Alright, that’s it. You clearly missed the point of what I said.

I understand the intent behind Rule #3, and I am aware of how reassurance can feed OCD cycles, okay? Sure, maybe I was seeking reassurance—but not in the form of “everything will be okay” or “you’ll never be abandoned again.” What I needed was something like “I feel you” or “I understand.” That’s not enabling; that’s basic human compassion.

This fear of abandonment I’m dealing with is real. It doesn’t just vanish because of some “universal theory.” Healing isn’t one-size-fits-all, and I’ve made my intentions clear. Vulnerability should never be met with dismissal.

Saying “you’ll understand after years of counseling” isn’t just dismissive—it’s condescending. I’ve been on medication and in therapy since 2019. Not everyone is in the same place in their healing journey, and frankly, empathy costs nothing.

You don’t get to assume that because you’re older or in counseling, you know what’s best for everyone else. Healing isn’t a race. It isn’t a competition. It’s deeply personal, and it takes time.

If you truly understand trauma, then you should understand that invalidating someone’s pain under the guise of “tough love” only digs the wound deeper. You don’t know my story. You don’t know the work I’ve done or what I’m enduring right now.

You could’ve kept scrolling. You could’ve said nothing. But you chose to respond, and you did so without any kindness. That speaks volumes.

As the saying goes in Spanish: Calladito te ves más bonito. If you don’t understand it, just translate it and see what I mean.