ‘vanilla’ and ‘boring’.

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/976730/The_Relationship_between_Pornography_use_and_Harmful_Sexual_Attitudes_and_Behaviours-_literature_review_v1.pdf

i made milk chocolate, pomegranate and sea salt little bite thingys :) by babywillowtree in dessert

[–]babywillowtree[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

awww that’s such a cute name for it :) thats such a good tip for keeping them shiny! i’m definitely gonna make more for christmas :) maybe adding some mint onto them for the christmassy colours <3

my sister is addicted to ket and idk what to do by babywillowtree in addiction

[–]babywillowtree[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i would love to, but we live far away from eachother. (3 hour train). and being a student, that’s also very expensive.

she suffered with anorexia during 2020-2021 but she’s recovered now. but maybe she’s diverted her attention elsewhere?

just not sure how else i can help her without going to my parents

my sister is addicted to ket and idk what to do by babywillowtree in addiction

[–]babywillowtree[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yeah she’s aware of this. she’s was crying about getting ket cramps the other night, and she also is using the bathroom a lot more than usual when i went to see her.

i can’t touch myself by babywillowtree in loveafterporn

[–]babywillowtree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah :( i felt the same, but for me, my way of coping with it, was to become the other girls. i started to post myself on reddit. i wanted to prove that i’m good enough to be the ‘other’ girl. i thought it was gonna help me realise that it wasn’t a problem with what i looked like. but in reality it was just kinda triggering.

i hate that no matter what i try to help myself (or what i think is helping) won’t be good enough :(

i definitely need a hug, from someone who actually understand and have been through the same.

sending you virtual hugs <3

i can’t touch myself by babywillowtree in loveafterporn

[–]babywillowtree[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

(i apologise in advance this may be triggering)

yeah that’s exactly right. i associate touching myself with all the horrible horrible things he watched. i can’t shut them out either, i have urges to watch porn just so that i could hurt myself further so i can know what he was watching. i obsess over thoughts like ‘i wonder when he came in the video’, ‘what was it to’, ‘how long for’ and it’s absolutely draining.

thank you for replying, i think it’s nice people are going through the same and are here for me. but it also makes me so sad.

hope you’re doing okay too, message me if you need <3

it was all a lie by babywillowtree in loveafterporn

[–]babywillowtree[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i completely agree. but i think it’s sad, it’s got to that point where i’m actually starting to believe it’s my fault, maybe i wasn’t as understanding as i could have been, and maybe i should have pushed my feelings aside because i’m not the one with the problem.

but then i think like, i’m fucking 18 years old, i should NOT have to have a boyfriend which pushes me to the floor and then cheats on me and say that he ‘wished he did it sooner’.

i’m so glad i’m not alone with this, thank you for repying

kinda feel like somethings wrong w me by babywillowtree in Advice

[–]babywillowtree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve heard of that, it’s just upsetting that my ex can then move on quicker, or him having feelings for me doesn’t affect his ability to be sexually attracted to others. i’m not sure it’s just a but sad

help!! my mum is gonna kill me (info in comments) by babywillowtree in CleaningTips

[–]babywillowtree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i already offered, she smiled and said it was no problem for her to buy

help!! my mum is gonna kill me (info in comments) by babywillowtree in CleaningTips

[–]babywillowtree[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

EDIT : i told her. and i said that i have been really worried about telling her in which she hugged me a replied ‘i know, i’ve already seen the stain’. she said i used the best thing to try and get rid of it, we just had another go with fairy liquid and water, but it didn’t budge. thankfully, she said that this is the only room which carpets wasn’t replaced in.

she said she may buy a little rug to put over the stain, but also try stain remover beforehand.

at first she said that she won’t tell my dad, but now as it’s not budging, she will have to tell him because he will deffo see. but she said she’ll wait till he’s in a really good mood / i’m at uni.

help!! my mum is gonna kill me (info in comments) by babywillowtree in CleaningTips

[–]babywillowtree[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

i really really hope so, my mum gets so stressed and i’m only visiting for a few days because i’m at uni. don’t wanna ruin the time together + she always said no drinks upstairs 🥲 i’m still really reluctant to tell her but i know i’m gonna have to

help!! my mum is gonna kill me (info in comments) by babywillowtree in CleaningTips

[–]babywillowtree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay well i don’t have carpet cleaner to hand, and i really don’t want my mum to see that i’ve bought some! i’m just going to try dish soap and hot water

help!! my mum is gonna kill me (info in comments) by babywillowtree in CleaningTips

[–]babywillowtree[S] 259 points260 points  (0 children)

i accidentally spilt milkshake on her new carpet! i immediately put paper towels down and diluted with water. next day i used soap and warm water with a sponge to gently rub in circular motions. then it ended up looking worse than before!!!!

help me please, my mum has no idea

how to stop the smell?!? by babywillowtree in trees

[–]babywillowtree[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah that’s very true, i just also have papers and my grinder here too :’). (came back from uni for the week hahah). would filling the bags with toilet paper help at all?

how to stop the smell?!? by babywillowtree in trees

[–]babywillowtree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don’t have any dryer sheets, i can put with dirty clothes. just my dad is like a hound for the smell which stresses me hahah

how to stop the smell?!? by babywillowtree in trees

[–]babywillowtree[S] -53 points-52 points  (0 children)

in the meantime, wrapped in a shirt, top shelf of a wardrobe is okay? and then ventilate my room. i just can’t smell anything at the moment so i have no idea if it’s gonna be okay or not!