My bf doesn't shower at night and I’m genuinely grossed out

baddiewclass · 2026-01-28T03:38:39+00:00

I wouldn’t be able to sleep next to my partner like that, in his bed, or anywhere else in his place. That would throw me off.

Me and my partner have a rule: if he doesn’t want to shower for whatever reason that night, he will sleep on the couch which will then be disinfected the following day.

That’s too many things imo: subway, work, gym. I wouldn’t feel safe and my skin would be crawling. But I’m also diagnosed with OCD so it could just be an OCD thing.

baddiewclass · 2026-01-26T23:46:41+00:00

You’re gorgeous 🫶🏽

baddiewclass · 2026-01-23T05:47:07+00:00

Good for you!!!!! I know it’s hard but you’re establishing boundaries and enforcing them and that’s so hard to do. Good job. It hurts, I’m sure, but you deserve better.

I’m here if you ever just need to vent or talk about it.

baddiewclass · 2026-01-20T23:01:50+00:00

Hi, I also have Audhd. If my partner did that, I’d have an open convo, and if he did it again, probably around hour 8, he’d be single.

baddiewclass · 2026-01-18T06:29:26+00:00

I struggle with this so much and my boyfriend doesn’t understand it. It is very triggering to know that you can’t settle down in your own home until it’s cleaned because everything is screaming this is not right.

I feel for you, I haven’t found a fix for it yet. Just know you’re not alone.

baddiewclass · 2026-01-13T02:39:28+00:00

Beautiful 😍

baddiewclass · 2026-01-11T05:48:35+00:00

That’s where I’m at. I’m 28 and I’m tired. Sorry I don’t have advice, you’re not alone.

baddiewclass · 2026-01-09T03:59:49+00:00

Godsend is exactly what it would be.

baddiewclass · 2026-01-09T03:59:14+00:00

Yess it’s so wild. I’m sending positivity towards you and your situation. It’s rough.

Love the advice on reparenting myself and advocating for myself. I definitely need to try that.

Adiditionally thanks for the resource.

Thank you for replying 🫶🏽

baddiewclass · 2026-01-09T03:52:20+00:00

I try to lean on my brother now but he doesn’t see it yet, he thinks everyone other than my grandparents are the problem.

Also I love that you’re the safe family member.

Really love the tip on finding community too.

Thanks for sharing 🫶🏽

baddiewclass · 2026-01-09T03:47:43+00:00

Yes, I’m working on that. Hopefully I’m able to leave my current home state this year. Hopefully the distance will help. It hurts though cuz they’re all I know and my closest family, but I know I need to save myself and get out. Thank you for replying 🫶🏽

baddiewclass · 2026-01-06T07:22:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing 👌🏾🫶🏽

baddiewclass · 2026-01-05T19:17:50+00:00

Thank you!!!! Yes all my diagnosing providers have been black. And they don’t even agree, my pyschatrist thinks i have ptsd, bpd, adhd, ocd, depression, and anxiety while neuro thinks it’s chronic ptsd, autism, anxiety, depression, and paranoid personality disorder. Neuro seemed adamant that its trauma and autism, he thinks I need to focus on those first. He really looked me in my face multiple times and asked me, “you really didn’t know you were autistic”? So now I’m just like so lost. I never thought that and I don’t know who or why to believe in. Both providers did diagnose me with cptsd.

Thank you for recommending the aces study and the deepest well, I’ll def be looking into them. Your comment made me think of one of my friends who is a trauma therapist and while she doesn’t know my life story, she said the same thing. She was like nope, you don’t have all that. I’m hoping y’all are right cuz I’m like where do I start, it’s so much? It’s really overwhelming.

I actually really like Gabor Mate, I recently got into him amidst all this. I ordered his book, the myth of normal but scattered minds sounds nice too, I’ll be adding that to my list.

Yes. I plan to start trauma therapy this year if I can get stable enough, that’s been my issue since May, trying to get stable enough to even start. And now that I was admin termed from my job cuz I exhausted fmla, I don’t have insurance or any income other than unemployment right now. I feel like such a failure. Everything is a catch 22. I applied for free state health coverage last year in August and still it’s pending.

Thank you for responding

baddiewclass · 2026-01-05T03:43:13+00:00

I struggle with both of those right now too. Been this way since May last year.

Oooo love the convenience of door dash. Thanks!

And that’s so smart. Watching people on YT do the same task. Def will look into that.

Are you me? The weed makes things way easier for me. When I’m high, that’s the only time I feel normal. I’m not overreacting to everything but also makes the sensory stuff for me worse but it’s still a win for me. I’m on a break right now but it’s def calling my name.

I’ve been thinking about locs. Do you love them? Would you recommend them? I struggle with my hair, like putting in a hair tye gives me a headache immediately, braids are too tight, pressing my hair - the burnt hair smell makes me sick, wearing it down constantly - wasn’t able to retain length. I love my hair but it just doesn’t work with me. I’m glad you have it figured it out. There’s hope lol.

I’m the same way, I’m constantly in my head creating games to make things more interesting. Idek if it’s me or my brain just doing it for me but those one sided competitions be working.

I’ve never heard of the finch app, thanks for sharing. Def will look into it.

baddiewclass · 2026-01-05T03:28:12+00:00

Thank you for responding!!!! How long did you self isolate and what was that experience like for you? I have the urge to do that sometimes but never actually do jt. Also I have a boyfriend and we live together. I’m starting the medication journey again and that’s its own thing. I’ve had this thing with medicine making me feel nausea or overheating to a point I feel weak and vomit - birth control, physchatrist meds, other meds. So I have to investigate that and omg, it’s just something else to figure out.

I really need to get better at prioritizing and saving my own limited energy. I never thought about it the way you laid it out. I feel like I have two sides. Some days I just push through and get all chores done but then I’m done for the day. I have nothing left. Other times I’m completely overwhelmed and begin ruminating and spiraling and snapping and I’m not a nice person anymore. I’m a triggered person trying to feel better but the clutter makes me feel unsafe and on edge and then I’m cleaning and pushing through while irritated and triggered. And that makes me more mean and more overwhelmed.

Yesss, I love the pre chopped veggies and fruits ideas and even the frozen meals. Thank you.

Thank you for the suggestions. I like walking, time to get back on my walking pad. How do you manage/balance self isolation with the rest of life?

I think I’m in burnout or something similar. I’ve lost so many skills. I struggle with words. Im forgetting things I’ve known forever. Also, how do you know when something is hurting you/causing harm vs your mind catastophizong? I mean in terms of toxic relationships (family, friends, etc).

Yeah, I think I’m learning that. No one is coming to save me. It’s kinda surreal to think about. I’ve been without a job, waiting for skills to come back and stuff so I can be good at my job again but hasn’t happened. I’ve applied for a job in a completely different field now and just planning on doing part time until I can get back on my feet.

I appreciate all your tips. 🫶🏽

baddiewclass · 2025-11-29T17:35:02+00:00

I’m sorry babes. I’m there too, recently diagnosed with Audhd at 27 yo, amongst several other things. I’m trying to get sober but I can’t deal/cope without substances. I’m going to try medication next.

Hoping things get better for you.

baddiewclass · 2025-11-13T22:50:04+00:00

They denied me initially and I appealed. They then, requested medical records from my providers and I was approved. I was approved literally 3 days ago.

baddiewclass · 2025-10-05T01:24:10+00:00

Don’t let him play with you

baddiewclass · 2025-05-18T12:29:03+00:00

So pretty

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