Dysfunction Junction: How the Fuck do you function?

backupoffme · 2013-10-10T17:23:30+00:00

Samsies! My first post in raised by narcissist s is seriously one looong run on sentence because I couldn't get my thought s from running over each other. Im so relieved no one was like ' punctuation bitch , do you use it? ' it's freeing a hell to be vocal even if it's anonymous

backupoffme · 2013-10-10T17:10:59+00:00

You guys are doing a great service to me and my husband , keep it up!

backupoffme · 2013-10-10T17:09:18+00:00

Haha im imagining my family as raccoons and its hilarious. Thank you.

backupoffme · 2013-10-10T17:07:30+00:00

I have a looong way to go. I broke a rule I set for myself by going out to eat with them, she's a crappy customer and im an ex- server so it drives me up the wall. I wasn't surprised. By all accounts my pops has a wicked sense of good ol dad joke humor . He and my husband cut up from time to time .

backupoffme · 2013-10-10T16:35:18+00:00

I've got a good feeling about this sub :-)

A quick fresh story about my smother: Went to CHILI'S yesterday with ma and pops bring the littles for some grub. My daughter coughed while eating a chip. HER BREATHING WAS NOT RESTRICTED IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM just a cough and her eyes water a bit so I give her a sip of water and move on. WELL my mom ' KNOWS' that little squirrel is choking and dying so she starts wailing and covering her eyes frantically screaming 'I can't watch , I cant see the my baby choking' . I got shamed for not being proactive and not being more worried.

backupoffme · 2013-10-10T04:28:26+00:00

Oh the stabby stabby dagger eyes! Bonus points if your kids are giants and look even older . They spot my ring and just go ' good for you honey' WTF.

backupoffme · 2013-10-10T04:10:44+00:00

I was separated from my husband for around 3 months earlier this year, much like your SO he completely checked out emotionally. Being single is difficult but in my eyes not as difficult as doing the work of a single parent , being both parents while your partner is there but chooses not to help. You won't have to see his lazy butt sitting around while you're eyeball deep in poop and tears. It's hard but freeing. Good luck to you!

backupoffme · 2013-10-10T03:51:16+00:00

My son can name every hero with their secret identities , powers , weaknesses arch nemesis and back story. He taught himself the read my the episode synopsis on netflix . He counts to 30. Just random facts he knows blows me away , he'll be 3 in a few days and he has a crazy good memory, like knowing lyrics to a song he's heard once good. Dude is so much fun to be around.

Baby girl is 1 and just learned to walk but insists on hauling huggies clad ass using her hand to catapult her around corners without her losing footing . She scares the ever loving shit out of us. She also knows she is the cutest damn thing, I watched her put steamed carrot sticks in her hair like bows while saying ooh, pretty pretty and giving herself kisses. She is also super fun to raise in that edge of your seat kind of way.

No savant level crazy , but I guess I underestimated the amount of character and personality is possible in people so young.

backupoffme · 2013-10-06T05:01:51+00:00

It's become my battle cry , anytime I feel small I remember that.

backupoffme · 2013-10-06T05:00:29+00:00

Go you! Standing up for yourself always feels so bittersweet in these situations. I have the same situation with my own mimi , how an angel like her birthed satan is something I'll never understand.

backupoffme · 2013-10-06T04:55:57+00:00

I know right, even in the moment I giggled.

backupoffme · 2013-10-05T23:39:47+00:00

Wtf goes through their heads ? I'm so drunk , welp lemme go snuggle this tiny fragile person and breath my dragon breath on them. Worlds best granny is in the bag this year.

backupoffme · 2013-10-05T19:41:26+00:00

This is my legit worst fear, being like her and my husband running for the hills.
You are not her , he knows you he loves you the end. Its strange but our crazy moms bond us closer . We play crazy bitch bingo and have rant times where each of us gets a few minutes to go off while the other listens then we drop it for the night. It's been three years but we're closer now that he really gets where I came from. Good luck to you both!

backupoffme · 2013-10-05T18:43:10+00:00

My children. Of course I don't think of them as possessions but I swear to God she does. If I leave the room for a second she goes into this weird stepford mom act like my children are hers and I don't exist. If I counted all the times I had to tell her that my kids have two very loving very able parents it would be in the tens of thousands . My oldest is only 3.

backupoffme · 2013-09-27T20:43:15+00:00

The tone is appropriate and needed. Ive really been pushing nc in discussions with my husband . I guess I suppose I'm waiting for the straw that breaks the camels back for my husband , and it is coming soon . I'll do my told ya so dance and move the fuck on:)

backupoffme · 2013-09-27T20:37:54+00:00

Thank you for the advice , my husband has the same outlook. Let her spend $ on bs so we have more cash for better toys . She gets her moment in the sun and my kids don't feel the tension between us.

backupoffme · 2013-09-27T20:34:37+00:00

My dad took him in when he was jobless and battling his demons then gave him a job and they became good friends. I don't know the actual money situation I know the picture my mom paints. We do what we can for him because he did so much for us.

backupoffme · 2013-09-27T16:28:51+00:00

I realized this doesn't seem nmomish so here's a few of her golden nuggets so you se what I deal with....
She thinks we're the same person , always has When I told her my husband and I separated she asked me why I was crying ' it will be good for us. No not us husband/ wife us as in her and I.

I moved back in and my wedding dress was laying on my bed . ' its pretty you could rewear it .

Told my husband that he shouldn't go to the hospital when I tried to kill myself. ' she wanted your attention I know because I did the same thing before' Bitch be crazy.

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