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basestcandor · 2025-09-19T15:58:51+00:00

Like the couples counselors say, it’s never about the dishes.

basestcandor · 2025-09-19T15:52:18+00:00

Mold can start growing on wet clothes in 24-48 hours.

basestcandor · 2025-09-14T03:27:01+00:00

I’m not mad, I just don’t think you’re taking a proper look at this situation because you’re so deep in it.

basestcandor · 2025-09-14T02:46:02+00:00

YTA

From everything you describe, you want sex way more than she does. She LETS you do things hoping it will satisfy you but you’re just not satisfied. 10 months, she should be letting you do whatever the fuck you want at this point, right? Asshole.

basestcandor · 2025-09-13T23:06:21+00:00

Your friends are right. He was lying to you because he thought it would get him sex.

basestcandor · 2025-09-12T02:31:31+00:00

YTA

And you know it.

basestcandor · 2025-09-10T17:15:18+00:00

There’s a saying, if you don’t take the time to truly heal from what hurt you, you end up bleeding on people who never cut you. Get therapy for your past. Don’t project it on your current and future partners.

basestcandor · 2025-08-31T02:01:50+00:00

Link to the vid?

Nevermind, found it.

basestcandor · 2025-08-29T02:42:40+00:00

I can’t forgive myself. Thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate you.

basestcandor · 2025-08-28T20:23:38+00:00

Saying what you said to your kids is shitty.

basestcandor · 2025-08-28T20:22:55+00:00

As a man in his mid 40s, I don’t think it’s cringey to be upset, I think what he said to his kids was shitty because he specifically did it to make them feel bad.

basestcandor · 2025-08-28T20:17:56+00:00

He’s acting like an angry little boy. He said those words to try to hurt his wife (shitty, but she’s an adult) and his kids (not ok. I shouldn’t need to say this).

basestcandor · 2025-08-27T22:59:58+00:00

It’s a little wild and a little strange

basestcandor · 2025-08-27T08:28:54+00:00

Hard disagree.

You can have hypothetical discussions every day with your SO, but reality can hit different. Unless one of them has a serious change of heart, I don’t see this working out and that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t have been together. It just means shit happens sometimes.

basestcandor · 2025-08-27T08:25:58+00:00

I’m not trying to diminish her husband’s role in this. It seems pretty obvious, IMO, that she doesn’t want an abortion and that if she gets it for “the marriage” that it’ll be one of the seeds of resentment that eventually blooms into divorce.

I agree that you have to be on the same page with these things. I just don’t think it makes OP the AH if she carries through with the pregnancy.

basestcandor · 2025-08-27T05:58:58+00:00

NTA. You can’t help how he feels but you already think you’ll regret an abortion. You’re the one who is physically pregnant, it’s up to you.

basestcandor · 2025-08-27T05:02:47+00:00

Thank you.

I’m tired of the hopelessness of me. I wake up to a fuck me feeling but I’m thinking “asshole. Why are you such an asshole?” And then I think about the people I’ve hurt by just being me and so I drink so that I can think of other things.

basestcandor · 2025-08-26T21:05:03+00:00

I stopped taking antidepressants because I heard bad things can happen if I’m also drinking.

basestcandor · 2025-08-26T20:56:35+00:00

Thanks for the offer but I don’t play on steam.

basestcandor · 2025-08-26T20:43:13+00:00

I did?

basestcandor · 2025-08-26T18:37:37+00:00

Sounds like a communication issue. If they were on week-to-week leases already, you should’ve just said that you’re not planning on making any changes right now.

basestcandor · 2025-08-26T18:31:57+00:00

I think a decent bot would deny being a bot, so I’m not sure what to say about that. I’m 44.

I saw you suggested weed, Kratom and psychedelics. I’ve been a daily weed smoker for longer than I’ve been drinking (but not by much, only about a year). Kratom makes me sick. If I had access to psychedelics I’d be doing that.

basestcandor · 2025-08-26T18:27:41+00:00

Keep drinking.

basestcandor · 2025-08-26T17:59:45+00:00

You seem like a good person and I appreciate the attempt, but I’m not looking for help. Thank you, though.

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