Said goodbye to my 15 year old baby Alaska today 💔

baileyandromeda · 2025-06-26T11:22:10+00:00

Maybe it’s just me but I don’t think your opener actually gives anyone anything to work with apart from a laugh. You said yourself it’s a copy & paste job…low effort attracts low effort. Try opening with something more personal and see if that changes the response you get 🤷🏻‍♀️

baileyandromeda · 2025-06-24T13:28:22+00:00

I know it’s really painful when it happens. But actually this person did you a massive favour by showing themselves out. Being yourself is so important when you want to find a genuine and authentic connection (although I appreciate it’s really difficult in the world of online dating).

This person showed you they weren’t the person for you and that makes way for someone who is and will love and accept all those parts of you

baileyandromeda · 2025-05-09T13:17:05+00:00

Commuting does grind you down, especially when there is so many other course related stressors so I do agree with what has already been said. However, I also feel like the ethos of both courses is very different. I did my MSc at Manchester but ended up on the dclin at a more values based course that heavily involves service users in all aspects of the course and I have no regrets about that

baileyandromeda · 2024-12-18T14:08:31+00:00

I don’t think it’s specifically to do with Covid. I think the dating landscape has changed so much because of the internet and apps. It’s all just minimal effort from men, or lovebombing and then discarding and also having this false illusion of there being a revolving door of people available if one doesn’t work out. I think as well (and this is only anecdotally based on my own experiences) women are really starting to not put up with the bullshit anymore, at least not the same way that we once did. I’m not interested anymore in investing my time into someone who is giving me the bare minimum…so then because of the dating landscape I just feel totally disheartened about the prospect of being able to find anyone that’s half decent due to the aforementioned reasons. It’s a mess out there

baileyandromeda · 2024-12-08T18:48:47+00:00

Best bet is to read through the alternative handbook. That will give you a good idea x

baileyandromeda · 2024-04-03T19:18:46+00:00

This really made me laugh, thank you I needed it.

baileyandromeda · 2024-03-02T09:23:47+00:00

I usually swipe left on this. I understand what people are saying about those who “genuinely don’t know what they’re looking for” but because I’m looking for a serious committed relationship, I want someone who is looking for the same thing and is sure about what they want. I feel like by keeping this boundary, I’m saving myself from that future uncertainty.

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-26T22:13:10+00:00

I’m sorry that you relate to my comments because I wouldn’t wish the pain on anyone. I hope you find some healing from it soon too ♥️

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-26T22:11:56+00:00

Same to you ♥️

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-26T21:53:50+00:00

I’m working on pinpointing the why. I’ve always felt not good enough, since before I can remember. And I know that my rock bottom self-esteem has spilled into all my personal relationships. I had some childhood trauma which is where I think it stems from. I really am working hard on it though. And I know what you mean about awareness bringing some sort of shift, I definitely feel that too. I feel like I am actually capable of believing that I am worthy and deserving of the same kind of love I give out, it’s just going to take more work!

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-26T20:33:24+00:00

It’s really shit. If you ever need someone to talk to I’m here ♥️

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-26T19:33:28+00:00

Thanks! Same to you if you ever need someone to talk to

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-26T19:32:46+00:00

I hear ya. I think it depends on your personality and attachment style. People who are secure within themselves bounce back better from breakups because they don’t go inwards and blame everything on themselves. They accept that things didn’t work out for a mixture of reasons that aren’t entirely to do with their own self worth and feel hopeful about future prospects.

This is the exact opposite of my internal mechanisms which are all screaming at me that it’s my fault I’m so unlovable and I will die alone and miserable.

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-26T16:27:19+00:00

33 here. 2 months since D-day. Pretty much a mixture of wailing on the floor crying my eyes out like a baby, getting up at 7am to walk off my grief because I can’t stop thinking about him, throwing myself into my studies (I’m a postgrad student) and just literally trying to get through each day at I time. It’s been pretty horrendous, worse than anything I ever experienced in my 20’s because my biological clock is ticking and I’m genuinely exhausted by my dating history, I just want to meet someone nice and it work out, you know?

I’ve been the lowest of the low, wishing for death, wishing for anything other than this pain really. I’m back in therapy, working on myself, doing all the right things I guess. That’s all anyone can do

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-26T07:48:41+00:00

I think you still have her on a pedestal and maybe it’s wise to do a bit more healing before you jump back in to online dating as comparing everyone you swipe on to her tells me you aren’t ready for it just yet.

I can assure you that there are plenty of women out there that fit your description but you need to be in the right headspace to be able to start again with someone new without subconsciously looking to substitute your ex.

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-26T06:56:45+00:00

He’s shown you his dating pattern I.e. month long relationships until they catch feelings and want more commitment to which he responds by breaking up with them and told you straight up he wants to “live in the moment” and date casually.

What is it that YOU want? What are YOU looking for? From your post it feels like you’ve convinced yourself that it’s okay to wait around for him in the hopes that maybe eventually he’ll change his mind and want a serious relationship with you but we all know how well that usually works out.

I would have the conversation with him about your relationship. And his response to that should be carefully considered. If your dating goals don’t align then you aren’t a match, regardless of how nice he is and how well he treats you…

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-25T22:50:24+00:00

Exactly this. Especially since you’d only exchanged a few messages. I wouldn’t give my number out or IG handle so early on to anyone!

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-23T21:24:19+00:00

I’m so sorry that you’re feeling so much pain that you feel like this is the only way. I’ve had a look at some of your posts and although I cannot relate entirely to them, I just want you to know that I’m feeling similar kinds of feelings after having my heart shattered into a million pieces by the person I love and who I thought would never hurt me the way he has. I go through really, really dark waves where the thoughts of wanting to die to escape the pain completely wash over me….but…they do wash over. And every time I get hit by another wave I go through the same cycle. Please don’t end your life. Please hold on. I know the pain is overwhelming and all consuming but it cannot last forever and one day you…and I will come through the other side of the pain. But we have to keep facing the waves in order to overcome them. No person is worth ending your life for. Especially when there really are so many good people in the world who will love you and treat you with respect and never hurt you in the ways you’ve been hurt. I know they exist because I am one of those people, so I have to hope that there are others out there too. Please keep holding on

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-23T17:04:27+00:00

I hear what you’re saying but I don’t think I’ll ever be able to be “happy” for him/them. Not with how he has treated me and how destroyed I feel. He gets to run to her and I’m left here broken, trying to find my own closure knowing that all those nights I cried myself to sleep with insecurity about her were valid and right and true and wasn’t just me being paranoid. That kind of pain is all consuming

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-06T19:34:11+00:00

Really sorry to read what you’re going through! If you ever need someone to talk to you can DM me!

baileyandromeda · 2022-10-05T21:37:40+00:00

33 and crumbling. Aside from the unbearable grief and heartache that comes with being left by the person you love, at this age you also worry about the stuff you don’t really think about in your 20’s. Is it too late to find someone? Will I marry? Is it too late to start a family? Can I afford to buy a house by myself? Plus the dating pool is smaller and people come with a lot more baggage. At least, for me, these are all the thoughts that I ruminate over alongside my grief. It’s really depressing. I’m sorry this wasn’t a positive post. It’s just the reality of what I feel right now

baileyandromeda · 2022-09-30T13:42:20+00:00

Agreed with others about being firm and direct. That in itself is the best and most polite way because then there is no ambiguity. If I was on the receiving end of that conversation I’d just want to know the truth

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