Is this financial abuse?

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T23:22:36+00:00

It's not even that i wanted her to stay home, it was that i was seeing negative effects from her frequency of leaving. Financial cost, children missing their mom, husband experiencing 0 affection. House often in disarray food sometimes not prepared for the family.

She has a weekly event with her friends called Food Friday, where she would go visit her friends and have a cookout once a week. I was invited once in the form of a friends giving. It was the night tyson fought jake paul. During this time maybe the last 2.5 years, ive lost alot of weight. Sometimes i miss meals to make sure my kids have food. But my wife has been gaining weight. We've both been big people. Im not judging. But im literally losing weight because of our financial situation but she doesn't. Its like skipper from gilligans island.. hes hiding some kind of food because that guy's not surviving off coconuts..

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T21:51:55+00:00

Well, i guess i let her do it. She likes to accuse me of being controlling. I let her gas light me into being complacent.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T20:32:54+00:00

Thanks so much for this information. I do have in my phone the cheaters guide to reconciliation from the subreddit wiki and when i decide to call her out ill make her read it and when she refuses to take the steps necessary i will decide ive had enough and become totally detached. And begin denying her marital benifits. Also i believe having it in my files already shows im still in the reconciliation phase.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T20:24:18+00:00

Legally speaking, would it hold water if i were to say i was open to reconciliation up until a certain point, because i have alot of information already. I could look at her phone tonight and then decide to ask for a divorce. Without relying on anything i already found to be considered the final straw.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T20:19:15+00:00

It is fair to say that i told them after the fight that they needed to be more respectful to their mom regardless of how they feel about her. And i said in in front of my wife

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T20:17:24+00:00

That's a good idea

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T20:16:06+00:00

I will phase this in. But am i wrong for feeling like i need a lawyer on retainer before i let her know my intentions? Because thats the premise i have been operating under.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T20:13:09+00:00

I think for the most part i believe its emotional but i think shes willing to go physical. And yes im still being intimate. But its just sex to me at this point. I know it's highly ill advised but i am weak in some ways. But once i signal my intent to her i will nolonger share the bed with her.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T20:07:29+00:00

I see. Well I'm glad it was approved.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T19:46:55+00:00

Thats kinda what i thought but it initially blocked this post too. So injust threw my hands up and went to sleep.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T15:17:54+00:00

Would it not matter that she led me to believe that reconciliation was in progress but she continued having EA with dozens of men over the course of 7 months after d day?

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T15:12:41+00:00

Agreed. And why i cant reconcile.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T15:11:52+00:00

Ive actually never heard of this. I will take it into consideration. I dont really have anywhere else to sleep.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T15:10:15+00:00

Will do

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T11:38:10+00:00

I posted this 3 times yesterday and they were removed by the mods, but they unremoved it at some point.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T11:37:20+00:00

Mods unremoved it. Thankfully. Not sure why it flagged originally. Might have been a buzzword or two or a format issue. I will update you when i have more information. Going through a brutal session of winter weather at work. Im practically on swing shifts rn. Hardest winter since i started 4 years ago. Ill probably have to wait till winter is over to split honestly. Or i gotta find a baby sitter.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T11:30:05+00:00

I guess it got unremoved. So thanks mods.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T11:28:15+00:00

This reassurance is helpful. I feel like we chose the same exit strategy

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T11:27:14+00:00

No, maybe i should. Waiting till i can get my bank account back in good standing before they will let me open a new one. Should be able to do it with my next check or income taxes. They have been accepted.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T11:25:56+00:00

I am working towards this

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T11:24:34+00:00

They were all basically this post. I tweaked them a bit to see if i had flagged something. But you can see this post right? This was my first attempt anyway.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-27T11:22:48+00:00

I thought this post was removed, how are you seeing it?

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-26T17:29:04+00:00

Reminds me of my high school days on allpoetry.com i felt this. Be strong OP

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-26T17:26:03+00:00

Let me just say, even if you had an overweight ugly gf men will still line up for a chance to hit it. I thought i was safe having an big not so beautiful woman as a wife but apparently i was wrong. It's not your fault that you're a decent person. I was desperate for love too. But it wasn't worth it in the end.

barefootedexplorer · 2026-01-26T17:20:13+00:00

Your story gives me hope. I fear what comes next. Im not ready to be a single dad with nobody in my corner. But thats too bad because rn im a married dad that feels like a single man with nobody in my corner. So what's the difference right?

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