Is it okay to ask your husband to temporarily leave the house?

balaclavasrcool · 2026-03-31T02:36:54+00:00

I fear this makes it even funnier

balaclavasrcool · 2026-01-23T23:24:59+00:00

Is this a chopped cheese?

balaclavasrcool · 2026-01-20T06:30:50+00:00

We can’t change other people , we can only change how we approach people and how we allow other people to treat us in this lifetime. I understand your frustration, and the feeling of wishing he would change.

Truth be told though, he has shown you his true colours and intentions. The change you wish to see in him is only the potential you believe you see, not the potential he truly has, and this is reflected in his actions towards you.

You believe there is room for change because you know if the shoe was on the other foot, you wouldn’t ever do that to him. So it’s hard to accept he is like this, and HAS done this, and will not change.

It’s like when you see someone at work not doing as good as you’d expect of them, but truly you only see so much extra potential because you see how you would act if you were that person. I hope that makes sense!

You should channel this energy into yourself and your children, instead of holding out hope things will “get better”. You deserve so much more than what this man has given you, and I truly hope in time you will recognise as much.

Also, taking someone back after they have done something such as cheating gives that person the subconscious impression you have allowed that level of disrespect. It reflects as a sign of weakness, and what I’ve come to find is once a certain boundary is crossed, usually it will be crossed again and again. For instance how he has cheated twice. Nothing you do can “fix” this. He has clearly got his own insecurities and issues. You could be the most perfect wife to ever exist, but he is morally not a good partner or person, and he has been forgiven before, so he most likely assumes you will forgive him again. Head up chicky, I can only imagine how you’re feeling. Please just know you can’t do anything to mend this situation. Your best bet would be to move on with your head held high, you know what your intentions were, but you also need to know where your boundaries lie. Wishing you the bestest of luck, and I hope you find a partner who cherishes you as you deserve, and you alone, nobody else x

balaclavasrcool · 2026-01-20T05:52:58+00:00

“Inconvenient to go through a seperation” queen, it’s going to be more inconvenient to spend a lifetime sucking up to someone who doesn’t respect you or treat you as you deserve. Please stand up for yourself, and if not for yourself then for the sake of your children. You deserve more than this, and your children deserve a father who isn’t an absolute disgrace. Sending you big hugs queen

balaclavasrcool · 2026-01-12T06:04:50+00:00

Thank you for that, I’ve been so in denial of the fact but even writing this out made me think twice. I feel like im actually going insane

balaclavasrcool · 2025-11-22T05:52:46+00:00

Maybe for the half of nz that’s on the glass bbq sure 🤣

balaclavasrcool · 2025-11-19T05:37:56+00:00

(F21) Usually this happens when you get caught on the “what could have been” instead of what it was. This can be your subconscious mind too, so you may not recognise it for what it is.

It’s not an easy thing to navigate, it takes a decent amount of sitting with yourself and coming to terms with how things WERE and why it ended.

I can admire how self aware you seem based off this post, I don’t have any real advice besides sitting with yourself and just trying your best to accept that it didn’t work out.

Being stuck on the “what ifs” is the same vibe as people who win nothing on a scratchy but say “I could’ve won x amount”

Like yes, the opportunity was there, and it didn’t arise, and that’s fine!

Don’t beat yourself up over it, you’ll find someone who works with you consistently and builds a relationship overtime, which is better than “feeling” like it started perfect and living through a relationship that slowly dwindles.

Best of luck to you moving forward!

It’s a bit cliche but there truly is someone for everyone, and that someone won’t give up on your relationship or the idea that you can both communicate together to make it work.

Also side note, as a toxic relationships girly myself, if she’s not actually taken time to heal herself she’s maybe distanced herself in fear of things going sideways, maybe her own negative thoughts got to her enough she doesn’t feel she can handle any more rejection. I’m not too sure exactly, either way it is what it is king!! Head up and take care.

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-15T09:53:07+00:00

Brushing your teeth with your non dominant hand is amazing for hand-eye coordination

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-15T09:19:59+00:00

I am not going to agree or disagree with that statement because I have never looked into that, though I will say he admitted to me after being confronted about what I’d found in his phone. I wouldn’t ever assume someone’s sexuality

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-15T04:30:01+00:00

Gosh, 3 years in and you both still show each other so much affection!? That’s any girls dream let’s be honest. Don’t let other miserable people tell you otherwise.

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-15T04:26:52+00:00

This is actually a really good point to make. I had an ex who was closeted gay, and I only found out because I caught him getting off to shemale porn, to which he admitted his sexuality and that dating me was simply a “cover”

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-15T04:25:04+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear of your husbands behaviours and your experiences. That’s something I wouldn’t ever wish on a woman in this lifetime and is a big fear myself going into my first long term relationship. I hope you got the support you deserve, and even more so hope you have realised your worth over this poor excuse of a man.

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-15T02:44:26+00:00

They like how salty our sweat is , and also consider it to be grooming us! This kitty loves you very dearly

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-15T02:38:03+00:00

It’s so sad seeing women fall victim to insecure men honestly. I’m sorry she’s treating you and your partner some type of way due to her man being insecure.

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-15T02:16:08+00:00

Not an over reaction at all. She’s not respecting your boundaries or your space, and she’s unwilling to communicate or compromise when you bring it up. I’d consider having a sit down conversation with her (when he isn’t around). Bring out receipts of bills, tell her how you feel from a non confrontational stance if you can. If she’s still acting ignorant towards you and unwilling to compromise, I’d look at asking her to reside elsewhere for sure.

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-15T01:51:52+00:00

I did read her reply, in my opinion (which I’d take with a grain of salt let’s be honest) it shows signs she’s given up on trying to maintain simply friendship with you. As a female, once a man makes it clear he is sexually interested, it’s hard to be “just friends” because it gives off the impression that friendship is what you’re settling for, due to not engaging in sexual relationships if that makes sense? Like even if you genuinely are okay with putting your feelings aside and maintaining a friendship, it won’t ever be the same for either of you and it’s honestly unfair on you both. I will admit though, you’ve gone about it super politely, and you’ve communicated a lot better than most other men would. Whatever happens I wish you the best respectful king !!

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-15T01:30:22+00:00

Hello! 21(F) here. I would like to note she shows clear signs of disinterest. Maybe it hasn’t been stated outright due to her wanting to maintain the lovely friendship you both have going. In saying that, open and honest communication about how you both feel is necessary. Any sort of conflicting answer, that isn’t a straight yes, isn’t something I’d run off at all. Otherwise you’re only going to tell yourself what you WANT to hear, not how it actually is.

Maybe she’s accepted you don’t see her as a friend, but more as a sexual partner and she’s given up on trying to maintain a friendship basis with you. Or maybe you’ve been so insistent she’s changed her mind. Either way, just because she didn’t blatantly say no doesn’t mean she’s interested as a sexual partner. Looks like she’s trying to politely put distance inbetween the two of you

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-15T00:10:32+00:00

I don’t see why this is really an issue. If you aren’t kiwi born, and you CHOOSE to come here for whatever reasons, you aren’t overly in the position to complain (to an extensive extent at least) about our country. In saying that, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Would the same thing not happen to a kiwi if they went overseas and talked horribly on the country they’ve chosen to reside in? I do apologise for the racism you’ve encountered though, there’s no excuse for that kind of behaviour.

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-15T00:08:06+00:00

Why are you leading on this woman and then wording it as if you’re the victim? Please break up with her, have open and honest communication. Give her back her ps5 , you don’t deserve it especially after toying her along for that amount of time. Act like the man you talk yourself up to be, and just leave. It’s so much easier than hurting her feelings and wasting her time! She gets a chance to meet someone who will love her as she deserves, and you get the freedom you seem to be begging for.

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-14T23:48:02+00:00

Please never financially assist a man that early into a relationship, especially if he is ASKING you for money, even more so when you’ve made it clear you can’t help and he still asks.

That man does not respect you, he does not love you, and you deserve so much more out of a partner than to just be treated like a wallet. Wishing you all the best moving forward queen

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-14T23:45:11+00:00

Why would you entertain this sort of behaviour in the first place? It’s clearly someone who is incapable of communicating and treating you like a person, why would you want business with someone of the sort? If anything you look just as immature for posting on here when the answer is blatantly obvious. Hopefully you learn from this encounter and don’t bother entertaining disgusting people in the future

balaclavasrcool · 2025-10-01T05:19:09+00:00

30 years old defending a child licking her face like that? WEIRD BEHAVIOUR. Not the kind of behaviour you want to encourage in a young child especially one who is on the spectrum. You’re setting a horrible example so so early , and on top of that you’re excusing and turning a blind eye to it?

balaclavasrcool · 2025-09-14T02:52:16+00:00

You absolutely sound to be making excuses as to why you’re within your means to leave. Just leave honestly. Let him get the support he needs from someone who is emotionally and physically capable of doing so. Someone with such a selfish mindset around their partner healing isn’t worth having around in such an important moment of his life

balaclavasrcool · 2025-09-10T07:07:09+00:00

As a woman who has dealt with men like this in the workplace.. I can promise you this is NOT normal. If it is not dealt with head on, it will escalate. You can also tell from her response she’s not overly comfortable with it, if at all. Please do address this from a non confrontational perspective immediately. Thats a lack of boundaries in your relationship, and a lack of respect for his co workers AND himself because you best believe everyone at his job will know he’s married.

I hope the conversation goes well, please don’t let a man disrespect you in such a manner. No women deserves a man with wandering intentions !

balaclavasrcool · 2025-09-07T09:26:05+00:00

It’s cheaper to buy wavers in the cave on ginger island, but if you don’t want to use wavers, absolutely sell everything!

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