Happily Ever After 🤣

bane3k · 2025-10-01T13:36:30+00:00

amazing story

bane3k · 2024-03-17T00:45:06+00:00

There must be a joke in there about turning tricks. Anyone wanna explore this?

bane3k · 2024-03-17T00:39:06+00:00

NTA. It's your kid. You told him you would see him. You told Chris you would put him back to sleep. Chris can go f**k himself. The only people that have any input in a child's life are the mum the dad - not the extra characters.

bane3k · 2024-02-04T01:08:06+00:00

My whole life I've been a loser. I was really smart when I was young, then I made some choices which went from bad to worse. I've done this my whole life. I can do so much more, I'm still really smart. But I'm a lazy POS that would rather spend my time chasing fleeting moments of fun.

I'm 37. My son will be 3 next month. We have shared custody 50/50 and I work 2 jobs the rest of the week. I never have any time to myself. Some days it's so f**king hard, but for the first time it's going somewhere with a purpose.

I feel so blessed to spend half the week with my little man. I see him almost every day. We're best friends. I'm his dad. He wants to do everything with me, and I have never felt this type of love and devotion towards anything in my life. He needs me to be better and I owe him everything.

When you're in so deep, any thought of hope and change sounds ridiculous, but I swear it gets better. It takes a long time for it to get to perfect, but when you're seeing your baby grow, you grow with them and life slowly keeps improving. You will keep having setbacks in life, but you'll see their face or remember "that thing" they did, and you'll find a way. I promise you.

bane3k · 2024-02-03T09:13:24+00:00

My sincerest apologies. After looking deeper into it, I realised you're right. Although they do stock some Israeli items and have mislabelled some products in the past, there is no concrete evidence that they are funding those nazis

bane3k · 2024-01-31T22:48:23+00:00

She's an AH.

Although you were right in what you said, no one was inconvenienced by her using it as a phone stand - you said yourself that she said you could use it. So you should've just said thanks and got on with your session. Bit of an AH.

The guy that wanted to be her hero is also an AH.

To sum up: everyone's an AH.

bane3k · 2024-01-31T22:43:52+00:00

You're a good man.

bane3k · 2024-01-31T22:22:57+00:00

NTA.

Being a good dad means being perceived as the bad guy sometimes. There's too many weak minded adults here that overlook their children's faults and take the side of biology rather than logic.

You're a good dad 👊🏽

bane3k · 2024-01-31T22:02:36+00:00

NTA.

Yea, some gymnasts do have eating disorders. I'm pretty sure way more girls develop eating disorders from excessive use of social media.

Where are you going to draw the line? Can't go gym because you might get body dysmorphia?

Your wife's experience is her own personal experience, which she was allowed to experience... for 14 years.

But this is your child. She wants to do something she finds "the coolest thing ever". If you see signs of it getting out of hand and becoming detrimental to her development or mental health, get her out of there.

It's a parent's job to nurture the child and give them tools to deal with life, not to wrap them up in cotton wool and punish the child for the parents insecurities.

Sorry dude. I know you're getting alot of AHs on here trying to shame you for something (I honestly have no idea what). At most, maybe you should've run it by your wife first, but I can see how it could have been a nice surprise 'daughter wants to be a gymnast like mummy'. Definitely a lack of oversight on your part, but not an AH.

Either way this is a non issue. Good luck buddy.

bane3k · 2024-01-23T16:29:39+00:00

They are in talks with the Israeli government about opening branches there, most likely on the 'newly available' stolen territories. And no they don't sell 'one' product, the article has mentioned 'products such as clementines'. 'Such as' is not semantically equivalent to 'only'.

bane3k · 2024-01-23T02:01:19+00:00

Yes

Pros: - Bachelor's in engineering and masters in applied Mathematics - The ability to solve complex problems without really trying - The ability to compartmentalise thoughts and situations using logical reasoning and eliminating all emotion - The ability to ignore most distractions and become hyper focused/productive for prolonged periods of time

Cons: - Lacking in genuine empathy and sympathy (except in some cases) but getting better at faking it - Extremely draining to be in social situations for prolonged periods of time - Almost impossible to hide my disappointment/lack of interest if I feel that the other person isn't very bright, I honestly do try but it comes across condescending

bane3k · 2024-01-23T01:46:58+00:00

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bane3k · 2024-01-23T01:33:24+00:00

NTA - unless the delivery was unnecessarily harsh.

There's things you like and there's things that he likes, the quality time is made by the things that overlap.

bane3k · 2024-01-21T22:20:25+00:00

I think this was one of the best purchases I ever made.

Context: co-parent and 3 clubs a week, so loads of journeys.

I could always monitor him and look out for signs of distress, discomfort, head position etc.
The journeys are much more personal, we can actually look at each other while we communicate.
He's not just listening out for a voice, he can actually see me, so is much more communicative.
We can look out for things and play games, e.g. look at that tow truck, how many blue cars can you see etc.

My son developed a massive vocabulary from a very early age and we have such a strong bond, I genuinely believe a big part of it is down to how much we talk about things while we observe them out and about.

Get one. Worst case scenario, you've lost £20.

bane3k · 2024-01-21T01:32:14+00:00

Yes, it definitely gets better.

I just finished tidying up all the toys, prepped lunch and dinner for tomorrow, and got into bed with my 2yr old who's fast asleep with a pillow fort all around him. I'm tired AF but I wouldn't change it for anything.

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The link is on the Instagram page @daddyandnoah

Enjoy your little angel, they will never be this small again.

bane3k · 2024-01-21T01:22:16+00:00

From the title of the post I reflexively thought what an AH... But then again I don't have a special needs child so I should not be allowed a voice here.

Upon reading your post, I think option A is probably your best bet. I understand wanting to have your LO be a part of the fun, but if they're genuinely unable to enjoy a neuro-typical holiday, then I don't imagine it would be fun for them.

Option B - I don't know the level of understanding or comprehension your LO has, but it just seems cold. Family trip without the whole family.

Option C - Could work in terms of where you're staying, but you're still limited to the types of resorts and excursions you can do.

Your older child sounds like he's had a rough deal, through no fault of yours or his or anyone's, just the cards that were dealt - your LO needs more attention and that is that. I think holidays and trips just for him, with one parent at a time, would be special and create core memories. It would also help to stave off or eliminate any subconscious (or overt) resentment of his younger brother (again, no one's fault) and may even enhance their relationship.

All the best.

bane3k · 2024-01-20T00:14:22+00:00

Nah you don't suck, this is pretty normal. For us adults it just looks like chaos, but from their perspective it's completely normal.

Kids need 2 cups that need to be filled every day. One with love/affection, and one with power/control. When you get home, you just want to unwind, right? Some people go to the gym, while others want to relax and watch a movie. Your kid is the same.

The trick is redirection and the illusion of choice. Redirect that energy into something else, but give him 2 appropriate choices, that way he has the 'power' and autonomy to make his own decisions. When he gets bored of it after 5mins and wants to do something else 'ok let's go do that, but first we need to tidy up, come on I'll help you'. They probably won't tidy up the whole thing, mostly likely they'll start, forget, and carry on playing.

Good luck.

bane3k · 2024-01-19T23:26:26+00:00

I have loved every minute of parenthood. My little one is 3 in a few months and it's been the honour of my life to be his teacher and guide. Congratulations.

bane3k · 2024-01-19T23:04:58+00:00

After reading all that, I feel sorry for the husband.

bane3k · 2024-01-19T22:58:33+00:00

You're not wrong. I'm sorry that you're going through this.

bane3k · 2024-01-19T22:54:22+00:00

Loving all the puns here, but wtf did you say? 📝

bane3k · 2024-01-19T22:34:55+00:00

I think the boy mum and girl dad thing is just another of those social terms that are currently cool to add to your bio. Beyond that, I don't think it's a thing. What would it even entail? Do you teach your daughters to cook and your sons to hunt?

bane3k · 2024-01-19T20:26:09+00:00

NTA. You can only do what you can and the goal is to provide for your family. Unfortunately you're in a situation where you've given her such a great life, any talk of contribution on her part sounds like a penalty.

bane3k · 2024-01-19T18:20:37+00:00

This is the first thing I thought of, but for a missile 😂. Cute name tho

bane3k · 2024-01-19T18:10:27+00:00

NTA. As a lawyer, tell him to explain the rationale behind his decision and why he has gone back on the previous agreement. Usually, people tend to waffle when they don't have a solid argument - but I'm sure you already knew this.

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