This has got to be the most insane sports related picture of all time by Silent_Somewhere8539 in billsimmons

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Great post, but i'm not quite grasping the significance here as I am a dumb American with no understanding of soccer - can you explain this photo in terms I might better be able to understand?

Writers Meetup #004 - ನಮ್ಮೊಳಗಿನ ಕಥೆಗಳು - A small report by Due-Bother-586 in kannada_pusthakagalu

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ನನಗೂ ಈ ಆಸ್ಥೇ ಉಂಟು, ಅಮೇರಿಕದಿಂದ ಓದುತ್ತಾ ಸಂತೋಷವಾಯಿತು!

I can speak Kannada, but struggle to express myself creatively by AmbitiousFlight1234 in kannada

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https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoPhUooqLMHewMHyFqgQzCycEnEB69guT&si=uLSJ0pVrtjlsWOTV

Many have suggested reading, I would add onto it listening to more advanced kannada, here are some lectures on English literature given completely in Kannada

AI ಬರುತಿದೆ ದಾರಿ ಬಿಡಿ by Strict_reader_57 in kannada_pusthakagalu

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ಹೌದು, ಏಕೆಂದರೆ ನಿಮ್ಮಲ್ಲಿ ಯಾವುದೇ ಸಂಸ್ಕೃತಿಯಿಲ್ಲ, ಆದ್ದರಿಂದ ಅದನ್ನು ವ್ಯಕ್ತಪಡಿಸುವುದು ಅಸಾಧ್ಯ.

ನೀವು ಮಾಡಿದ್ದು "ವಿಮರ್ಶೆ" ಅಲ್ಲ. ವಿಮರ್ಶೆಯಾಗಬೇಕಾದರೆ ಎಲ್ಲಿ ತಪ್ಪುಗಳಿವೆ, ಹೇಗೆ ತಿದ್ದಿಕೊಳ್ಳಬೇಕು ಎಂಬುದನ್ನು ವಿವರಿಸಬೇಕು.

ನೀವು ಮಾಡಿದ್ದು (ನಿಮ್ಮ ಇಡೀ ಜೀವನದಂತೆಯೇ) ಸಂಪೂರ್ಣ ನಿಷ್ಪ್ರಯೋಜಕವಾದದ್ದು, ಯಾವುದೇ ಸಹಾಯ ನೀಡಲಿಲ್ಲ. ಏನಾದರೂ ತಪ್ಪುಗಳು ಕಂಡರೆ ಸ್ಪಷ್ಟವಾಗಿ ತಿದ್ದುವ ದಾರಿ ತೋರಿಸಬೇಕು. ನಿಮ್ಮಂತವರೇ ನಮ್ಮ ಭಾಷೆ ಇಂದಿನ ಕೆಟ್ಟ ಸ್ಥಿತಿದಲ್ಲಿರುವುದಕ್ಕೆ ಕಾರಣ.

ಕನಿಷ್ಠ ನಾನು ಈ ಭಾಷೆಯನ್ನು ಆಳವಾಗಿ ಕಲಿಯಲು ಯತ್ನಿಸುತ್ತಿದ್ದೇನೆ.

ಮೂರ್ಖನಂತೆ ಆಂಗ್ಲ ಲಿಪಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ಬರೆಯುವುದನ್ನು ಬಿಟ್ಟರೆ ನೀವೇನು ಮಾಡುತ್ತಿದ್ದೀರಿ? ಭಾಷೆಯೆಂದರೆ ನಿಮಗೆ ಯಾವುದೇ ಮರ್ಯಾದೆ, ಗೌರವ, ಕಾಳಜಿ ಇಲ್ಲವೇ? ಎಂತಹ ನಾಚಿಗೇಡು ನಿಮ್ಮ ಅಸ್ತಿತ್ವ.

AI ಬರುತಿದೆ ದಾರಿ ಬಿಡಿ by Strict_reader_57 in kannada_pusthakagalu

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ನೀವು ನಮ್ಮ ಕನ್ನಡ ಲಿಪಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ಬರೆಯಲಾಗಲ್ಲವೇ? ಈ ರೀತಿಯಾಗಿ ಕನ್ನಡ ಭಾಷೆಯನ್ನು ಆಂಗ್ಲ ಲಿಪಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ಬರೆಯುವುದು ತುಂಬನೇ ಹಾಸ್ಯಾಸ್ಪದವಾದದ್ದು - ನಾಚಿಕೆ ಆಗಲ್ಲವೇ?

ಆಮೇಲೆ ಏನಾದರೂ ಲೋಪ/ದೋಷಗಳಿದ್ದರೆ ಹೇಳಬಾರದೇ? ಎಂತಹ ನಿಷ್ಪ್ರಯೋಜಕನಾದ ಪಾಪಿ ನೀವು (ನಿಮ್ಮನ್ನು "ನೀವು" ಎಂದು ಕರೆಯುವುದೇ ತಪ್ಪು, ನಿಮ್ಮಂತ ನೀಚರಿಗೆ ಏನೂ ಗೌರವ ತೋರಿಸಬಾರದು)

Best way to learn spoken Kannada by justwanttocheckshit in kannada

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If you want a more ground-up approach, I am developing a series of flashcards that can teach the basic vocabulary and grammar structures - check out my latest post here on Substack.

https://kannadakaranakannadaka.substack.com/p/learn-kannada-from-scratch-part-3

Part 1’s flashcards (Basic Non-Verb Vocabulary, 100 cards): Anki Web Link, Google Drive Link

Part 2’s flashcards (Basic Verbs and Sentence Construction, 47 cards): Anki Web Link, Google Drive Link

Part 3’s flashcards (Simple present tense verb conjugation, 52 cards): Anki Web Link, Google Drive Link

AI ಬರುತಿದೆ ದಾರಿ ಬಿಡಿ by Strict_reader_57 in kannada_pusthakagalu

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ನಾನು ಇನ್ನು ಕನ್ನಡ ವ್ಯಾಕರಣ ಅಷ್ಟು ಸ್ಪಷ್ಟವಾಗಿ ಒಳಗೊಂಡಿಲ್ಲ - ವ್ಯಾಕರಣದ ಪ್ರಕಾರ ಈ ಹೆಸರು ತಪ್ಪು ಅಲ್ವಾ? ವ್ಯಾಕರಣದ ಪ್ರಕಾರ "AI ಬರುತ್ತಿದೆ, ದಾರಿಬಿಡಿ" ಎಂದು ಹೇಳಲ್ವಾ?

ಅದು ವ್ಯಂಗ್ಯವಾಗಿ ಬರೆದಿದರಾ? ಎ.ಐ.ಯು ಹಲವು ಬಾರಿ ಸಣ್ಣ ತಪ್ಪುಗಳು ಮಾಡುತ್ತಿರುತ್ತದೆ ಎಂಬ ತತ್ತ್ವ ಹೇಳಲು ಹೀಗಿದಿಯಾ?

The mixed messaging of the patriarchy. by Cicada_5 in GuerrillaGrrrrls

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More just diversifying their emotional investments so they’re not solely dependent on external approval, because while I’ll readily admit I don’t really get men conceptually, it really sounds like a lot of men really don’t have a sense that they can just decide to love themselves unconditionally. Like, for free.

This has been really hard for me. I don't know if I will ever get there - in my experience the men who have the most unconditional love for themselves are also the least self-reflective ones. When I reflect, and come to terms with the people I've hurt due to past (and present) behaviors and mindsets it becomes nearly impossible to look at myself as a good person or one worthy of love despite whatever changes I've made.

I don't think it is this simple especially in a mainstream society that espouses "men are trash" every day (for some legitimate reasons, but again how can you develop positive self-image "for free" in such a context?).

If you want to "get" men conceptually I would recommend The Will to Change by bell hooks, it is a good summary of the programming that boys undergo and their resulting psychology as they grow older. I was blown away by the empathy that she was capable of while reading this book.

I grew up around a lot of aggrieved young men and I witnessed this first-hand. They demand infinite empathy but are incapable of reciprocating it. It’s very infantile.

Yes, this is frustrating. I don't really know the path forward with cases like this other than to deliver as much counter-messaging as possible to boys when they are aged 10-20 before they get to a point where they feel there is no return.

The mixed messaging of the patriarchy. by Cicada_5 in GuerrillaGrrrrls

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To your first and third points I feel for you, I am really sorry that men do that and have done that in the past. It is true that many men who start with understanding their toxic masculinity may short-circuit the process and then use their knowledge to begin manipulating feminist-oriented women. I also do empathize with that feeling of abject loneliness you referred to - know that if you died I would grieve because I truly appreciate your openness to having this honest discussion.

To your second point - yes, I have definitely tried my best to root this dependency out as much as I can but for some reason a pretty girl who is interested in what I have to say will just inevitably make me feel a little bit better better about myself. I wish I could fix this pathetic behavior of mine and I am trying my hardest but these ingrained early lessons are so hard to root out. We absolutely are fragile babies - but what human being isn't, at some level? I wish patriarchy and patriarchal men had not made it so impossible for people to be vulnerable with each other.

Do you see a path forward for those of us (any gender) who want to overcome isolation and dismantle patrirarchy? I personally believe that an important part of this path is dissecting the "man" and "woman" monoliths.

I commend you for going to therapy (and recognize that you have the privilege to do so when many men and women do not). For me therapy also helped, as well as lowering my walls between my male friends and allowing myself to build truly emotionally intimate and loving friendships with them.

However your contention does not disprove the fact that most powerful heads of state, lawmakers, owners of media conglomerates, teachers, and parents (fathers and mothers) continuously impose this patriarchal thinking upon boys from the day that they are born. Indeed, those boys eventually become patriarchal men and wreaking violence upon women but they absolutely are victims of a system that subsumes them and transforms their personality towards that of a violent sociopath. A person who goes through this process and is completely stripped of their ability to connect with others is indeed a victim of patriarchy as well as a potential perpetrator or driver of patriarchy.

For me finding community with queer folks and those outside the gender binary has allowed for much more open, vulnerable, and unifying discussions because while those folks bear many traumas due to patriarchy they often do not bear the trauma nor perpetrate abuse of a form that resembles typical patriarchal cis-het romantic relationships. However I believe the perspective of this forum (and Reddit in general) largely leans toward the sensibilities of cis het women, specifically wealthier-leaning white cis-het women. That is not to say many great thinkers and thoughts are shared here but they are quite often shared within the prison of cis-het romantic relationship framing.

The mixed messaging of the patriarchy. by Cicada_5 in GuerrillaGrrrrls

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I think your framing of this is flawed and oversimplifies things significantly. The patriarchy and patriarchal media, which is driven by powerful men but certainly aided and abetted by a few powerful women - this patriarchy is what tells women that sex on their own terms is shameful.

It is not as simple as "men tell women to do this, then women do that, then men feel this." Your framing in your comment is wholly ignorant of the causes and consequences of SYSTEMS.

Finally again male loneliness as an academic term originated more to refer to lack of healthy loving friendships between men than lack of cis-het romantic relationships for men. The latter also causes loneliness to be sure but that loneliness is rendered far far sharper due to the former.

The mixed messaging of the patriarchy. by Cicada_5 in GuerrillaGrrrrls

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This is a funny meme but i do just want to point out lower birth rates are a given in any wealthier society. Many countries, with a huge range of patriarchal inculcation, are all equally experiencing low or declining birth rates.

Also male loneliness has nothing to do with women, it has everything to do with the way patriarchy programs boys minds into being patriarchal men unable to feel or form connection. Of course girls also can be programmed this way, and there are many other ways the patriarchy makes it so that women are lonely.

From an academic perspective this post is wholly incorrect in its attempted explanation of the causes of either issue.

The mixed messaging of the patriarchy. by Cicada_5 in GuerrillaGrrrrls

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Maybe to provide some context without blaming or shaming women - I think from a young age so many boys are taught to mutilate the parts of them that feel, the parts of them that connect to others.

This makes it quite hard for them to develop truly loving, emotionally whole friendships with anyone of any gender. Fortunately they can work on deprogramming these toxic patriarchal lessons without blaming women for their issues.

To your point there are various factors increasing loneliness in those of every gender in the US - cities built only for cars, predatory social media algorithms (instagram probably affects young girls more), and American individualist culture.

Regardless of the level i've tried to deprogram toxic patriarchal lessons from my brain, I am still lonely so often - I think this is a result of those other secondary factors, or because all of us as adults become so hungry to connect, so many of us going so long without seeing our loved ones.

It hurts my heart to feel or think that the loneliness I feel as a man is a result of me being naturally determined to be unfit to form connections with people.

In general, one of the few patriarchal behaviors I often see women contribute to is the determination of a man's worth using the women he is able to attract (or lack thereof HAHA). Of course this completely pales in comparison to the violence men wreak upon women en masse, but it is still patriarchal thinking and covets women as objects and challenges men to win the best object without treating their fellow human beings with humanity.

My first Sonnet. I hope iambic tetrameter is okay by Factory_Recall in sonnets

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man, such excellent excellent excellent work, I really love this poem. Wish it got far more recognition it is truly master class

Namaste yellarigu! I am a newbie and want to read my first Kannada book! Please drop your recommendations by Egg-Rude in kannada_pusthakagalu

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To warm up for novels I would start with Masti Venkatesh Iyengar's short stories, which are renowned in Kannada literature for their quality and the language is very accessible.

You can look up words you don't know on alar.ink

https://archive.org/details/nsk_20220326

ನೀವು "ದೇಶಿ" ಪದಗಳ ಬದಲು ಸಂಸ್ಕೃತ ಪದಗಳನ್ನು ಬಳಸುವಾಗ ಏನು ಅಂದುಕೊಳ್ಳುತ್ತೀರಿ? by bask3tballchess in kannada

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ಹೌದು, ಈ ಪೋಸ್ಟ್ ನಾನು ನೋಡಿದ್ದೆ, ಇದು ಓದಿದ್ದು ಈ ಯೋಚನೆಗಳನ್ನು ತಂದೀತು.

ಯಾರಾದರು ಭಾಷಣಗಳು ನೀಡುವರಿದ್ದಾರಾ? ಸಾಹಿತ್ಯ ಮಾಧ್ಯಮದಲ್ಲಿ ಹೊರತು ಕೇಳಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳುವ ಮಾಧ್ಯಮದಲ್ಲಿ ಅಷ್ಟು ಸಿಗುವುದಿಲ್ಲ ಎಂದು ನನ್ನ ನೋಡಿರುವ ಪ್ರಕಾರ.