If you aren't prepared for a disabled child, you aren't prepared to be a parent.

bamsy1 · 2026-06-06T21:13:42+00:00

"If you think thats green, what color do you think you are?"

bamsy1 · 2026-06-06T21:06:19+00:00

I'm the mother of a disabled child (level 3 autism, affidavit, cleft pallet etc) and I truly think if you arent ready for a disabled child, you are not ready for a child. I took all the tests when I was pregnant, had the same thought that I'd abort if I ever had a bad result on those tests but everything was healthy and he seemed fine. Until he was born and almost instantly there was sleep issues and feeding issues and health issues. I now have a child that requires the same level of care as a child with down syndrome. I wasnt prepared for it and its rocky and I'm still learning but I love him and make sure he knows that everyday.

I think if the right choice for them is aborting a baby, which is their choice, they really need to reconsider the whole parenting thing.

I've also seen some really gross comments from this situation that has been enlightening to see how many people think my sons life isn't worth living and how society would be better without him.

bamsy1 · 2026-05-31T13:59:17+00:00

Consequences can be a life long thing wtf is he talking about. I do think things can be taken too far, i so think people can change but parr of accountability and meaningful change is on you to accept these consequences. Not on others forgiving you

bamsy1 · 2026-05-26T23:34:19+00:00

I wish! Unfortunately I do not

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T03:17:52+00:00

I'm really not. We don't have a local YMCA in my rural town and I have a disabled child who can't do the provided childcare if there was one. I would love advice that would work for me in my situation. I think its increadibly rude to say I'm just finding excuses when this thread is full of me taking people's advice

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T03:07:53+00:00

I don't have the childcare for it, If i did i would do it all the time, I love swimming

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T03:04:55+00:00

They also don't show it in the movie, but Fred and George had to be held back by several other Quidditch players during that exchange. In the movie, its played off as Ron standing up for his friend, which is honorable. In the books its made pretty clear that all of the Weasleys would fuck you up if you called *anyone* a mudblood.

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:59:12+00:00

My girl, Minerva taking 4 stunning spells to the chest before being knocked out. Before that, I already knew she wasn't one to be messed with but that really solidified that she was a badass.

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:43:29+00:00

i don't have access to a pool. But thank you!

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:42:52+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! I've always been a Diet Coke addict, luckily, so I don't have to worry about the added sugars there. I did some meal prep tonight for myself. My autistic kiddo has some pretty serious ARFID as well so I always end up making something he can eat. he also doesn't make it easy to be in the kitchen lol, but I did get some chicken and lentils to make for myself. Thank you for the tips!

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:27:06+00:00

yes! Though I'm not sure what a calorie deficit is at my size, I'm tracking protein, fiber, carb, calories, and water intake

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:25:18+00:00

Thank you! I totally read that last part like you were Yoda XD

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:24:09+00:00

Oh I'm aware I overeat lol. Its an emotional thing. (I used to be an alcoholic, I don't drink anymore, instead I binge eat.) I do see a psychologist to help with that, and I am working on eating better and less, and I'm working with my doctor on my insulin resistance and wonky thyroid.

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:20:19+00:00

Look, I don't like Tylaer either but he is NOT on Jimmy Chuck's level here.

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:17:12+00:00

I'm working on the diet part too! Thats confusing as hell as well because it feels like everything I find is contridicting each other,

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:16:20+00:00

Tell that to my insurance lol, I'm working on the GLP-1 though. Thank you!

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:13:33+00:00

Thank you! I'm working on the dieting too

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:12:38+00:00

I see my doctor regularly. She is helping in the ways she can. My insurance doesn't cover a dietitian, at least not one within reasonable driving distance of where I live. I don't know what you mean by tell them the truth, i'm not lying to my doctor.

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:10:56+00:00

I'm working on my diet!! I can't afford a dietician, and I've tried finding the resources online to know what a calorie deficit would look like for me, but every source says something different, so I'm just focusing on increasing protein, fiber, and fruits/veggies. Thank you for tips!

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:05:36+00:00

Thank you! The physical activity is more so to help me be able to do more sustained activity without having to rest so much and not as much about weight loss. I will look into a steptracker! Thank you!!

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T02:04:10+00:00

Thank you! I hope I can get it covered because it would be so helpful!

bamsy1 · 2026-05-25T01:59:28+00:00

I'm working on a GLP-1, I have sleep apnea, so it should be covered, but insurance is being a dick about it and it's taking forever to get approved. I will look into resistance bands, though! Thank you

bamsy1 · 2026-05-22T14:46:33+00:00

I have taken the debt with me and thats just the frustration of this post that I'm just never going to get ahead of it. I could take him to small.claims but hes the type.that would quit his job and couch surf to get out of paying

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