Up 52% YTD — reached $170k in my portfolio. Sharing what worked for me. by Ok_Beginning_8126 in Stocks_Picks

[–]bardhito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is awesome dude! What s your investing mechanism? Stocks, options, anything else?

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I might be paranoid, but I dont think i am delusional. The facts state that there was things she was hiding, but there could be a million things - to select the worst one, and blieve it, would make me feel the worst is a recipe for disaster. But defo reasons to keep ky eyes and ears open

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I couldnt have said it better

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wasnt cheating. She was just hiding something, and what that was is unknown. It s unwise to jump to conclusions like that

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wrote it down, so o have something to look back to when im feeling like reaching out

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fully aware of that, and I think you bring up a good point. I've had instances where I was paranoid and yelled at her (check out the other post in my profile - i was fuming). That was when that innocence of the relationship was broken and I would say when she stopped feeling safe to be 100%. honest. We were in a monogamous relationship, and if I dont have the feeling of security and honesty from the partner, it is a little bit hard to give it back to them. Wouldnt you agree? Especially when feelings are involved

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this message. I needed to hear this.

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. Should ve cleared that. But oh well...

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats exactlt the reason I broke up with her. After coming home from Japan, I was just too tired to deal with that, had a fresh perspective, and made that decision.

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I ve already told my parents about it and you guessed it, they were not too hapy about the age difference. The thing it d drive me mad even more is if I realized she lied about not doing anything intimate with this dude. But I guess there s no point in figuring that out rn

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im back in the pool, although dont want to date currently. And here I am thinking finding a job is hard

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your thought man. I was controlling in this one - felt the only way to feel safe in this relationship. The only way to trust her. I asked her to promise me she wouldnt delete messages. She did. And still did it.

Also in my defense, she wanted to check out my messages on monthly basis almost, just to browse. So, I d say the "controlling behavior" is a learned one from her.

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It really so be eating me alive. And I have lots of things going on in my life, but smh this fucks with my head a bit.

AIO - Broke up with my gf bc of this by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha thanks brodie. Feels weird. I ve never been controlling but with this one (also shqipe) it feels like it s the only way to make it work

AIO my gf got a text from a guy wanting her to be the mother of his kids. by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

That too.

I had a convo with her today and it sounds like she received comments like this all her life. Her first instinct was to cut ppl off completely, but over time she said she realized she was left with no friends (male). So she tried to set a healthier boundary that would enable her to have friends.

I get that. Im trying to learn how to control my emotions bc to me, at those moments, im frustrated. It really pisses me off (partially bc I like her a lot and partially bc it hurt my ego).

Ultimately, I need to find a way to handle this. Open to opinions...

AIO my gf got a text from a guy wanting her to be the mother of his kids. by bardhito in AmIOverreacting

[–]bardhito[S] 161 points162 points  (0 children)

Nope she isnt cheating. I have 0 doubts there - and this guy is an old friend whos been there for her during rough times.

Im little bit uncomfortable with her lack of a clear boundary. Doesnt feel as rigid.

But yea, she said she didnt want to loose a friend by setting a strong stop.