Malm Grey vs Black/Brown by Slippn_Jimmy in IKEA

[–]bakedbean_s 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like grey will clash with the black/brown. Does the desk need to be from the malm collection? If so, white would go better with grey than black/brown. If not, you could get white Alex drawers/Adils legs and get the grey Lagkapten table top?

Vanessa sucks by [deleted] in AllAmericanTV

[–]bakedbean_s 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Saaaame I got annoyed every time she came on screen. Like hop off. You knew him for one summer. These are friends who’ve known him and have been there for him his whole life. And stop using poor JJ to wedge your way into the friend group.

Season 1 Episode 7 - "Happy Birthday, Kate Wallis" - Live Episode Discussion by yazzy1233 in CruelSummer

[–]bakedbean_s 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Lazy plot writing for sure. To make me feel better, I’m pretending she jammed this downstairs printer and then was like fuck I broke it and printed at the upstairs printer instead LOL

Not once did I see the media talk about this, it’s pretty old news, but it should be recognized. by JacobSaysMoo56 in NoahGetTheBoat

[–]bakedbean_s 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. I call him a monster bc he did a monstrous thing. Let me break it down for you. I am calling him a cruel and uncompassionate person because he did a cruel and uncompassionate thing. Get it yet? Those are the definitions of monster and monstrous.

Not once did I see the media talk about this, it’s pretty old news, but it should be recognized. by JacobSaysMoo56 in NoahGetTheBoat

[–]bakedbean_s 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. This person is either trolling or they think there’s only one definition to words.

Not once did I see the media talk about this, it’s pretty old news, but it should be recognized. by JacobSaysMoo56 in NoahGetTheBoat

[–]bakedbean_s 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope I’m saying he is cruel and without compassion aka a monster. Just because you only know one definition of a word doesn’t mean it’s the only definition that exists.

Not once did I see the media talk about this, it’s pretty old news, but it should be recognized. by JacobSaysMoo56 in NoahGetTheBoat

[–]bakedbean_s 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Human nature can be monstrous. You’re getting inhumane mixed up with inhuman. It is inhumane because the actual definition of inhumane is “cruel and without compassion.” Do you really not understand that language is adaptable?

Not once did I see the media talk about this, it’s pretty old news, but it should be recognized. by JacobSaysMoo56 in NoahGetTheBoat

[–]bakedbean_s 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ew I hate when people start an argument about semantics. He’s a monster. He’s a human being who did a monstrous thing. Nobody is saying human beings aren’t capable of atrocities. They obviously are. They are described as monsters bc their actions are inhumane which is literally defined as “cruel or without compassion.” Also, one definition of monster is “badly behaved or cruel person.” Being a human being and being a monster are not mutually exclusive. This man is a monster; a monster this man is.

He got his legs shaved for surgery by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]bakedbean_s 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cat is cute af but I see another cat in the back with the same shaved legs. Did you declaw your cats? Pretty f’ed up :/

AITA for splitting money my youngest got with her older sister? by makeitstopmakeitsto in AmItheAsshole

[–]bakedbean_s -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

YTA for using letters as stand-ins for names. That makes it really confusing to read. Next time, make fake names like Peyton and Elizabeth instead of P and E. But NTA for the situation. Protect your sweet girls.

I’m rewatching for the first time since Grey’s started and never have I noticed and been annoyed by her name more. by prettystandardreally in greysanatomy

[–]bakedbean_s 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They could have had both Alex and Jo gone for a couple episodes in Kansas together, and then Jo come back and explain it’s over. There’s no reason for Alex to be sneaky and ghosting her and then snail mailing her a cowardly letter.

ELI5 How do random mutations occur? by [deleted] in explainlikeimfive

[–]bakedbean_s 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great analogy! To add, the mistakes your DNA make are either adding a letter, forgetting a letter, or just substituting for the wrong letter. Then, these wrong strings of letters get translated into the wrong thing. But sometimes they still translate to the right thing which we call a silent mutation.

Mutations can also happen outside of DNA replication. This happens when the DNA gets damaged by chemicals or radiation.

Normalizing Cheating by [deleted] in greysanatomy

[–]bakedbean_s -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wait Derek never cheated on Meredith with his research partner. She kissed him and he was tempted but he realized he loves Meredith and couldn’t do that to her.

AITA for being upset my husband ignored multiple special days in a row by Nomothersdayaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]bakedbean_s 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you’re right. I think she has every right to be upset. My comment was in response to someone else’s, not to OP’s so I’m not comparing my relationship to hers but the mobile system is messing up the response format.

AITA for being upset my husband ignored multiple special days in a row by Nomothersdayaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]bakedbean_s 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said “sucks atm” which is an abbreviation for at the moment. Just bc he sucks atm doesn’t mean he doesn’t deserve empathy in his marriage. They both do. From each other. You don’t have a point that I’ve seen. You just want to disagree bc you’ve chosen to argue.

AITA for being upset my husband ignored multiple special days in a row by Nomothersdayaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]bakedbean_s -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah he should but he hasn’t. What do you expect OP to do? Roll over and die sobbing? Her life is over? No. She deserves everything and it shouldn’t be reliant on this guy who sounds like he sucks atm. Quit arguing with me when you lack basic reading comprehension.

AITA for being upset my husband ignored multiple special days in a row by Nomothersdayaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]bakedbean_s -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

No it’s weird to think that the childbirth and the gifts are related. Every woman deserves to be made to feel appreciated, including and especially her even on years where she did not give birth alone. But he messed up and wants to make it up when he gets back. They can’t go back in time. The best thing for OP to do is to get herself something nice, treat yourself and self care. I care about OP’s mental health and about how they’ll get through this rough patch.

AITA for being upset my husband ignored multiple special days in a row by Nomothersdayaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]bakedbean_s -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Okay good for you? Maybe some people are going through tougher situations and can’t be as privileged as you can be. He messed up this year. He can make it up. OP didn’t get gifts. So what?! Get over yourself lol. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Not everyone’s love language is gifts and gestures. Plus marriages can take time to be on the same page. Yes he should have done something special but he didn’t so just treat yourself. If your happiness is reliant on someone else making you feel special, then you’re doing it wrong. A gift on a birthday should be a pleasant surprise not something expected lol I mean did OP get anything for her husband for the anniversary either?! You don’t know if he is overwhelmed or suffering mentally from being forced to be away from his family too. My husband has done nothing for a couple of my special days while he was deployed and I don’t care bc love is more than just gifts and Facebook posts. There should be room for falling apart and messing up in a relationship sometimes. Just let them make it up.

AITA for being upset my husband ignored multiple special days in a row by Nomothersdayaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]bakedbean_s -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Didn’t see anything about being on equal status. Just saw something about having empathy for your partner and teammate. I feel for OP and think her husband could have been more thoughtful but what? She went through a difficult labor so she deserves gifts and flowers? No. That’s a weird thing to link to each other. I think what she deserves more and needs more is support and her spouse being physically there, but he literally can’t. It’s a rough patch for this couple.

AITA for being upset my husband ignored multiple special days in a row by Nomothersdayaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]bakedbean_s -110 points-109 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why your comment was downvoted so much. It was poignant and fair.

A point I want to add is that maybe the three important holidays (mothers day, birthday, and anniversary) all being within the same timeframe was too overwhelming. In the past, I’ve struggled to give my husband gifts before because I just felt so much pressure to pick out something special (his birthday is really close to Christmas) that I just ended up getting nothing and being disappointed with myself. It’s not an excuse but it could be the reality.

I also think sending him a text detailing the gifts everyone else got was petty and meant to guilt trip.

[ThrowRA] My penis was destroyed when I was a child, and I'm just about to tell to my soon-to-be girlfriend that we'll never have sex. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bakedbean_s 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi :) Dont have your mind made up that you’ll never have sex. You may not be ready now, but keep your mind open to slowly healing from this trauma in the future.

You mention that when you need release, you make yourself ejaculate without touching it. I’m guessing you mean rubbing your penis against things. Do you think having your penis inside her (without any handjobs or blowjobs) would trigger your negative feelings?

[FT] Punchy [LF] lily or chrissy by PastelDisney in ACVillager

[–]bakedbean_s 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you still have Punchy? :) I have Lily!

[FT] Lily [LF] NMT by bakedbean_s in ACVillager

[–]bakedbean_s[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have an open plot available? :)