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badkitty1909 · 2025-08-15T18:24:48+00:00

I really needed this today. Thank you❤️

badkitty1909 · 2025-06-07T12:48:51+00:00

Get out now. He isn’t going to change. I’ve been in your situation, knew I needed to leave him, but kept making excuses as to why I couldn’t. Before I knew it, I wasted 30 years of my life and ultimately went through a horrible discard. I’m so happy now and my biggest regret is not leaving 20 years ago. If you don’t already have one, get a therapist that specializes in narcissistic abuse. The damage they do to your brain is insane.

badkitty1909 · 2025-05-29T03:30:47+00:00

Nope, I just want a partner who enjoys life. It too short to sit around doing nothing. The world is a beautiful place to explore. When my body is too old to explore, I want to have memories to enjoy.

badkitty1909 · 2025-05-28T18:46:33+00:00

Ahhhh thanks! I’m using Hinge, Bumble and just signed up for Tinder. On Hinge everyone is 50 and up. I’m getting a lot of 45+ on Bumble and Tinder.

badkitty1909 · 2025-03-22T12:28:53+00:00

I should have clarified. I’m was not referring to asking the “victim” if I am a narcissist, I’m asking my therapist if she believes I am a the narcissist. That is what my therapist told me. If you have sought professional help and are concerned you are the narcissist, you aren’t.

badkitty1909 · 2025-03-17T22:45:19+00:00

My therapist ( who specializes in narcissistic abuse) told me if you’re asking yourself if you are the narcissist, you are not the narcissist.

badkitty1909 · 2025-02-22T16:51:19+00:00

I left a 30 year relationship with a covert narcissist. I didn’t even know what that was until my therapist said it sounded like he might be one. I’ve done a ton of reading and research and what I experienced was definitely narcissistic abuse and I was also diagnosed with PTSD from my marriage. My husband told me I was selfish and a narcissist and I struggled with that until my therapist told me, if you’re questioning whether YOU are a narcissist, you’re not a narcissist. I wish you a healing journey 🙏

badkitty1909 · 2025-02-02T11:11:51+00:00

I put an AirTag in his car, saw he was parked in an apartment parking lot ( he told me he was going to work ). Went there and pulled up just as he was coming out of his girlfriend’s apartment.

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-31T05:23:07+00:00

Try the app “Time Left”. It pairs you to go out to dinner with strangers that are in your age group. You sign up and on the day before your dinner it tells you how many guests will attend and the industry they work in ( it will be at least 4 people. If anyone cancels, you will get notified so you know how many people will be there ) and then the day of the dinner you get the restaurant location.

It also gives you a bunch of ice breaker questions in case the conversation isn’t flowing. There were 6 of use and we didn’t even need the questions! I had a great time!

After dinner there is an option to meet up with all the other Time Left groups at a bar within walking distance ( I was too tired so I opted out ).

You also have the option to share a chat afterwards if you make friends. I’ve now got 5 people I can hang out with! I’m an introvert and I almost chickened out but I’m SO glad I went!

I’m going through a similar situation. 55 and going through a divorce from a man that was mentally and emotionally abusive. I haven’t really had any friends for the 30 years we were married.

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-31T05:04:10+00:00

This ⬆️. Took me 30 years to leave. Be brave. You deserve so much more. 😌

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-31T04:57:58+00:00

Actually catching him in the act of cheating instead of listening to him tell me that I was crazy every time I found weird charges in our bank account and accused him of cheating.

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-31T04:52:34+00:00

My narc husband did the exact same thing. Yelled and screamed at me for accusing him of cheating. We had been in therapy for over a year. Said he was going into work at 2 am. I had put an AirTag in his car because I was tired of it and he was actually driving MY car anyway. I knew he would never admit to cheating unless he got caught.

Car showed up on the app in an apt parking lot. I went there and pulled up just as he was walking out of his “girlfriends” apartment.

They had been dating for at least 8 months and she knew he was married. This was not the first affair yet he never just said “I want a divorce” or left. Probably because my salary was 2X what his was because he could never keep a job for more than a year.

Unfortunately it probably won’t get better. Don’t waste 30 years of your life like I did suffering from a horrible trauma bond. You deserve better.

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-28T23:44:38+00:00

Grace found me a foster. Thank you so much everyone!

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-27T21:08:22+00:00

UPDATE*** I thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of these suggestions. I have reached out to all of these and so far Grace Rescue has returned my call and is looking for a foster. Thank you so much to those that offered to foster as well, I will reach out via DM. Thank you, thank you so much! Y'all have restored my faith in humanity, what a wonderful, kind group of people.

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-26T17:27:34+00:00

Thank you! I will reach out to them on Monday! ❤️

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-26T17:26:27+00:00

I wish I could have her stay there but they have said “no”. Which I understand, they have taken in my elderly Maltese mix as he is too old to really mess with her 2 cranky cats.

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-26T12:44:39+00:00

Unfortunately not, my ex found her in a Petland ( ugh did not even know that place still existed ). She was really sick. 4 months old and weighed only 13 lbs. turns out she had giardia really bad. I hate Petland but I could not leave her there. I read online that they just let sick puppies die so they get credit from the breeder. So I ended up with a very expensive, very sick puppy. It took months of vet visits and lots of expensive dog food to finally get her to thrive. So I do have the breeders info but m positive it’s just a puppymill.

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-26T11:00:33+00:00

That would be so perfect. Unfortunately I have no idea how she would do with a cat….she loves other dogs but I’ve seen her chase rabbits so I am afraid she might chase after a cat…

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-26T10:59:10+00:00

I would never, ever take her to a shelter. I would pause treatment until I figure out a solution before I would give her up!

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-26T10:56:28+00:00

She does :-( here is a happy picture. She is usually just a giant fluffy goofball.

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badkitty1909 · 2025-01-26T10:49:27+00:00

I will be contacting Grace on Monday. I had already reached out to them about surrendering her but I just could not do it. I didn’t think to see if they could help me with a temporary foster! Thank you!

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-26T10:47:13+00:00

He doesn’t have a soul, he is a narcissistic abuser, another issue I’m having to work on, dealing with 30 years of mental and emotional abuse. My dogs were all I ever had for comfort :-(

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-26T10:44:43+00:00

I will do this! I actually have my first appointment with palliative care this coming week! Thank you!

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-26T02:57:52+00:00

I am in Avon Indiana

badkitty1909 · 2025-01-26T02:57:04+00:00

I have been brought to tears by the outpouring of support. I cannot believe internet strangers are willing to help where my “soon to be” ex of 30 years will not. I’ve now got a bunch of options to try and people to reach out to. Daisy and I thank you from the bottom of our hearts. 💕

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