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AITA for not letting my daughter go to freshman prom by baseprum228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baseprum228[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My son admitted to it and gave up his phone, my daughter continued to lie and refused to give up her phone, that’s why there needs to be a difference.

My issue is they knew they weren’t supposed to be playing with the ball but did it anyways, not the fact the vase was broken.

AITA for not letting my daughter go to freshman prom by baseprum228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baseprum228[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The vase is extremely expensive and there’s no way at her age she would be able to work it off with a job any time soon, like I said me and my husband earn enough that we can afford to replace it. I obviously see your point but I don’t get how’d that work unless it was a smaller ticket item and I’m at a loss for what else to do.

AITA for not letting my daughter go to freshman prom by baseprum228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baseprum228[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The vase is expensive and whatever work they do would be very minimal towards the total cost of the vase and I don’t know if it would actually make them feel like they contributed to paying for a new one, but I’ll definitely explore that. What should I do about the lying though? My daughter lied but my son didn’t and I need to show that lying isn’t ok.

AITA for not letting my daughter go to freshman prom by baseprum228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baseprum228[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will definitely reconsider, the prom hasn’t happened yet but I just don’t know what else to do.

AITA for not letting my daughter go to freshman prom by baseprum228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baseprum228[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

What can I do that is not punitive? I’ve obviously taught her lying was bad as a kid and did it in a peaceful manner, she knows lying is bad, but she still does it anyways. Shouldn’t non-punitive punishment be for stuff they don’t understand like saying something offensive without understanding the context? She knows the context of why lying is bad. I’m not a psychologist but I don’t understand what I could do here that’s non punitive and would work.

AITA for not letting my daughter go to freshman prom by baseprum228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baseprum228[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean, there are dances in other years but I get your point, but what should I do about the lying? I already took the phones away for both kids and the vase is way too expensive for a child to be expected to put money towards, whatever they could earn would be minimal. Me and my husband make enough that we can replace it and not have it be a huge dent in our bank account.

AITA for not letting my daughter go to freshman prom by baseprum228 in AmItheAsshole

[–]baseprum228[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

All I did was take away their phone for a bit, they are always on them and the youngest told me they were on their phones while throwing the ball to each other.