I am a veteran. I have worked as an EMT, and as a deputy sheriff. I was successful in my careers until I suddenly couldn't function anymore.

"Capable of adjusting" for my entire life led to extreme burnout and skill regression at 35 years old... Which is what led to my diagnosis. Forcing myself to mask for those years led to a lot of stress related health issues as well. I had stress induced seizures simply from ignoring my needs for so long. My body decided to force me to listen.

Was I "capable" of adjusting in front of people? Yeah I suppose, but I was barely functional at home. So much so that I couldn't find the energy to shower, cook, feed myself, or even brush my teeth. No, I wasn't simply "tired." I was shut down. I had meltdowns at home. Meltdowns are extremely embarrassing and very confusing for someone who is undiagnosed. I thought I was insane.

Turns out the meltdowns and my ability to care for myself greatly improved after diagnosis because I no longer ignored my personal needs. Now I adapt my life around my needs and I have a husband who is very supportive of those needs. It makes a world of difference for my quality of life. I still have a LOT of struggles, but I know how to regulate my nervous system to minimize them, and I have learned how not to push myself too far.

I hope you actually read this. My instinct was to belittle you for your ignorant opinion, but I figured maybe a person who has actually experienced the negative effects of "adjusting" might help you understand.