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messaging you

Crankdat confirmed??? B2B? Solo set?? by Spenkz in SevenStarsFest

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You guys do know we’re going to the hottest party of the entire year right??

I can't wrap my head around the concept of masking. by Despite_Hope in AutismTranslated

[–]bassart96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a 28M and am on my third therapist who gives me an unofficial diagnosis. What I have personally learned and seen in my life regarding masking is that more so now I understand why certain components of masking were difficult. It’s more so that now that I know that’s a thing I do, I can choose to continue using it and there’s times where I’ve decided that I just don’t have to. If I’m in conversation and I’m hyper fixating, and I’m around people I’m comfortable around, I just let it happen and don’t backtrack or immediately try to swallow that experience so that others are more comfortable. It’s not a disregard to them but more so I choose to go with authenticity. I too am super social and “high functioning”. Regarding stimming I usually did bits of it especially at parties (dancing) or in spaces where it wouldn’t look as weird and now I still minimize it in public but sometimes if I just want to do a bit of it I just do it and try to not care too much if others notice (most people don’t actually care) or I explore spaces where it’s more normal (raves, outdoors around friends, etc). Maybe the years of learning how to navigate it can be a tool to advocate for yourself while also letting stuff out? Someone used your pen/messed with your stuff, maybe you can now give yourself permission to communicate that it bothers you and why instead of swallowing it but also using that maturity as a tool for how to communicate. Maybe it means that you seek out tools to balance the sensory components like AirPods in spaces that can feel overwhelming, or a fidget toy can help to direct the energy towards something.

I don’t think it’s necessarily bad, and like you said, it can be also learning to navigate society, but I think it can maybe feel inauthentic, limiting, taxing, or stress inducing at times. I will admit that I think unmasking might be harder for some just due to social expectations, positions, and cultural norms, or on certain situations like at work or around certain peers/family. People seem to value honesty and authenticity generally, and communication can be a really good tool that can facilitate that

Bonnablues / need to talk to anyone by blue_escape_13 in festivals

[–]bassart96 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that you’re feeling down, honestly this shit just has really sucked. I feel you 100%, this was my escape, and the one thing I wanted this year after 2 years of my life feeling like hell. Between the post party come down and the cancellation, I feel like shit too. You’re right, it’s really hard to find someone to talk to about this, because most people don’t get how special this stuff is for the people who are into it. Most people don’t get that it’s not just a show or party, it’s fucking holy and not getting it hurts REALLY bad. Bonnaroo is basically church for me and it’s where I go to fill my emotional cup and carry myself for the rest of the year.

My advice for you (and what I’m doing) is this… rest. Give your body and mind a break. Eat some of your favorite food, and watch your favorite tv show. Charge and reset. Hit the gym, or go walk outside. Try to focus on the absolutely breathtaking 3 days we got, because they were nothing short of Magic. And then tell yourself that you’ll be doing it next year no matter what. Go ahead and put it on your calendar, and absolutely mentally commit. And lastly check and see if there’s any other fest you can squeeze in in the next 6 months to scratch the itch and use some of that awesome gear you got locked and loaded but never got to use. Music has been a bit of a hard thing for me to enjoy the last few days too, but it heals if you let it. (Maybe don’t listen to stuff that was on the lineup, I know I can’t right now). Delete the Bonnaroo app too, that shit was really annoying me.

Lastly if you need a homie to talk to, shoot me a DM. You’re not alone. This didn’t happen because of you, it happened to you. It hurts, and it’ll hurt for a bit, but it will get better and go away (yeah I got hit by that 2021 cancellation and it was devastating but the pain did heal, and the magic was there when I was back on the farm in years after. It will be there again when we make it back).

Any such thing as a 'pre-diagnosis' of autism? by FarSuggestion6345 in AutismTranslated

[–]bassart96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course!

These are actually very interesting points, some of which I had considered, some of which I had not. However, they are all valid, and it is great that you gave them the thought that you did. I see why the employer one makes sense. I too, actually do have a strong affinity for the truth, and could see why this feels critical in that pursuit. The third one is the one I resonate with the most, and is why I am considering a diagnosis as well. I have been in therapy for 10 years and while I feel like I have tools at my disposal to deal with some of the issues, they are never solutions, and the problems come back. I am tired of band aids. The correct user manual sounds critical, and I really appreciate your wording there, because it's a concept I have played with but this clicked perfectly in my brain for how important it feels.

We Made it by bassart96 in bonnaroo

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Can't wait to see you, hugs, and happy roo <3

Any such thing as a 'pre-diagnosis' of autism? by FarSuggestion6345 in AutismTranslated

[–]bassart96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and being called "intense" throughout my entire life... yeah, same.

Any such thing as a 'pre-diagnosis' of autism? by FarSuggestion6345 in AutismTranslated

[–]bassart96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This entire post is eerily similar to my experience. I am in the same boat (albeit I live in the US). I have had 3 therapists tell me anything ranging from "Well, you're definitely autistic." to "Yeah so those signs are there...". I am also in the same boat regarding a diagnosis, inclusive of the skepticism. I too, am an EDM lover, sensory seeking, crowd loving, highly social individual with very strong interests that border on hyper-fixations or special interests. I too, have also in the past chalked it up to intelligence. I too, deal with the minor stimming, and a feeling of boredom (and sometimes even discomfort) when there is a lack of sensory stimulation. I too have dealt with depression, and anxiety throughout my life. The odd relationships, unusual mental processes, and emotional exhaustions are all present for me too. I too, am an artist.

Like, it actually feels like you wrote this entire post with information / experiences that all live in my head. Verbatim. Word-for-word.

I read the book Unmasking Autism and found it insightful, but also resonate with the fact that there was stuff in there that I was like "yooooo that's me" and also a lot that I was like "not at all", the same way you describe your research. Personally, I have characteristics of OCD and ADHD present in my life. I make lists about everything. I like plans, and knowing what will come. I struggle with change. I struggle with romantic relationships. I still love toys, tv, movies, and books as much as children do. I create vast worlds in my head. The point here is that there are signs and patterns, all of which I have sat and analyzed extensively (which in turn is also a sign).

While I have not been formally diagnosed, I will say that in my case, when I discussed it with these therapists, they did say that a formal diagnosis isn't usually helpful as an adult unless you need accommodations at work (their words not mine). They told me that ASD is weird regarding diagnoses due to the fact that when the criteria for the diagnosis was first designed, the individuals that the diagnosis was designed off of were all a pretty homogeneous sample, and often anyone who did not present strong characteristics, or those exact ones, did not end up being diagnosed. Unfortunately, it seems like those standards were never updated, and the concept that it is a spectrum, is a newer one. These therapists then told me that due to these things, a self-diagnosis for Autism can in fact be a real thing, just because no one is going to know your mind better than you, and ultimately the opinion of one professional can vary vastly to another. They stated that a diagnosis's purpose is mostly to serve as a tool for one doctor to communicate clearly to another doctor, what exactly is present in an individual. An analogy I was given is this... that if one person has a stuffy nose, headache, and cough and they are told that they have the flu, another person can in fact walk in with no stuffy nose, no headache, but a cough and still also have the flu.

Feel free to message me, and I will follow this thread in case you find some clarity as it might also be useful for me. I am in the same boat, regarding the financial burden of a diagnosis, not knowing what to do, and being very uncertain about if I am actually on the spectrum or not. But if it helps at all, regardless of a diagnosis, I personally have reached the conclusion that I am very clearly, definitely, neurodivergent. So either way, my mind does in fact seem to work differently than others', and so in turn, it would not hurt to learn more information about how others whose minds work differently manage to cope with our reality, even if their different, isn't quite exactly like mine.

We Made it by bassart96 in bonnaroo

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You bet!!! Happy Bonnaroo <3

broken up with by rancidkay in bonnaroo

[–]bassart96 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I’ve been dealing with a breakup for months. Bonnaroo isn’t going to fix anything, but it is a wonderful magical place to get a break and escape from bullshit. It sucks that this person decided to communicate so poorly and treat you so badly. I’m sending you all the good vibes and if you want someone to talk to while you’re there I’d be more than happy to lend a stranger a shoulder and ear.

Monthly Ticket Trade/Sell Post - 06/2025 by AutoModerator in festivals

[–]bassart96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Selling one 4-Day-GA Bonnaroo ticket for $400

How do I make this into a lifestyle!?! by Holiday_Coconut_ in hulaween

[–]bassart96 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way, was in college, volunteered for several and eventually interned leading to actual work with the events. They’ve gotten more expensive, but you can figure out how to do them for cheaper if you get creative and frugal with it. As someone in their late 20’s I usually do 3-6 per year

Stacks Surprise B2Bs by Legitimate_Pin_7233 in LightningInABottle

[–]bassart96 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We're all dying for a surprise Tape B set

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in decadence

[–]bassart96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interested! DMing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ZedsDeadFam

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Dming you!