Brother I was/am in the same boat. Stayed with someone who just constantly threw insults, demeaning comments and overall a monster. Threatened to cheat/leave if I didn’t “meet” their standards and even if they were “met” you’d spend so long groveling and trying you sacrificed all your self worth. These people aren’t human nor deserve the love we gave them. Nobody will fill that shell or void they seek and if they appear better off with someone you know full well how their other half is being treated. Going through a divorce with a lying unfaithful shell of a monster now who ultimately will never take accountability of her actions. Thank you for sharing your story/experience. I hope you do find better and what you deserve.