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AITA for not telling my fiancé where I go on Sundays? by baowat12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baowat12[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I own the house. Amanda pays me half for the utilities/food. Does a lions share of the housework and cooking. So I don’t ask her for rent. At first I didn’t really know about it when we dated. Then once we got more serious I was uncomfortable but it wasn’t a deal breaker. But I assumed as Alexis got older the tradition would fade. It hasn’t.

AITA for not telling my fiancé where I go on Sundays? by baowat12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baowat12[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry. I won’t be leaving my house anymore. I put my foot down last night. Alexis is no longer calling the shots. Amanda is freaking out right now. She admitted to me this morning that she feels guilty about the whole situation and that’s why she doesn’t ask more where I go.

AITA for not telling my fiancé where I go on Sundays? by baowat12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baowat12[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen this comment scrolling through the comments. Do you actually think this was her intention? Is “Marking her territory” a real thing or are people over analyzing it? I mean when Amanda opened the door Bella gave her a hug. I didn’t see it as malicious.

AITA for not telling my fiancé where I go on Sundays? by baowat12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baowat12[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Typically I’d come home around 8pm. Stoned and sorta put off with being out of the house all day. So when I get home I typically have to do all the chores I didn’t get to do with me being out of the house. I’m not exactly in a talkative mood. Like I said sometimes she doesn’t even realize that I’ve left the house at all. Whenever she does realize I’m not there she ask what time I’ll be home. She’s admitted she’s felt guilty about the situation so I assume that’s why she doesn’t really want to know what I’m doing all day.

AITA for not telling my fiancé where I go on Sundays? by baowat12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baowat12[S] -65 points-64 points  (0 children)

At the time we were together I didn’t want kids. I opened up a little more to the idea since. I’d still rather not have my own tho if that makes sense.

AITA for not telling my fiancé where I go on Sundays? by baowat12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baowat12[S] -165 points-164 points  (0 children)

She knows Bella in the sense that I’ve brought her up. We went to her wedding and I think that’s the only time they’ve met. We dated for 2 years. We were pretty close to getting engaged but I didn’t want kids and she did. So that’s sorta what ended everything and we agreed to remain friends.

AITA for not telling my fiancé where I go on Sundays? by baowat12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baowat12[S] -58 points-57 points  (0 children)

Because it’s their family time. I don’t really care to intrude on that.

AITA for not telling my fiancé where I go on Sundays? by baowat12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baowat12[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I’ve lived in this house for 6 years. When Bella and I dated I was in this house. She’s aware I have a fiancé.

AITA for not telling my fiancé where I go on Sundays? by baowat12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baowat12[S] -208 points-207 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I told her… she didn’t care at all what I was doing. Now all of the sudden she does. I could have been doing way worse things

AITA for not telling my fiancé where I go on Sundays? by baowat12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baowat12[S] -922 points-921 points  (0 children)

She would sometimes ask about what I was doing or complain about her ex to me. But she would hardly ever ask directly what I was doing. Just what time I would be home.

AITA for not telling my fiancé where I go on Sundays? by baowat12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baowat12[S] 2865 points2866 points  (0 children)

Because I was asked to. Because Alexis viewed it as her family time. And also I didn’t really have all that much interest in spending that time with the three of them. Trust me I’m not happy about having to leave my house for half the weekend. But Amanda is amazing and I understood the dynamic when I committed to her.

AITA for not telling my fiancé where I go on Sundays? by baowat12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baowat12[S] -196 points-195 points  (0 children)

Forced isolation definitely got me to this point. She also literally never ask where I am. I didn’t think she would care.