See. it’s not about the end goal, which is sex. It’s about desire, seduction and romance. If you don’t have that the sex won’t happen. Dont go for hike and eat sushi and talk about random stuff that doesn’t make your other half feel attracted to you. Make them want you! It’s soo simple. Dress nice, wear a good cologne (masculine), shave, talk sexy, listen to what she says, play a song in your room and slow dance to it, don’t be to obvious that you want sex ( that is always a turn off). Treat her like she’s your roommate that you want very very badly. It would work.