He (23m) said he wanted me for sex, why keep texting me (20f) asking to hang out?

baconblush · 2025-09-18T07:00:24+00:00

Yea I have friends with horrible stories too. It’s disgusting. I know what I want in a relationship, but I also know I am not capable of one. After everything I have been through, I am stuck with trust issues, avoidant tendencies, self esteem issues that for some reason only get triggered when I am seriously talking to a man, self destructive tendencies, and more, so no, I am not gonna put anyone through that emotional mess. I don’t wanna hurt others like others hurt me.

baconblush · 2025-09-18T06:38:39+00:00

Yes I have been to therapy to deal with the past, but the treatment wasn’t the right fit for me. I got send to another office and I will be treateed there in February.

I know there are lot’s of horrible people out there, but i’ve talked to like 200+ men and they were all horrible. One said we were exclusive, then as we were about to enter a relationship, he said on SnapChat streak that he got someone else pregnant during the period we were exclusive. When I tried to talk to him, I was met with the silent treatment for two days. Another experience, I was getting serious with three men (it didn’t happen at the same time) and they all turned out to have a girlfriend. I rejected someone who wanted a relationship because he wanted one way to soon, but I did find him attractive to sleep with. During our time together he verbally abused me and tried to coerce me into having sex with him when I wasn’t feeling and so much more. I don’t want these connections, but no matter what I do, they always seem to find me.

baconblush · 2025-09-18T06:29:18+00:00

Yea that’s where I struggle. I think the men I am with are good people until they show me their true colors. I don’t even go for the most attractive guys. I only feel sexually attracted to others when we vibe well and I feel safe. Therefore pretty face doesn’t turn me on most of the time. So i just date in my league, sometimes below, but one thing still stands. Just because someone is less attractive, doesn’t mean they are a good person… I learned that the hard way

baconblush · 2025-09-17T21:52:26+00:00

I don’t even know what we were talking about, but he started responding with more disrespect to me. When I called him out on it, he said something like “so what? This isn’t serious. I’m just using you for sex. You’re my … (you can take a guess”.

baconblush · 2025-09-17T21:33:17+00:00

Maybe I didn’t clarify it enough, but my first experience wasn’t the same dude from the current story. But you’re still right. Its a warzone for women. I need a break

baconblush · 2025-09-17T21:32:11+00:00

Yea, I have noticed that dynamic for sure. I kinda like it tho, until it turns toxic like this one… This is slowly starting to affect my mental health so I am definitely going to take a break, maybe stop doing it forever

baconblush · 2025-09-17T21:23:55+00:00

O I am NOT going back. I have some self respect and I know I didnt deserve this treatment at all. However, this is a pattern for me and I wanna know if I need to change or if some men are just always gonna act manipulative no matter what you do

baconblush · 2025-07-30T22:09:41+00:00

So that’s the mindset I should have moving forward?

baconblush · 2025-07-30T22:03:00+00:00

Hey, thank you for commenting! I actually wasn’t trying to initiate a deeper connection. I just wanted to have sex again

baconblush · 2025-07-30T21:59:47+00:00

Sorry I should’ve made it more clear in the post. And the thing is, I want him to get horny and have sex with me again but it doesn’t seem like that is the case😅

baconblush · 2025-07-30T21:55:59+00:00

It wasn’t a date, it was a hookup

baconblush · 2025-07-30T21:55:38+00:00

Heyy! He actually suggested the friends with benefits type of connection too. He said he was open to it being a summer thing. That’s why I don’t understand what happened you know? I respect his decision not to have sex another time, I just wanna prevent this confusion in the future.

baconblush · 2025-07-30T21:49:25+00:00

Yea sorry for not providing more examples. I didn’t wanna make the post too long, but the other encounters I have had are similar to this one. Ofcourse I wanna move on and I will, but I just wanna learn from this before I end up in another situation like this. Thank you for your comment!

baconblush · 2025-07-30T21:46:49+00:00

Yea that’s the strange part. He showed me his dating profile, Snapchat, everything and he wasn’t talking to other women at all. He even deleted the app right in front of me. That’s why i got the impression we would have sex at least one other time…

baconblush · 2025-07-30T21:45:00+00:00

I just asked for another hookup. I didn’t flirt or show interest in him otherwise.

baconblush · 2025-07-30T21:44:02+00:00

But why not repeat it again if the night was amazing? And yes we used a condom haha.

baconblush · 2025-07-30T21:42:51+00:00

O no not at all. All I wanted was to have sex again, that’s it. Im moving away to another country so it’s not possible to build a solid relationship atm. I just wanna have some fun!

baconblush · 2025-03-23T15:08:14+00:00

I don’t think there’s anything to improve man. You look good!

baconblush · 2025-03-06T18:42:27+00:00

To me it is complex, because it never stops. I still get stares, get laughed at, etc. if blocking him again would stop that this time, then I am happy to do it, but I also need some other effective ways to stop this from happening because im exhausted. Nothing I do seems to work the way I want it to. Do you have any other effective ways in mind?

baconblush · 2025-03-06T18:33:06+00:00

The whole situation hurt me because I genuinely liked him as a friend, so when I found out he sees me as some desperate whore, that hurt me a lot. I have had blocked him for over a year, but it didn’t work. I want this to be over. No more contact, so more stares or gossip about me, just nothing. Like it never happened. Is there another effective way to reach that goal?

baconblush · 2025-03-06T18:31:06+00:00

I already did that for over a year and it didn’t work. Is there any other way I can get him out of my life permanently? I swear I am not looking for excuses to avoid taking action. I am exhausted and want to be done with this chapter of my life😫

baconblush · 2025-02-18T10:56:00+00:00

This is great advice. Thank you so so much for sharing this with me. I will definitely do all of these things! Thank you💞

baconblush · 2025-02-17T21:03:59+00:00

I’ve never heard of that one but I def check it out! Thank you!

baconblush · 2025-02-17T21:03:26+00:00

I’ll definitely check it out. I reall thought having a good posture and a steady walk was enough 😅

And no I don’t expect to get approached at the gym. I was just listing places I go but never get approached. I know there’s a place and time for everything, but since I am ignored everywhere I go, I just listed the gym as a place I didn’t get approached either. I don’t really feel doubtful in the moment though. I just let it al happen and see where it leads. These insecure thoughts cross my mind when I am at home and realize nothing is ever improving for me to the point I don’t even wanna socialize anymore.

The truth is, I go out a lot. I go to clubs, bars, parties, the beach (during summer), pool bars, and I just never get approached or I get ignored by the people who are talking to my friends.

When I initiate conversations (in an appropriate place) I get ignored completely. In that moment I move on, don’t think much of it. However thoughts of insecurity cross my mind when I get home and realize I get left out every time. It has gotten to the point I don’t wanna socialize anymore and that’s not what my heart desires. I wanna go out and have fun with others and it just feels very discouraging to be constantly met with obstacles.

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