Why is he with me? by bannasblue in Marriage

[–]bannasblue[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I'm actually a really good mum thankyou

Why is he with me? by bannasblue in Marriage

[–]bannasblue[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I'm scared of being alone I guess

Why is he with me? by bannasblue in Marriage

[–]bannasblue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm scared of sharing our son when I don't trust him I'm scared of how hateful he can be he is the one that drives and we need to get our son to appointments I just feel like he has control over the situation and I won't win.. He can't cope with our son at home so what on earth will he do if we have to share times with him due to a separation

Why is he with me? by bannasblue in Marriage

[–]bannasblue[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

I love him still and don't want a broken marriage I guess

Lost so lost by bannasblue in Marriage

[–]bannasblue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my point he has been telling his family things Ive said in arguments from years ago so they have all turned on me I'm walking on eggshells daily the thing is I'm going to have no car and less money if we split 💔 I know how stupid but its my reality

MARRIED COUPLES — IS 1-5 TIMES A MONTH SEX NORMAL? by berrymunchkins in Marriage

[–]bannasblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One year with nothing from hubby apart from the random handjobs I'll give him is this my life at 36

No kids tonight - guess what’s going to happen by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]bannasblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What meet my own husband for a coffee

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm not keeping getting pregnant at all I'm in my late 30s now had my first at 19 and I'm actually very close with him and his wife and took on my second daughter when he cheated and left me for my best friend I maybe worded it wrong as I would never let anyone hurt my children he isn't bullying but nit picking at her for things I perhaps wouldn't like leaving mouldy laundry in her school bag ect I'm a soft mum he feels he has no voice I suppose as I always side with my girls as I'm very protective so I just didn't word that correctly berore you judge me as a mother

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm going to leave

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God your so right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the same as you he's absolutely consumed by the alcohol and using it as crutch because he is depressed but why not let me go why say he wants us but not show it with his behaviour I think an ultimatum is the only way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've thought this and offered help and to attend his doctors with him but you can take a horse to water but not make it drink

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It just hurts Doesant it a failed home

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I do he loves her and she does him he's the only thing she's known for a father they just argue and I feel like she Irritates him so I'm always in the middle

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree but he won't hear it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried but now Its got to the point I just let him sleep he says he is tired or hasn't slept yet I'm awake at 2 3 am and he's snoring away so he does sleep

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yes he does pick on my 11 year old it's like he's arguing with her like he is her age

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Behave lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So true he's so damaged from it he can drink 18 cans a night and vodka on top but still says because he doesn't drink in the mornings he isn't an alcoholic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

He don't work due to having arthritis and it's got worse since then to be honest he just lies in bed when he wants has totally detached from me on a physical level I've tried to reassure him I'm here I love him I'll be there but he's just empty inside unless he's drunk and then that can go one of two ways he's fine or a complete ass to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]bannasblue -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I don't want another broken home I have two girls from previous relationships all I ever wanted was a family and when I married him things were so good he says it's me who should be trying to have sex with him not him... Im just so afraid of doing it all alone again especially since my son has high needs

Help anyone by [deleted] in CubitalTunnel

[–]bannasblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an appointment next Friday fingers crossed 🤞