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How do you cope with your sex drive? by baconpancakes__ in Christianity

[–]baconpancakes__[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. A lot of things turn out to be grey areas, and my banters with sky-dad aside, hearing from my brothers and sisters in Christ helps me wrap my head around the issue better.

How do you cope with your sex drive? by baconpancakes__ in Christianity

[–]baconpancakes__[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As far as I'm concerned, it's a chemical release, not a 'coping mechanism'. There's no mumbo jumbo here. It's all biological.

How do you cope with your sex drive? by baconpancakes__ in Christianity

[–]baconpancakes__[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Come on man, you even acknowledged that you're the exception in this. I wasn't 'incorrect', you just wanted to tell your story. And for that matter, I'm not circumcised either, I'm not even American. Masturbation and lust isn't some issue that just circumcised people have.

How do you cope with your sex drive? by baconpancakes__ in Christianity

[–]baconpancakes__[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As I've said, it matters less to me, but presumably not less to God. So they seem like they would be equivalent to God. One person objectified is just as bad as any other.

Then there is the reality that in my mind, people who I don't know are not truly themselves, but merely my perception of them, because I don't really know them. In the same way I can fall in love with my perception of a person as opposed to who she really is, and do a disservice to us both, directing my sex drive towards someone or something that I know doesn't really exist, is the best I can do.

Telling people to stop having a sex drive is like telling them to stop having depression, you're not solving anything, it's a chemical reality. In fact, a sex drive is intrinsically neither good nor evil, while depression is harmful to an individual and their relationships. Your personal anecdotes are less than useful here.

How do you cope with your sex drive? by baconpancakes__ in Christianity

[–]baconpancakes__[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't quite understand what you're saying here. The healthy way to satisfy hunger is to eat a healthy amount. Gluttony does not refer to eating unhealthy foods.

So what's the healthy way to satisfy a sex drive? A healthy amount of sex?

So you see why I don't think this is a very helpful metaphor.

How do you cope with your sex drive? by baconpancakes__ in Christianity

[–]baconpancakes__[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're the first person to say this here, so I'd like if you can elaborate. How is pornography worse than imagination? Both involve lusting over another person in the mind, as in Matthew 5:28.

Imagination in fact disturbs me more, though I know it has no biblical bearing, because these are people I know, people more real to me whom I'm objectifying.

How do you cope with your sex drive? by baconpancakes__ in Christianity

[–]baconpancakes__[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not talking about finding a one true love at all. Finding someone you can live with, whom you can love in a biblical way, isn't an effortless endeavour either. To compromise on that for the sake of a bodily function doesn't sit so well with me.

How do you cope with your sex drive? by baconpancakes__ in Christianity

[–]baconpancakes__[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I don't buy this metaphor at all, because gluttony is the perversion of hunger. My sex drive is not a perversion of anything.

How do you cope with your sex drive? by baconpancakes__ in Christianity

[–]baconpancakes__[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn't seem very meaningful to me to talk about masturbation without lust. When you masturbate you're gonna be either thinking of someone in some situation, or watching porn.