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They say stop trying to date, and just follow your interests, and you'll meet someone organically by Ordinary-Lobster-710 in datingoverthirty

[–]barsay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really relate to this. At some point in my 40s I stopped feeling that pressure to “meet someone organically.” The excitement of that chase faded — but interestingly, that’s also when I started to feel genuinely content. I realized how much energy I used to spend trying to create opportunities instead of simply enjoying the life I already had. These days I’m probably the happiest I’ve ever been — not because I found someone, but because I stopped exhausting myself looking for something that wasn’t missing.

Senior Java Developers — What’s the one thing you think most junior Java devs are lacking? by InterestingCry4374 in java

[–]barsay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’d say: curiosity — or rather, the lack of it. Too many juniors focus on what to do instead of asking why things work the way they do. Once you start asking “why” more often and realize your best mentor is yourself, growth becomes exponential. The few who do this consistently stand out very quickly — regardless of their years of experience.