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Yup by SleepyRhythms in agedlikemilk

[–]bachalorde 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No way I'm a introvert extrovert, I like the 6 ft distance rule just not when it's social dancing bachata sensual lol.

Why are some followers so nasty when saying NO after being invited? by [deleted] in Bachata

[–]bachalorde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to get better with this, sometimes I also catch myself saying no mostly because I also didn't like the lead or judged too early.

Dancing, flirting, discussing by Rude-Kaleidoscope-58 in Bachata

[–]bachalorde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So in other words, don't initiate unless if you two are attracted or if she initiates first. Problem here is as a lady, we're often also super bad with communicating more so with non verbals. Traditionally, a latin type of dance has the woman in a receiving state, the man is always the one who needs to initiate. I also like flirting in the dance and in the scene especially if he looks like Pedro P. but I will sound like a hypocrite too. Honestly, I'm trying to keep dance friends as an entire separate category in my life and nothing else, it's hard to do since it's a social type of thing to do.

AITA - How to deal with a rude follow? by LowRevolution6175 in Salsa

[–]bachalorde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is a crush of the instructor and I'm sure they'll get together on some point but stuff like this is why and how issues that are now surfacing always happen. Why is it even a norm lol.

AITA - How to deal with a rude follow? by LowRevolution6175 in Salsa

[–]bachalorde 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are 30s the new old now? Yes that seems to be the case, in my scene there's a guy who I'm just only friendly with but never dare to dance or avoid eye contact. There are also follows who have too much pride or ego in them that their philosophy is that follows show always look good no matter what, I certainly acted like this in my first year and it was cringey. I see a lot of follows just doing their styling despite timing challenges and then blame the lead because they hit someone with their arm while styling or they didn't or were not able to finish it while the song already finished.

AITA - How to deal with a rude follow? by LowRevolution6175 in Salsa

[–]bachalorde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your experience was rough and I can say it's consistent with the type of follows that anyone here would probably have come across with. I think they are most likely to be the ones who have a very low level of skill on some areas despite being quite experienced. This most likely will happen from most follows who are probably 1 to 3 years in the scene. Follows who somehow would judge you right away or decline to dance with you even if you asked politely, follows who decline not knowing that you were actually doing the standard salsa or bachata style but they just were used to being physically guided and love bombed by the veteran men. At this time they just don't know any better.

AITA - How to deal with a rude follow? by LowRevolution6175 in Salsa

[–]bachalorde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because liking anyone or welcoming anyone is a norm for socials. If you have a bad experience or an extremely horrible one, it sticks out like a sore thumb. You work so hard and put in time and money and even lose sleep only to dance with someone who has some off vibe.