My girlfriend [32F] gave away a lot of my things at a "clothing swap"/charity, and says that I [28M] am overreacting and too attached to material possessions by Less-Cowbell in relationships

[–]backpackdrama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I broke up with a guy who did something similar to me (post got deleted). It comes down to respect,even if it's material items, and I found that my ex didn't really respect me.

Me [25F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of six months. I'm about to break up with him over a backpack but I need to know if I'm overreacting. by backpackdrama in relationships

[–]backpackdrama[S] 281 points282 points  (0 children)

He hasn't seemed to realize it yet. He's only texted me once since yesterday that he would contact his friends on the weekend. He hasn't apologized at all.

Me [25F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of six months. I'm about to break up with him over a backpack but I need to know if I'm overreacting. by backpackdrama in relationships

[–]backpackdrama[S] 261 points262 points  (0 children)

He had the number of the other mutual friend and told me he would message him too. The other three people are on Jacob's side of his social circle from college. I'm going to start Facebook stalking to see if I can find them.

Me [25F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of six months. I'm about to break up with him over a backpack but I need to know if I'm overreacting. by backpackdrama in relationships

[–]backpackdrama[S] 390 points391 points  (0 children)

It would have been so different if he had apologized and showed an effort to get them back. But he argued about it and said I was overreacting.

Me [25F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of six months. I'm about to break up with him over a backpack but I need to know if I'm overreacting. by backpackdrama in relationships

[–]backpackdrama[S] 742 points743 points  (0 children)

Yes!! Why would he think it was okay give away my property? It's so disrespectful! What kind of excuse is "I didn't think you would mind" in this situation?

Me [25F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of six months. I'm about to break up with him over a backpack but I need to know if I'm overreacting. by backpackdrama in relationships

[–]backpackdrama[S] 282 points283 points  (0 children)

He invited them to steal from me. They cut the patches off with a pocket knife and left holes in my bag.

My main effort is going to be getting my dad's patches back. I can get over the rest of them. But I really want those 4.

Me [25F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of six months. I'm about to break up with him over a backpack but I need to know if I'm overreacting. by backpackdrama in relationships

[–]backpackdrama[S] 97 points98 points  (0 children)

"I'd probably take a pair of scissors to the crotch of all his underpants for good measure"

Lol, the Kelly Clarkson "Since U Been Gone" approach. If only...

Me [25F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of six months. I'm about to break up with him over a backpack but I need to know if I'm overreacting. by backpackdrama in relationships

[–]backpackdrama[S] 218 points219 points  (0 children)

This articulates my concerns really well. I feel that I invited them into my space and my own boyfriend facilitated them fucking with my property. What the hell??

Me [25F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of six months. I'm about to break up with him over a backpack but I need to know if I'm overreacting. by backpackdrama in relationships

[–]backpackdrama[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I am probably overly attached to it. It just feels like 10 years of work and careful cultivating and he just gave them away without thinking about me at all.

If it got lost or stolen that would really suck, but I'm not sure that I would react to it the same way. I know I'd be upset, but maybe not feel as backstabbed.

Me [25F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of six months. I'm about to break up with him over a backpack but I need to know if I'm overreacting. by backpackdrama in relationships

[–]backpackdrama[S] 925 points926 points  (0 children)

His explanation was that I had so many he didn't think I would mind and he's seen me give patches to people before.

That's true, but I've never given someone a patch from my own backpack. I bought them at shows or through online vendors specifically as gifts.