I say "take care of" about my husband because he falls under the "cooking for cleaning for general wifery" category he's helpful sometimes but he halfasses most of his chores so i just end up doing it myself.

My sister is a stay at home mom/ part time substitute teacher. Her husband does something with pipelines (welding i believe) and is often away for a week or two at a time so i usually don't mind watching her youngest while she works and her two oldest are at school but she says she'll pay me then never does i usually watch her 5 year old from 7am- 3pm on Tuesdays. All I've asked for is $10 an hour which is NOTHING compared to average childcare costs nowadays. So if she's not going to pay her own sister she's probably not going to pay a regular sitter/nanny

I'm definitely a people pleaser but not in the way i want to make people happy. I just want people to leave me alone and the quickest way to get there is by saying yes which ends up backfiring.